A Pathetic, Yet Earnest, Request

[aakibar]

As corny as this is going to sound, be yourself. You can't try to make her fall in love with someone you aren't.

You are a genius follow his advice, don't trip, kiss her, good luck and don't screw up

 

[person427]

Load the die on the charisma che-oh this is real life?
Bad jokes aside, I agree with everyone else here. Go for it.

not one of these threads again, i mean seriously, for the love god. DO NOT USE THE INTERNET FOR DATING ADVICE!

Especially if you're not even on a dating site. Who would have thought there would be so many people asking for relationship advice on a gaming site?

 

[ryai458]

How old are you? This really affects the approptiateness of my response...

well he said ballet then dinner so im assuming 20+

 

[GHMonkey]

Fellow Escapists, I need advice. I have a friend whom I REALLY like: she is cute, funny, smart, witty, nerdy, loves video games and fantasy novels...essentially, if I were to imagine a PERFECT woman, she would be it. I asked her, and she agreed to go on a date with me! The only problem? The more we hang out, the more she says we feel "more friend-y, less couple-y," and thinks it will be the same after this date. We are planning on going to a ballet and dinner. Since my friends are all woefully inexperienced in this area, I turn to you: what can I do to win her heart? What can I do before, during, or after this date in order to facilitate her seeing me as more than a friend? I realize I am asking for romantic advice on the web, but I would truly appreciate any thoughtful answers.

right then, you have only one option my man: take her on that date and guess what? act like you don't care if she likes you or not, flirt with other girls, ask her oppinion on their asses, tease her, be playful and witty, be cocky but not arrogant, with any luck you'll get her, and if the still drops you in her friend zone then move on, it's her loss. rejection is a fact of life my friend, it happens to all men. exept the ones who lack the confidence to get out there and play the feild.

besides you're probably prescribing her atributes, some of which she doesn't have.


oh and for the record: MAKE A FUCKING MOVE ALREADY, NO WONDER SHE ASYS YOU'RE MORE LIKE A FIREWND IF YOU'RE NOT KISSING HER!!!! OR EVEN TRYING TO!!!!

damn dude, you are on the fucking ball dude. do what this guy says.

thanks, it's good to be recognised, i love that avater by the way, so funny =D

Nothing to it. just a tivo freeze. right back at you with the freakazoid bolt. lol

 

[infinisynth]

This is chick talk for you are too safe and not manly enough for me. You need to quit being so nerdy, step it up, and be assertive immediately or forget it. In case you are wondering, I am 28 and have had relationships with many attractive women.

 

[Warhobo]

Since I haven't given my advice yet(and BonsaiK doesn't seem to be answering my call) I think I'll give my two(not so common)sense(c wat I did thur?)on the subject. Kiss her, it's actually that simple. You kiss her you find out what she feels. It won't ruin your friendship unless you set about to ruin it. It sounds like you might though if you were to kiss her and it not go your way because you would be incapable of brushing it off and continuing as friends, bringing it up every now and again which would frustrate her making her annoyed at you, now that, would ruin your friendship. A simple kiss won't.

Kiss her, find out, then either get in a relationship with her or move on and be friends with her.

And also, 21!! Really??! Wow. I think that religious guy was right, Facebook(amongst other "social" networking sites)is killing our generations abilities to communicate face to face with fellow human beings, it's quite sad.

Want to know something funny? I don't use Facebook, MySpace, etc. I just haven't had many relationships. The plus side? I have yet to have a bad break-up, and have been able to stay friends with all of my exes (what IS the plural for ex, anyway?).

 

[CoffeeOfDoom]

Coming from a woman's point of view, I would say that you should just grab her hand or something while you're at the ballet; girls always want the guy to make the first move!

 

[tk1989]

Coming from a woman's point of view, I would say that you should just grab her hand or something while you're at the ballet; girls always want the guy to make the first move!

this

 

[ddon]

i say kiss her. either the outcome will be really good or really bad.

 

[orangebandguy]

Dump her ass. That's it. She's already thinking about it, isn't she?

Tell her she's absolutely right and that you are looking for something else, and that that something else is not her.

It's mean as hell but some would argue that it beats getting dumped.

On the upside, when you both grow up, and in the likely event that you don't morph into an asshole, she might find you somewhat more enticing.

I sense some truth in your harshness. I guess you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes.

 

[Necrofudge]

Give cake and eggs. Food stuffs and whatnot.

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

Since I haven't given my advice yet(and BonsaiK doesn't seem to be answering my call) I think I'll give my two(not so common)sense(c wat I did thur?)on the subject. Kiss her, it's actually that simple. You kiss her you find out what she feels. It won't ruin your friendship unless you set about to ruin it. It sounds like you might though if you were to kiss her and it not go your way because you would be incapable of brushing it off and continuing as friends, bringing it up every now and again which would frustrate her making her annoyed at you, now that, would ruin your friendship. A simple kiss won't.

Kiss her, find out, then either get in a relationship with her or move on and be friends with her.

And also, 21!! Really??! Wow. I think that religious guy was right, Facebook(amongst other "social" networking sites)is killing our generations abilities to communicate face to face with fellow human beings, it's quite sad.

Want to know something funny? I don't use Facebook, MySpace, etc. I just haven't had many relationships. The plus side? I have yet to have a bad break-up, and have been able to stay friends with all of my exes (what IS the plural for ex, anyway?).

That's not "funny" but ok. Neither have I, I've only had one, and I'm 20. It was a bad break up but now I'm over it.
Decided before I got into it though to work on me and to work on making friends and getting to know people and especially get good at talking to girls and "reading" them. It makes life so much easier when you can tell what a woman wants you to do, they always want you to make the first move period, you have to be confident enough to make that move, if you're not, she'll just find someone else who does have the balls to make that insignificant(in the grand scheme of a relationship)move.

This is not a dig at you(well it is indirectly, who am I kidding)but at just guys in general with these problems, make a move! You can't possbily get into a worse off position if you at least do something, then you won't be left thinking "what if" or kicking yourself because you didn't do something, I know this from experience, and I tell my friends and anyone who listen the same thing, but it never happens, and by then it's late. Women don't wait around.

Coming from a woman's point of view, I would say that you should just grab her hand or something while you're at the ballet; girls always want the guy to make the first move!

This 1000 times over.
I remember with my ex, we were walking to a friends house party and we weren't going out at this point but had been spending alot of time together. The walk was over an hour, she swung her arms as she was walking, I simply said "stop swinging your arms" and held her hand, held it for a few seconds then let go(testing the water as such even though I knew she liked me). She began to swing it again, again I held her hands(telling her it was annoying but obv in a joking way and teasing her at the same time)and let go, third time I held her hand and I left it there, our fingers interlaced and we held hands all the way there. We kissed once we got there(my first kiss)and we got together that night.

So go for it. Heck you've got another woman telling you that women like guys to make the first move, what more advice do you need? Really?

 

[IckleMissMayhem]

MAKE. A. MOVE.

Simple as.

 

[Murlin]

Continue on and wait until you see change in the situation. that's what i'd do

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

So your friends are inexperienced so you turn to the net... A gathering place of male virgins for advice on a chick... Definite "out of the frying pan into the fire" scenario.
Just grow some fething testicles and kiss her. Getting laid is not that damn hard.

It's alot easier than most people make it out to be.
Must definately teach my kids when I'm older to never be like this. I'd be quite disappointed if they couldn't at least talk to a girl by the time they're 12-13, or younger than that even.

 

[SteakHeart]

Flowers and Chocolates. Corny, but it works.

EDIT: Or show her this some other time, if you want to tell her that you want to tell her you actually love her, and that this isn't a "Friends-going-out-for-fun" thing: http://www.newgrounds.com/portal/view/515024

 

[MR T3D]

I can think of no other way.

This method has never failed me.

This is awesome, and a little bit of truth here, you SHOULD do something outrageous to convice her you're into more than friends