Have you had a frank discussion with him about that? I would kind of want to get that figured out if I hypothetically was inclined to be in such a situation. Seems like something I'd want to resolve in my own mind.Radoh said:I actually am in one right now, and apparently I'm super French because the other guy and myself get along quite well, being that we were friends long before the relationship.
The only real problem is I don't know what we equate to with each other in the relationship.
So, she's my girlfriend, and we're both her boyfriends, but what are the boyfriends to each other if they aren't dating?
I do believe you've missed the question, I mean what is the word for what we are to each other, not where do we stand with each other as that has been resolved a long time ago.Redlin5 said:I'm too monogamous and straight to consider such a relationship for myself. I don't see it as an evil for others though, just a decision that tends not to work out as expected for the most part. Love isn't an easy thing, I focus my devotion to one girl and expect the same concentration of passion coming right back at me.
Sex-wise? I don't want someone else touching my girlfriend. Period. So it wouldn't work.
Have you had a frank discussion with him about that? I would kind of want to get that figured out if I hypothetically was inclined to be in such a situation. Seems like something I'd want to resolve in my own mind.Radoh said:I actually am in one right now, and apparently I'm super French because the other guy and myself get along quite well, being that we were friends long before the relationship.
The only real problem is I don't know what we equate to with each other in the relationship.
So, she's my girlfriend, and we're both her boyfriends, but what are the boyfriends to each other if they aren't dating?
Swirl! Or one scoop of each on each of my three cones.game-lover said:But is there one that you're prone to eat more than the other? Or what if you can eat 3 ice cream cones today? You'll have to have one of those flavors twice compared to the other. Unless you just eat two. Which one is the first that comes to mind.
There's a reason, isn't it? That favoritism exists?
I didn't say you specifically. The thread in general has often focused on that. And, while I can no longer remember, I thought that you started by replying to my post to someone else. Hence why premises in that post would carry over to my replies.Dijkstra said:I haven't been bringing up physical pleasure at all.
If it doesn't have units, then how can you measure it? That's not me being a jerk - I really don't see how one can compare loves. I can't think of any time I've loved two people the same way. It's always different. Because of that, it would be very hard to actually compare them.Dijkstra said:It doesn't need standardized units for someone to love someone else more, so I don't know why you act like I said it did.
Thank you. And if I skew my questions (which is possible) it is unintentional. I guess I'm trying to explain how I feel, so I phrase things in a way that I can understand? Does that make sense?barbzilla said:I don't think you come off as Judgmental at all. I do think you want to skew the results of your question to suit your needs though. I think if you and your SO are prepared to try an extra partner, you should go for it by all means. I also think that this is one of the more common sexual fantasies that gets played out. For the couple that only do it once and a while and are only doing it for sex, they tend to be able to move through it with no issues. Now people who are in the situation I was in, they tend to break up. It becomes very difficult to keep an open mind when your significant other has an emotional attachment to another person.
What I'm saying at no point short of your body or life being endangered, is it ever legally or socially acceptable to attack someone. Even if they're a colossal douche hassling you. You leave, you do something else. Physical violence, not acceptable.BOOM headshot65 said:Snip
I'm talking worse case scenarios here. But it happens. I've seen plenty of facial trauma in ED from only only or two punches. They could fall and injure themself as a result of that punch. They could die at home "sleeping it off" from a bleed into their brain. Are you willing to take the risk?Holy shit! How hard do you think Im going to hit them if it even comes to that?! Worst case is they get a fat lip and a bloody nose. You can just sleep that off. As for the court thing, 'round these parts no one calls the cops unless unless its serious. You can fight out in the parking lot of the local bar for all they care and as long as no one is hospitalized they wont even show up.They'll end up in hospital with a base of skull fracture or worse dead. You'll be in civil or criminal court.
No shit, look at how many Australian State governments have scurried to try and get 'One Punch Assault' and 'One Punch Kill' laws put on the books this year... Dozens of young blokes every week around the country getting their faces put back together with titanium pins and plates... and every couple of months some poor young sod dies from a king-hit thrown by some gutless fuckhead.WolfThomas said:I've seen plenty of facial trauma in ED from only only or two punches.
True that. Someone being king-hit on King St was a regular weekend occurence at one stage. Seems to have quietened down a bit, but that could be due to less media coverage.RhombusHatesYou said:No shit, look at how many Australian State governments have scurried to try and get 'One Punch Assault' and 'One Punch Kill' laws put on the books this year... Dozens of young blokes every week around the country getting their faces put back together with titanium pins and plates... and every couple of months some poor young sod dies from a king-hit thrown by some gutless fuckhead.WolfThomas said:I've seen plenty of facial trauma in ED from only only or two punches.
Stands opposed to everything I believe in, and I would immediately vacate the relationship. I don't believe you can actually dedicate and devote romantic love to more than one person, and actually be dedicated. To date, I've seen nothing to prove me wrong. I have never seen an actual example of someone giving all of their love to two or more partners.chinangel said:I have recently entered a poly relationship with another girl and a boy, and while I'm quite happy, I am curious: would anyone else ever consider doing the same? Entering a 3 way relationship?7
Why or Why not? What are your views on it?
Captcha: It's Super Delicious.
Yes...yes it is <3
I haven't read through this whole thread to see if someone corrects your misconceptions yet, but in case they haven't... no, poly doesn't mean that all parties must all be sleeping with each other. Poly means that the parties have entered into a relationship that involves more than two people, and involves an ongoing love relationship (i.e. not just one night stands/swinging). I'm in an open marriage (we can have sex with other people), and I'd love to be in a poly situation but I definitely do *not* want threesomes of any kind whatsoever, nor do I want to be sexually involved in any other loving relationship my husband makes (though I would prefer the woman to at least be friend-compatible with me) nor want my husband sexually involved with any woman I'd get into a loving relationship with (though I would prefer her to be at least friend-compatible with my husband). I have a friend in a long-standing poly relationship, both she and her legal husband have other partners, but neither of their OSOs fuck the other person (nor do they sleep with each other).Bara_no_Hime said:**confused**BabyRaptor said:No, they're not....Yet. I'm trying, though.
Wait, so they're both have sex with you, but not with one another? And - checks profile to make sure - yup, you're female. Are both of them male and straight? That's the only reason I could think of to exclude themselves like that.