A question for the Ladies

[darktau21]

i have a serious question for you ladies.
i'm 21 years old and i have never had a girlfriend.
i'm very socially active and i ask girls out.
but to no avail. so i need to ask if i'm attractive or not.
i really don't want anyone being jerks i need an honest opinion.
i ask my friends but i don't know if they're just being nice.

this pick is about 4-5 months old.
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs045.snc4/34590_1541745426490_1320598066_31541955_4389477_n.jpg

Edit NEW PICK!!
http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn208/darktau21/P8280037.jpg

 

[dohteM]

Why did you ask the question with a recently created account? Get on with your real name and I might just ask my sister.

 

[darktau21]

well anyone i guess. i just want to know

 

[darktau21]

Why did you ask the question with a recently created account? Get on with your real name and I might just ask my sister.

this is my account and my only account.

 

[dohteM]

Asking that kind of question here is more inappropriate than going to Sudan with a dress made entirely out of food.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I'd say grow your hair out a bit, but you're kinda cute

 

[Haunted Herring]

I agree, a change of glasses would work.

 

[ShunningMonkey]

You want honest? You're not my type. And my boyfriend isn't a lot of other people's type. I'm not a lot of people's type. But there's someone out there just for you. It sounds cheesy, I know, but I believe in it 100%!
Suggestions? Get healthy, dude. You're not going to be looking for long if you don't take care of yourself, if you catch my drift, and if you can't take good care of yourself, how can you take care of a lady? I'm sure you've got a great personality, you sound like a nice enough guy. But it makes me sad when men, or anyone for that matter, can't or won't stay healthy. I don't want to put you down or depress you. But you're asking for an honest opinion, so here it is. Just get yourself in shape and you'll have a much better shot! It can be something small, like taking a walk every day. I'm starting to do the same thing. I take my dogs for longer walks now to keep myself in decent enough shape (hey, I love food, but I have to do something to balance it out).

Best of luck to you! I hope I helped give you a better perspective and an idea on where to start. Cheers!

And to Ultratrinkie: There are women on The Escapist. We're just hiding because we hate being mocked by men who think women can't use the internet.

 

[Kurokami]

i have a serious question for you ladies.
i'm 21 years old and i have never had a girlfriend.
i'm very socially active and i ask girls out.
but to no avail. so i need to ask if i'm attractive or not.
i really don't want anyone being jerks i need an honest opinion.
i ask my friends but i don't know if they're just being nice.

this pick is about 4-5 months old.
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs045.snc4/34590_1541745426490_1320598066_31541955_4389477_n.jpg

I think I see what the problem is here.

Please make your I's capital, thanks. =]

 

[HT_Black]

I think this question belongs here.

[sub][sub]But to tell you the truth, you'd better have one hell of a personality.[/sub][/sub]

 

[arsenicCatnip]

You want honest? You're not my type. And my boyfriend isn't a lot of other people's type. I'm not a lot of people's type. But there's someone out there just for you. It sounds cheesy, I know, but I believe in it 100%!
Suggestions? Get healthy, dude. You're not going to be looking for long if you don't take care of yourself, if you catch my drift, and if you can't take good care of yourself, how can you take care of a lady? I'm sure you've got a great personality, you sound like a nice enough guy. But it makes me sad when men, or anyone for that matter, can't or won't stay healthy. I don't want to put you down or depress you. But you're asking for an honest opinion, so here it is. Just get yourself in shape and you'll have a much better shot! It can be something small, like taking a walk every day. I'm starting to do the same thing. I take my dogs for longer walks now to keep myself in decent enough shape (hey, I love food, but I have to do something to balance it out).

Best of luck to you! I hope I helped give you a better perspective and an idea on where to start. Cheers!

And to Ultratrinkie: There are women on The Escapist. We're just hiding because we hate being mocked by men who think women can't use the internet.

I applaud you, sister.

 

[darktau21]

you're looking for women on the escapist? good luck pal, you'll need it.

Hello there.

i have a serious question for you ladies.
i'm 21 years old and i have never had a girlfriend.
i'm very socially active and i ask girls out.
but to no avail. so i need to ask if i'm attractive or not.
i really don't want anyone being jerks i need an honest opinion.
i ask my friends but i don't know if they're just being nice.

this pick is about 4-5 months old.
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs045.snc4/34590_1541745426490_1320598066_31541955_4389477_n.jpg

I'm demisexual, attractiveness means nothing to me so I can't answer accuratly..
I say you should get more attractive glasses though, try getting something for the spots and maybe try growing your hair long.

i took this picture with my camera like 5 min ago
http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn208/darktau21/P8280037.jpg

 

[child of lileth]

you're looking for women on the escapist? good luck pal, you'll need it.

You'd really be surprised.

OT: Anyway, I don't think you have anything to worry about. I'd probably trust what your friends say.

 

[ShunningMonkey]

Haha, I generally hide on XBL and just don't talk into my headset... I have a voice that is just a touch too deep for a woman, so people tend to think I'm a 15 year old boy... That's the only time I shut up. As for the rest of us? Honestly, I couldn't tell you. If I did, you'd instantly become a woman and an all-access pass would appear in your purse. But we wouldn't want that, now would we?

 

[Flying-Emu]

Grow the hair, maybe into a standard hipster cut. I know it sucks, but I think it'd look good on you.

Cardio might be a good thing to work on.

Other than that, I recommend finding colors that match your skin tone and blah blah.

Sorry, that's all the advice I can muster. I only let Federico (my gay side) out for a few minutes at a time.

 

[ShunningMonkey]

I'm so blunt I'm borderline brutal. And I only borderline when I'm feeling polite. Hmm... Borderline kinda sounds like Borderlands... Game Time, HOO!!

Thanks for the kudos, though!

 

[Jewrean]

i have a serious question for you ladies.
i'm 21 years old and i have never had a girlfriend.
i'm very socially active and i ask girls out.
but to no avail. so i need to ask if i'm attractive or not.
i really don't want anyone being jerks i need an honest opinion.
i ask my friends but i don't know if they're just being nice.

this pick is about 4-5 months old.
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs045.snc4/34590_1541745426490_1320598066_31541955_4389477_n.jpg

Your not alone dude. I'm slightly older (23) and have similar attributes to you. I make good money, have moved out of home, have my own car, make Dj music, write novels, and I've been told I'm "attractive". But I too have never had a girlfriend. Many of the people on here may have similar conundrums. But TBH, it will happen when it happens. Just keep actively looking and you never know. Besides, you shouldn't have to change how you look or think for someone. Just depends on how bad you want it. Me? I'm a stubborn prick who will never change anything about myself or anyone ever. And that's exactly why I'm single.

 

[darktau21]

Grow the hair, maybe into a standard hipster cut. I know it sucks, but I think it'd look good on you.

Cardio might be a good thing to work on.

Other than that, I recommend finding colors that match your skin tone and blah blah.

Sorry, that's all the advice I can muster. I only let Federico (my gay side) out for a few minutes at a time.

that's kinda hard because my hair grows into an afro.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Haha, I generally hide on XBL and just don't talk into my headset... I have a voice that is just a touch too deep for a woman, so people tend to think I'm a 15 year old boy... That's the only time I shut up. As for the rest of us? Honestly, I couldn't tell you. If I did, you'd instantly become a woman and an all-access pass would appear in your purse. But we wouldn't want that, now would we?

This is why most of us don't tell them we exist. Sorry, Twinkie.

Also, @OP: The second photo is MUCH better. ... actually, you look like a guy I used to date.

 

[Timotei]

*snip*

I am going to be hand-on-the-bible brutally honest here. So if you aren't willing to at least take a few lashings, I suggest you stop reading right now.

You are a bit lacking in the aesthetics department, but that immediately discount you as a candidate for a girlfriend. Because you may not be the most stupendous example of the male figure you're going to have to work very hard on making your personality what people find most attractive about you.

What you need to nail down then is two things first and foremost: self-esteem, and assertiveness. If you lack either one of these you skew your chances of success. We really don't mind a friendly or nervous personality from a man, so long as they show a sense of initiative and belief in themselves. As for assertiveness, you need to show you have some initiative. We like it when a man shows determination and dedication, but being too assertive or aggressive can be a turn-off. Being too nice or too friendly can get you pigeonholed into the "just friends" category, which I doubt you want.

Remember these few things and you'll be a little more prepared to storm the trenches.