Age gaps in relationships, how much is too much?

[Lenvoran]

Alright I don't normally bring threads back after a couple of hours but I just have to for this cause it was so perfect. I am from Washington too XD. While them dating is legal, if they were to have sex it would be illegal, as she is still considered a minor. Age of consent means that it is now their decision, not their parents, but because the age difference is 3, almost 4 years, its considered statutory rape.

Actually, for statutory rape, the difference in age must be greater than 60 months (5 years) once you hit the age of consent. So, it is entirely legal for a 16 year old to have sex with individuals up to 21 years of age. So they're relationship (and whatever that implies) is completely legal, though many would consider it somewhat weird.

 

[GrimTuesday]

Alright I don't normally bring threads back after a couple of hours but I just have to for this cause it was so perfect. I am from Washington too XD. While them dating is legal, if they were to have sex it would be illegal, as she is still considered a minor. Age of consent means that it is now their decision, not their parents, but because the age difference is 3, almost 4 years, its considered statutory rape.

Actually, for statutory rape, the difference in age must be greater than 60 months (5 years) once you hit the age of consent. So, it is entirely legal for a 16 year old to have sex with individuals up to 21 years of age. So they're relationship (and whatever that implies) is completely legal, though many would consider it somewhat weird.

Huh, well I guess you learn something new every day.

 

[Plurralbles]

Surprised no-one had posted this yet. Outside of that though think of the gap rather than the ages. Its just a 4 year gap, nothing too difficult.

well.. I did post the age/creepiness formula... I completely forgot XKCD even had a comic on the subject.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I don't think that's creepy at all... in the UK, 16 is the age of consent, so it's perfectly legal. Incredibly young and incredibly old would creep me out, I must admit.
I always stick by the fact you can't pick who you fall in love with, so it's pointless judging other peoples relationships because one day you might not be able to help your feelings and become involved in an age difference relationship, then others would be condemning you.

 

[BlueGlowstick]

If they have sex & one of the people is under 18, even if they consented, they can be arrested for statutory rape. But image if a cop dated a 16 yr old & asked for the parents consent to marry the girl. Is that wrong?? (my opinion: YES!! *ughhh!!*) This has happened before, believe it or not...

 

[MordinSolus]

Hm...I'd say he's too old for her. Mainly because there's the 4-year-gap with an under-the-age-of-18 member of the relationship.

 

[Biodeamon]

The biggest age gap in a relationship i could take would be 13 years between them until i start getting creeped out

 

[LHZA]

Have you never heard of the divide by 2 add 7 rule. The youngest person you are allowed to date is half your age plus seven years. So for a 20 year old (20/2)+ 7 = 17. So yah, just turning 16 is too young.

 

[Sealpower]

A friend of mine had a 23 year old boyfriend when she was 16... I found that rather wierd.

I would say at around 20 +-4 should be an acceptable range when you are in your early 20s

 

[IndianaJonny]

It's interesting to see how much the 'fraction of age gap' concerns people on this issue. A 19yr-old and a 13yr-old together are going to raise eyebrows yet I doubt if most people in their 30s would be as concerned about a 6 year gap between themselves and their own partner.

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

Well so long as they are both ok with it I don't see any problems... personally I don't feel age should affect how you feel about someone

 

[Hader]

The age gap really depends on the age group too. For high schoolers and teenagers, even a couple years can seem like a lot. For people in their 20s or 30s, a decade could be normal-ish.

It all depends on the person, though I am sure everyone has some sort of standard about an age gap.

 

[Mister Benoit]

I dunno, i've met a fair amount of women who've had boyfriends who were fairly older. Oddly this usually entails a female who is between 18-22 with men who are 30-36. Props to the men for cradle robbing and stealing youth from the young I guess.