Colour-Scientist said:
Ugh, I've known a similar reasoning which is just as messed up: `All men cheat, so I can cheat, all men cheat they're just better at it so if you don't think they're cheating you're wrong.`.
Bleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeugh.
The reason I bring it up is because I'm sure people convince themselves of both of these things so they can feel like they are ahead of the game and they wont be fooled like everyone else. As in- all men cheat so I'm not
really doing a bad thing by cheating on/with someone.
A way to protect themselves from getting hurt and excuse their shitty behaviour at the same time.
I've never cheated or been cheated on (been accused of cheating but that was bullshit).
I always think, if you are unhappy enough to cheat, you are unhappy enough to leave. So why not just leave?
Seems cowardly (Oh, and don't get me started on the people who go `Oh, yeah, it's terrible of me. I'm so awful. I'm gonna do it some more`- I do not cater to pity parties).
Does make me think, though- who do we consider worse?
The cheater (one in the relationship) or the cheatee (one they cheat with)?
I'd always blame the cheater more, because they made the commitment, but a lot of people just go for the cheatee.