I played vice city when i was like 8 and san andreas when i was 12, they were violent? sure but i had a great time playing them so i think he'll be ok.
Thanks for posting this. This post alone is enough to prove to me I would probably allow you to play GTA5 if you were 11. Your mind is clearly working where it needs to. Not because of what you said, but because of how you said it and nothing you said ruined it. (Try and figure that one out )nikolamat said:Depends on the maturity of the child. I myself am 13 years old and have played all of the GTA games after GTA 3 (including 5)and many other rated 18 games (many of them (including god of war) before I was 8), and I am not a homicidal maniac and nothing has really disturbed me in any of those games. For example, I felt bad for the person being tortured in GTA 5, but I did not curl up into a fetal position and cry for the next couple of weeks, nor did I feel that torturing people is good.
If fiction is your barometer for allowing an 11-year old to see content that is clearly inappropriate, at what point do you think it's OK to let your kids watch porn?CannibalCorpses said:...you are overreacting!
Let me put this as simply as i can...it's fiction. If you haven't taught your child the difference between fiction and reality then you are not a good parent. That isn't a statement about you but a statement to everyone who has children. Blaming real life violence on fictional violence is just an attempt to pass the blame of poor parenting onto someone else. Hiding children from fictional violence just makes real life violence far more traumatic...and let's face it, everyone ends up with real life violence at some point. If you haven't prepared your children for the real world then you are a fucking failure of a parent and should start pointing the finger at yourself rather than trying to blame everyone and everything else.
Hope that leaves no room for misinterpretation
If all you did was express your concern then of course you didn't go too far. I did the same thing to my sister when my nephew asked for GTA(though he is much younger than 11. He just thinks it's a racing game).Jessabi said:Hi guys,
So basically it was recently my nephew's 11th birthday and I was browsing the pictures my sister posted on Facebook of him opening his presents that morning. He's really into gaming at the moment, so he was gifted with a couple for his Xbox 360. One of the choices?
Grand Theft Auto V. A couple of things sprung to mind when I saw my nephew holding the box - namely the torture segment which you have actively play through in the single player campaign and the lap dance minigame. And of course, the usual content you would expect from a Grand Theft Auto title. I found myself feeling very troubled at the idea of him playing it.
I expressed my concern to my sister who in turn gave the whole "I know exactly what's in the game and I'm happy for him to play it, all his friends are playing". For one thing, I highly doubt my sister knows much about the content. Just last year she was asking my boyfriend about GTA:IV because my nephew wanted that one, and he advised her that it was probably unsuitable for a 10 year old (which he was at that time). The fact that she wasn't aware of the sort of content that's in a well known franchise like Grand Theft Auto then doesn't inspire me with confidence that she knows more now.
Also, just because his friends are playing it shouldn't make it ok. You shouldn't be afraid to be the "bad guy" parent just because it will make you unpopular for a few days. But at the same time I know what it's like to want to join in on things with your friends and the likelihood is that he's begged her for the game simply because his friends have it.
So am I overreacting? I probably wouldn't have batted an eye if he was mid teens (depending on his mental maturity), but ELEVEN? It just seems so young for a game like that. At the end of the day, she's his mother and (apparently) knows what's best but I couldn't see myself giving a child of mine a game I know is full of strong adult content when they're not even a teenager yet.
(I'd like to point out that I'm in no way bashing GTA:V. Both me and my boyfriend have played it extensively and enjoyed it a lot - but we're both 21. It's an 18 certification (in the UK) for a very good reason in my opinion)
TLDR: My sister bought my 11 year old nephew GTA:V for his birthday and I think it's unsuitable for someone that young. Thoughts?
The thing about this is if his friends have it there's a pretty good chance he's already played it. If she didn't buy him the game it wouldn't stop him from playing the game, he just wouldn't be able to play it conveniently. If he can play it whenever he wants he'll get bored of it and in a month or two it'll be nothing special. If he has to go to his friend's house to play it and then he cant have it himself then it would be a bigger deal to him than it probably would be otherwise. I pretty much was that kid when I was like 12 or something, and I pretty much thought the only things that made games or movies good or fun was blood gore guts and killing people, and put all these retrospectively shitty games on a pedestal just because I didn't get to play them enough to get tired of them.Jessabi said:Also, just because his friends are playing it shouldn't make it ok. You shouldn't be afraid to be the "bad guy" parent just because it will make you unpopular for a few days. But at the same time I know what it's like to want to join in on things with your friends and the likelihood is that he's begged her for the game simply because his friends have it.
So tell her explicitly what's in it. Mention the torture scenes, full frontal male nudity, hell, most of the worst stuff is on youtube.Jessabi said:TLDR: My sister bought my 11 year old nephew GTA:V for his birthday and I think it's unsuitable for someone that young. Thoughts?
Well, to answer it bluntly no, it's not an over reaction.Jessabi said:snip
So make her aware. Tell her about the graphic torture scene. That seems to be the big deal breaker for most people.Jessabi said:H
I expressed my concern to my sister who in turn gave the whole "I know exactly what's in the game and I'm happy for him to play it, all his friends are playing". For one thing, I highly doubt my sister knows much about the content.
Not from what you've mentioned.So am I overreacting?
Or, you know, that the kid might be disturbed or something. I think you're assuming an awful lot out of convenience.krazykidd said:10$ says that you're nephew plays the game, enjoys it and DOES NOT go on a murder spree ( which i think you are implying may happen).
It's not really misrepresented. The second part wasn't really relevant to the idea. But since we're going there, a parent thinking their kid can handle it because of lack of information is in no way indicative of either an informed decision or the capacity of the kid. It seems people are assuming that the parents are informed and knowledgeable about their kid despite the only info we have saying otherwise. Now, it's possible Jessabi isn't telling the truth (not saying she is), but we have absolutely no information to support that stance.TheKasp said:The good ol' "lets take a part of his post out to misrepresent his point".
The problem is, the argument isn't any better just because it's a blurrier line. The "I did it and I'm fine" argument is inane to begin with. Nobody's saying games are as bad as cigarettes, or even that they're bad (on here, anyway--apparently, video games are worse than guns, porn and pot in the eyes of some). The point is about the failure of the reasoning.Maximum Bert said:Well cigarettes are proven to damage your health nowadays they should have kept em like they were back in the old days when they were good for you. Inappropriate content (as pertaining to films and games) is much harder to judge.
No, it's not a "nowaday" thing. Games were blamed back in the 80s and 90s, and movies were a hot topic issue. Moreso than today.Adeptus Aspartem said:Everyone knew those were just games + movies not reality. But nowadays the whole "videogame" blaming even shows it's sign within the community.
I didn't exactly appreciate being talked down to like I'm some sort of Monty Burns esq old man unaware those damned rapscallions could be doing something illicit at school either.gmaverick019 said:that is incredible speculation and quite condescending. Not only am I the oldest of all my siblings and cousins (a.k.a. the go to babysitter in any situation) I've had 2 official jobs that revolved around molding children for a total of 2-1/2 years on top of that.
(emphasis mine)OneCatch said:So tell her explicitly what's in it. Mention the torture scenes, full frontal male nudity, hell, most of the worst stuff is on youtube.
Oh trust me, I'm not prudish. I still play Morrowind with the full body mods. I think the US ratings system is absurd in the way it places more emphasis on entirely natural sexual content than rather unnatural violence.fenrizz said:(emphasis mine)OneCatch said:So tell her explicitly what's in it. Mention the torture scenes, full frontal male nudity, hell, most of the worst stuff is on youtube.
Now what is wrong with that exactly?
Seems a lot of people have some sort of problem with it.
There is nothing sexual about it, it's not even erect!
It boggles my mind.
Well I would say the argument is better if there is a blurry line because then people are open to discussion and argument just because there is an arbitrary ruling that 18 rated material is unsuitable for those under 18 dosent mean that it is actually unsuitable except in the eyes of the law which is just a system.Zachary Amaranth said:*snip*
The problem is, the argument isn't any better just because it's a blurrier line. The "I did it and I'm fine" argument is inane to begin with. Nobody's saying games are as bad as cigarettes, or even that they're bad (on here, anyway--apparently, video games are worse than guns, porn and pot in the eyes of some). The point is about the failure of the reasoning.
Blinders make a horse not get distracted. That's the sole reason they exist. Yes, I will put blinders on a kid to guide them. It isn't hard to not let an 11 year old know about torture. There is TONS of media without it in it. And he/she knows very little of the world. If my kid hears it from the park or something they are gonna ask me about it later being curious. I will tell him, I will not let him torture someone in GTA5. If I tell him about torture, the subject is dropped and life goes on. I let him play the game and now he has that experience swimming around in his head. Mob mentality isn't going to have me shove that experience at my 11 year old. He can go kill dragons in Skyrim in HD on the PC instead.TheKasp said:Sorry but it is really not hard to know what a lapdance is with 11. Unless you live in an Amish household of course. Torture is in the same boat. Both are prevelant through media everywhere. Unless you put blinders on your child and dictate literally every step of his life I guarantee he will know of those things.
So you have no problem with a kid playing an AO game right? It's just puppets playing with other puppets. As BakedSardine pointed out compare it to porn and say your OK with it if fiction vs. fantasy is truly what you believe. I am not going to expose a pre-puberty kid to porn deliberately. Especially, not just because his friends are doing it. A "realistic fantasy" is not the same as killing dragons.And in the context of a game: Yes, it is that fucking easy. It is just fiction. Puppets playing with other puppets.
No, every one of those kids comes from a home with little or no structure. They all got to sit in their room and fester on a plan for shit's sake. You know the place where they tend to find their video games AND their plans. That place is usually a cubby the kid would hide in and no adult succeeded in having him come out when you could just make him.Sure, and now school shootings happen because some dude played CS once.
My perception of relaity is based on experience, as is yours. Kids have very little of that even at 11. They have no frame of reference only what they have heard and the little they have experienced. You got 11 years to learn the world, go. Good job, you did it! lol. Yeah right. GTA is going to add that experience just like any other media with the subject.And no, the games don't influence their perception of reality unless they already have mental issues.
This kid is uncomfortable with the gun and clearly has some kind of perspective on reality that has him show respect to guns. You can't prove that it is directly because of video games. A kid that has only played Mario can easily exhibit the same respect the first time firing a rifle. I never claimed video games will make you homicidal. The press did that on behalf of parents everywhere. It isn't bad to control the media your kids consume. There is bad media for both kids and parents for different reasons. I love Penn and Teller. It isn't about having the kid flip out. It's not even about sex and violence, directly. It's about allowing what goes into his/her mind and when.