Any Trans Escapists?

[TheOtter]

I have always been fascinated with transgendered people and I would love to ask a few questions!

do you primarily have male or female friends?

have you had any serious partners? if yes, were they trans gender too?

do you see hetero relationships as foreign? (that's how i see homosexual relations,not because i am prejudice, but because I could never see myself with another man)

does being transgenders make for incredibly awkward social situations?

Sorry for all the questions but I have never met a transsexual before.

I have fairly equal parts female and male friends.

I have a serious partner and they aren't transgender.

Foreign? No, that's just another way of enjoying your life and finding love.

I'm very open about being transgender so it may be awkward for others but not me. Simply, if you don't like it you need to grow up and embrace the new world.

 

[General_Potatoes]

I think I've met some people like that I don't remember though.

 

[Daedalus1942]

Any transsexuals here? Or transgenders? Do you happen to at least know a person who's trans? I figured that since the community at The Escapist is so lively, there might be some. If there aren't any, I guess this thread could double as an "Ask a transgender anything" thread, I dunno.

Anyway, I'm transgender. I'm neutrois, which means my gender identity is that belonging to neither man or woman and that I wish to lose the physical traits of my biological sex. I'm not sure if it's going to be a possibility for me in my country, but one can only hope.

Last summer, I had the honour of meeting another transgendered person IRL for the first time and talking about gender issues with them. It was just... awesome. I've also met some transsexuals and they've been very inspiring people to me.

Oh wow... I'm glad to see I'm not the only one ^^
I'm Tabitha, a transgirl from Sydney, a few friends and my mother knows about me and I'm going into therapy soon. I can't wait.
pleased to meet you
-Tabs<3-

 

[The Blue Mongoose]

I have some questions, though Verp, these probably have already been answered/addressed/rendered irrelevant in your comprehensive and informative posts.

Does being transgender impact on your sexual orientation? Is it part of it?

For those who are asexual, how do you feel about romance? if it doesn't appeal to you, why not? if you're asexual what does that mean for gender preference when dealing with romantic, non-sexual relationships? Are those relationships possible?

I realise these questions are potentially difficult to answer, but as a heterosexual male with no transgender or asexual or aromantic friends, I find it difficult to comprehend these things.

I apologise if I have offended anyone, I am just trying to learn and understand. The best way to come to appreciate something is to understand it.

(and just to be clear, I understand homosexuality, it's complete lack of sexual interest that I can't grasp.)

 

[Daedalus1942]

Any transsexuals here? Or transgenders? Do you happen to at least know a person who's trans? I figured that since the community at The Escapist is so lively, there might be some. If there aren't any, I guess this thread could double as an "Ask a transgender anything" thread, I dunno.

Anyway, I'm transgender. I'm neutrois, which means my gender identity is that belonging to neither man or woman and that I wish to lose the physical traits of my biological sex. I'm not sure if it's going to be a possibility for me in my country, but one can only hope.

Last summer, I had the honour of meeting another transgendered person IRL for the first time and talking about gender issues with them. It was just... awesome. I've also met some transsexuals and they've been very inspiring people to me.

Don't worry, there are MANY quite a few transsexuals on the escapist. Your like the 5th one i've seen

...damn I want to ask you guys so many questions but I don't think that's appropriate...

I'm extremely open minded and I'm incredibly hard to offend. I've had several people call me a shemale in public, and I've just ignored them.
If you want to ask questions.... I'm your gal ^^.
-Tabs<3-

 

[Daedalus1942]

I have always been fascinated with transgendered people and I would love to ask a few questions!

do you primarily have male or female friends?

have you had any serious partners? if yes, were they trans gender too?

do you see hetero relationships as foreign? (that's how i see homosexual relations,not because i am prejudice, but because I could never see myself with another man)

does being transgenders make for incredibly awkward social situations?

Sorry for all the questions but I have never met a transsexual before.

I have primarily female friends, but I have a few male ones too.
I've had several serious partners, only one of which was transgendered.
I don't see hetero realtionships as foreign. I myself am a transgirl and a lesbian, but once I start on the hormone replacement therapy, I expect that to change as your brain chemistry is altered and you percieve things differently. I may turn out to be a completely straight woman, who knows? I am prepared for it though.
Being transgendered does make for incredibly awkward social situations.
The other day i was walking down central station and a drunk adolescent male said "holy shit, are you a boy or a girl?!"
that's life... you learn to deal with it after a while.
-Tabs<3-

 

[Daedalus1942]

Any transsexuals here? Or transgenders? Do you happen to at least know a person who's trans? I figured that since the community at The Escapist is so lively, there might be some. If there aren't any, I guess this thread could double as an "Ask a transgender anything" thread, I dunno.

Anyway, I'm transgender. I'm neutrois, which means my gender identity is that belonging to neither man or woman and that I wish to lose the physical traits of my biological sex. I'm not sure if it's going to be a possibility for me in my country, but one can only hope.

Last summer, I had the honour of meeting another transgendered person IRL for the first time and talking about gender issues with them. It was just... awesome. I've also met some transsexuals and they've been very inspiring people to me.

Greetings!

I am a Transexual MtF, and the creator of the [a href=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/groups/view/Transgenders-of-Escapist]Transgenders of Escapist[/a] group, currently at 18 members.
I know that there are even more so but they may or may not want to join it because of many different and varied reasons.
I've been planning to make a group open to the public of Escapist so that more could be informed about what Trans-people are since there is a lot of hate for us on this page, a suprising amount even. Which is why a poster in this thread even commented;
"Suprised this haven't turned into a flame war yet".

So yes, we most certainly are around.​

PS. I shall make my plans I mentioned here within two hours.

Oh wow...! A trans escapist group. I did a search for something like this ages ago but couldn't find anything.
That is so awesome! I am so joining. Do you have like steam games with trans groups, because that would be so cool to play with other individuals like myself on steam.
Tabitha here.
22, MtF ts, pre hrt, just starting therapy. Would it be okay if I added you on steam?
-Tabs<3-

 

[Verp]

I have some questions, though Verp, these probably have already been answered/addressed/rendered irrelevant in your comprehensive and informative posts.

Does being transgender impact on your sexual orientation? Is it part of it?

For those who are asexual, how do you feel about romance? if it doesn't appeal to you, why not? if you're asexual what does that mean for gender preference when dealing with romantic, non-sexual relationships? Are those relationships possible?

I realise these questions are potentially difficult to answer, but as a heterosexual male with no transgender or asexual or aromantic friends, I find it difficult to comprehend these things.

I apologise if I have offended anyone, I am just trying to learn and understand. The best way to come to appreciate something is to understand it.

(and just to be clear, I understand homosexuality, it's complete lack of sexual interest that I can't grasp.)

I quite honestly don't know where the impact of my gender identity on my sexual orientation starts and where it ends. A certain transitioned woman I've talked to several times once hinted that maybe the reason I'm not attracted to other people is because I'm so disconnected from my body right now since it's "wrong" in its current state and that my brain sort of rejects it, but I have a hard time believing it.

A lot of asexuals are romantic and their choices usually are to have compromise sex with a sexual partner or find another asexual and form a couple with them. Both seem to work, although the strain of compromise sex is sometimes just too much for an asexual or it may feel too fake for the sexual partner. Sometimes a sexual partner opts to be celibate or seeks sexual intimacy by their own hand or outside the relationship, which is another thing that's either a hit or a miss and needs some serious conviction and communication skills to pull off without either side of the relationship feeling neglected and hurt.

Since I'm aromantic asexual, however, I don't desire sex or romance. I just don't see what benefits a romantic partnership would have to offer to me, since I just don't see it appealing at all. I don't feel a need for a special someone and I dread the thought of being someone's special someone, especially if it comes with the idea that I "belong" to somebody.

Romantic relationship seems to make life itself a joint effort and that just doesn't sit well with me. I know I'm not completely self-sufficient: I need other people and I enjoy sharing my victories and losses with other people, indulging in rivalry with them, and cheering people on, but if life's a sport, I want my performance on the field to be a solo performance.

 

[Daedalus1942]

If anyone wants to add me to steam, that's fine by me. My Steam ID is
[ESC]Mrs Self-Destruction and my PSN name is just as it is in this forum (Daedalus1942).

I'll answer any questions anybody has, and I think we should try to get a trans escapist gaming group together. I've NEVER met any other tg or ts gamers in all my years of living. I think it would be a really great idea.

I hope I'm not aalone in this train of thought, but the carriage seems to be pretty emtpy
Even the waitresses aren't anywhere to be seen
-Tabs<3-

 

[ChaoticKraus]

I have two questions:

Firstly, what does the different terms mean exactly: Transvestite, Transexual etc. And what is considered okay to refer you as? Transsexual sounds more like an scientific term to me.

Secondly, for those that are asexual, don't you feel very alienated? So much of our culture revolves around love and/or sex. From love songs on the radio, romance movies, pornography etc. After all, the sex drive is considered to be a huge part of our psychology.

 

[Jazoni89]

I have always found transsexual and the whole concept of gender changing to be a interesting subject. So I have a few questions for you.

1 - When you was younger was you interested in things targeted for the other gender such as Barbie dolls.

2 - How much was the operations and what kind of procedures and changes did you undertake.

3 - What do you think of the Female to Male Transsexuals.

 

[Serenegoose]

I have always found transsexual and the whole concept of gender changing to be a interesting subject. So I have a few questions for you.

1 - When you was younger was you interested in things targeted for the other gender such as Barbie dolls.

Not even slightly.

2 - How much was the operations and what kind of procedures and changes did you undertake.

0. 0 pounds, 0 pence. I've not had any.

3 - What do you think of the Female to Male Transsexuals.

I think the same as I think of all men. I have noticed an odd tendancy for them to be downright hilarious though. Trans guys have the best sense of humour I have ever encountered. It's odd.

 

[Jazoni89]

I have always found transsexual and the whole concept of gender changing to be a interesting subject. So I have a few questions for you.

1 - When you was younger was you interested in things targeted for the other gender such as Barbie dolls.

Not even slightly.

2 - How much was the operations and what kind of procedures and changes did you undertake.

0. 0 pounds, 0 pence. I've not had any.

So do you just take hormone injection's or something?

 

[Verp]

I have two questions:

Firstly, what does the different terms mean exactly: Transvestite, Transexual etc. And what is considered okay to refer you as? Transsexual sounds more like an scientific term to me.

Secondly, for those that are asexual, don't you feel very alienated? So much of our culture revolves around love and/or sex. From love songs on the radio, romance movies, pornography etc. After all, the sex drive is considered to be a huge part of our psychology.

Transvestism means crossdressing and it implies that you're a man dressing up as a woman or a woman dressing up as a man. A transsexual person who wears clothes in accordance to their gender identity isn't crossdressing -- they're not pretending to be of the opposite sex.

While there are some differences in term usage in the terms transsexual and transgender, the consensus among medical professionals seems to be that transsexual is a person whose gender is that of the opposite sex and a transgender is a person whose gender identity doesn't match their sex or the traditional gender binary where the only acknowledged genders are male and female. People use transsexual and transgender interchangeably though, which can be a bit confusing. But, I'm technically a transgender.

One can also talk about transwomen (M to F) and transmen (F to M). My fellow transgenders have sometimes playfully called themselves transwhatevers when lacking a better term to address transgenders without the whole transsexual vs. transgender term issue.

When it comes to asexuality and our culture... Well, you can become desensitised to anything. It's sometimes pretty annoying how sex and romance seems to be everywhere, but as long as there are some safe spaces where you can blow off some steam, like asexual communities on the Internet, things are well for the most part as far as I'm concerned. I mostly just consider erotic media pretty damn boring though.

I think it's a bigger annoyance when people act as if love is something sacred. You can put sex under a microscope and talk about it in scientific terms, but people can get really huffy when you try to analyse love. When a person robs me of the ability to do that, one basically establishes the whole issue as immune and untouchable and I don't quite like it when I can't pick things apart.

 

[SailorShale]

Well, I feel like the odd one here. Everyone is MTF
I'm FTM. So, I can contribute if anybody wants the other side of the coin.

 

[Serenegoose]

So do you just take hormone injection's or something?

Daily pills. Both an anti-androgen to stop testosterone, and an estrogen.

 

[Verp]

I have always found transsexual and the whole concept of gender changing to be a interesting subject. So I have a few questions for you.

1 - When you was younger was you interested in things targeted for the other gender such as Barbie dolls.

2 - How much was the operations and what kind of procedures and changes did you undertake.

3 - What do you think of the Female to Male Transsexuals.

1. When I was younger, I played with both "boy" toys and "girl" toys. My favourite toys ever were my Turtles action figures, plush animal toys, and anything and everything in the shape of a dinosaur.

2. I haven't taken any kind of operation, yet. I want to get rid of my breasts, at the very least, so I could see myself going through surgery to make it happen. I don't want to take hormones.

3. I've only met one face-to-face and he was a great person. I can't say much about others -- they're all people and people are all different.

 

[ShadowKatt]

Any transsexuals here? Or transgenders? Do you happen to at least know a person who's trans? I figured that since the community at The Escapist is so lively, there might be some. If there aren't any, I guess this thread could double as an "Ask a transgender anything" thread, I dunno.

Anyway, I'm transgender. I'm neutrois, which means my gender identity is that belonging to neither man or woman and that I wish to lose the physical traits of my biological sex. I'm not sure if it's going to be a possibility for me in my country, but one can only hope.

Last summer, I had the honour of meeting another transgendered person IRL for the first time and talking about gender issues with them. It was just... awesome. I've also met some transsexuals and they've been very inspiring people to me.

Greetings!

I am a Transexual MtF, and the creator of the [a href=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/groups/view/Transgenders-of-Escapist]Transgenders of Escapist[/a] group, currently at 18 members.
I know that there are even more so but they may or may not want to join it because of many different and varied reasons.
I've been planning to make a group open to the public of Escapist so that more could be informed about what Trans-people are since there is a lot of hate for us on this page, a suprising amount even. Which is why a poster in this thread even commented;
"Suprised this haven't turned into a flame war yet".

So yes, we most certainly are around.​

PS. I shall make my plans I mentioned here within two hours.

NINJA!!!!!!!!

But yeah, there's a whole group of people, and they seem pretty nice. I'm a transgendered individual as well. I thought about going all the way and doing the whole surgery thing for about 17 seconds before I realized that I'd never be able to afford it, but that's really neither here nor there. Point is, you're right, this is a large and varied community and you are most certainly not alone.

 

[Simulated Eon]

Hi hetero male here. (Since everyone else say what they are I would have felt left out otherwise)
Just wanted to ask about the asexual/aromance thing.
Aren't they very closeley related psychologically? I mean isn't love/romance an step towards reproduction in a way that sex is?(even though lust and reproduction has differenses)
Mayby an odd question but it interests me and the more I know the less akward I would fell around persons with different sexualities.

 

[Heraklitus]

I'm so pleased to see such a respectful discussion of this. I think it speaks well of the community here.