26, male and f-all. Pretty embarrassing and discouraging place to be in. My realistic expectations are that I?ll either continue alone until death; or meet that type of woman in my 30?s interested in a steady pay check (providing it?s high enough, of course); possibly to support her children as well. If the latter happens, and I?ve still got no past relationships or anything; I?ll probably play along before getting caught up, and leave once she starts pushing for a stronger ?commitment? (I?m not interested in being taken for a mug).
I haven?t totally given up meeting a partner I could have a good relationship with, and I still go out to places with a decent number of women a few or more times per week (mostly a sport club & activity classes); but so far it?s either been near impossible to find opportunities to break the ice; or on the odd occasion when I have got talking to a woman, they?ve generally come across pretty indifferent. So I may very well be wasting my time.
Other opportunities so far: 1 girl when I was 17, who was probably on the rebound from another friend at the time she seemed to take interest in me. Her interest also seemed to grow when she (believed) my family was wealthier than we really were. Maybe I?m being cynical, but it just struck me at the time. Other than that: two or three over the past several years, who were typically also just out of LTR (nothing came of them. Usually they?d go back to the ex-b/f within a week or two of me getting to know them). Usually the type that are impossible to get to do anything beyond sit on the sofa or go to the pub (that drives me nuts). I don?t think I?m great, but I do make an effort in my life, and generally make most of my opportunities for myself. So I don?t really want to be with someone who?s just going to make excuses to never do anything all the time.
Despite what someone reading might assume from this post; I?m actually pretty cheery, friendly and social in person (kind of a learned skill too). It means I get on well enough with most people, it just never leads much further and acquaintanceship. That and today I?m especially grumpy! (Work probably couldn?t guess though!).
As for areas within my control: I?m weighing up the whole flying to Amsterdam and hiring a hooker before I?m 30 thing. I?d like to at least experience sex before I?m properly into middle age; and that looks the most probable option. It?s fucking depressing, and I doubt I?ll get more out of it than literally learning the sensation, but it looks like a reality for me. And my father?s surprised I harbour some resentment towards him for passing on his defective fucking genome! (He is smart enough to have predicted a lot of this). Denial, huh?
So that?s dating so far for me! Lol! Anyone dealing with a similar life experience I?ve got one major piece of social advice: For Christ sakes, don?t ever show it to anyone non-anonymously! It?ll just bring you undue extra hassle & grief.
Tl;dr: 26, m, single. Have been for life. Unlikely prospect of change. Hooker conundrum.
