Being an Adult Sucks

[Rebel_Raven]

I have Dragon Age Inquisition to play, but no damn time. Dragon ball Xenoverse will prolly end up similar as will Gat out of hell. Heck, most of my games.

Still, I have hobbies to keep me from completely going off my rocker. game when I can, shop for rare figures that strike my fancy.

The way I see it, you absolutely ust get time to yourself. Being miserable all the time shouldn't become a way of life. Even if you gotta wedge something in.

Just coz you're an adult doesn't mean you gotta follow some arbitrary bullshit rules like "You can't buy toys for yourself" or "stop playing videogames" or "watch the news" and junk.

 

[Lightspeaker]

Growing older is mandatory

Growing up is optional.

 

[Vendor-Lazarus]

-snip-

Thank you. I kind of see your point, yes.
(no worries, I wont elaborate)
I have to remember those tips whenever faced with such a situation and just continue to try.
(I might even get it before my retirement ,) )

Hopefully these tips can help anyone else that is reading this and have the same question.

 

[Armadox]

I got up an hour ago. It's 11 PM and I got up an hour ago.

I ate ice cream for dinner the other day. Bcause I felt like it.

I don't have to go on family vacations anymore. I can skip family gatherings unless I actually want to go to them. (And I don't.) I don't have to learn meningless things and pretend there's a point to it. I can appreciate great books that I wasn't mature enough for in the past. Do I read hentai or not? That's my choice. And only mine.

Nobody tells me to play with some complete stranger just because we're the same age. Nobody tells me I need to live with my abusive dad. Nobody tells me to worship a God who didn't want to stop the Holocaust.

Being an adult is the best thing ever.

*smiles* The problem the OP has is that he's still reeling from the first wave of being an adult. The sudden address of bills, and tension. He's not seen the curtains yet, let alone been able to pull them back. Those people he sees as watching him and judging, he doesn't realize they don't really matter. Eventually you will figure out the few people you actually care about, and the rest disappear once you step into your own house. Yes, you still have to play with strangers, but this time the game is work, and you get to pretend to be anything you want as long as you keep winning. In time, OP you'll learn how to put on a second skin of professionalism, that helps with the tedium of that. You will, eventually win that game enough to make more then your base needs, and then the real fun begins.

But, the most important thing you haven't found yet is the spark of being an adult. Others have said to not care about things, but that isn't actually the truth. You need to find out what you care about. That sacred mission all adults that matter have where they figure out what they want their life to mean and work tirelessly toward it. Sometimes that doesn't came to everyone all at once, and just because you think you know what makes you happy doesn't always work out that way. I am an artist. I make money with my talent, and I know what I want to leave when I go. What do you want to be?

 

[TallanKhan]

"Here is a whole bunch of responsibility. Also you get nothing in return for accepting these responsibilities. Also, accepting these responsibilities is mandatory. And a lot of the things you did for fun/entertainment are now considered "inappropriate" for various random and nonsensical reasons, so have fun either being looked at as weird or bored out of your mind. BTW, we're going to make those "reasonable" bills from before a lot more unreasonable really, really fast. Have fun!"

Welcome to the real world. Yeah bills might suck but you're paying your own way in the world and standing on your own two feet, the value of which shouldn't be underestimated.

It isn't really as if all these responsibilities and obligations have suddenly materialised out of nowhere either, it is just the case that now you're an adult and it's you rather than your parents/guardian(s) picking up the slack.

If you want to feel better, instead of thinking in terms of being put upon now, look at it that you got a free pass for 18 years.

Captcha: Enjoy Life - You said it Captcha

 

[Veldel]

Fuck what others think.

I wear shorts and sandles everywhere I go regardless of stuff and I don't give a fuck that my hair is past shoulders.

My family think I have no respect for myself because of it and I simply don't care.


Live how you want not how others want. If you want a toy or poster then go for it fuck anyone who belittled you for it.


I love living in my own style of life.


And to anyone who says you need to act and look like a adult and enjoy only adult things to have any self respect can fuck off.

 

[soren7550]

Yeah, I'm really feeling the whole 'being an adult sucks' thing right now, as currently:

- I have three jobs and still can't afford a basic living
- Trying to keep a relationship together (and apparently not doing such a good job of it)
- Looking at being homeless by the end of the month or so
- Having to make one meal last three on an almost daily basis
- Trying to keep it all together so I don't get committed again (not doing so hot there either it seems)


All of this, and I'm not even 23 yet. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that the stress/myself hasn't done me in already.

 

[Armadox]

Yeah, I'm really feeling the whole 'being an adult sucks' thing right now, as currently:

- I have three jobs and still can't afford a basic living
- Trying to keep a relationship together (and apparently not doing such a good job of it)
- Looking at being homeless by the end of the month or so
- Having to make one meal last three on an almost daily basis
- Trying to keep it all together so I don't get committed again (not doing so hot there either it seems)


All of this, and I'm not even 23 yet. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that the stress/myself hasn't done me in already.

How good are you with your hands? Do you have any skills at crafting (trinkets), painting, or the ilk?

 

[soren7550]

Yeah, I'm really feeling the whole 'being an adult sucks' thing right now, as currently:

- I have three jobs and still can't afford a basic living
- Trying to keep a relationship together (and apparently not doing such a good job of it)
- Looking at being homeless by the end of the month or so
- Having to make one meal last three on an almost daily basis
- Trying to keep it all together so I don't get committed again (not doing so hot there either it seems)


All of this, and I'm not even 23 yet. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that the stress/myself hasn't done me in already.

How good are you with your hands? Do you have any skills at crafting (trinkets), painting, or the ilk?

Not very handy, especially in the crafts section.

Also, I am no good with directly dealing with people, I'm only okay at best with computers, and I can only cook maybe three things.

 

[Duck Sandwich]

While there are aspects of adulthood that are annoying as hell, like paying bills, certain responsibility-type situations, etc... Its all in how you manage yourself in the end. I've had plenty of awesome adult adventures (that had nothing to do with what you might be thinking, gutter-folk!) that I could never have done as a kid.

Ditto. As an adult, I can drive to hang out with a friend in another town, do a kickboxing class a few hours later, and then drive to a mall to go shopping for games/clothes/stuff I like. I don't have to report to anyone, or ask anyone's permission to go out anywhere. I don't have to get dragged along to some store/restaurant that I really don't want to go to.

I have to cook my own food, but I'm such an egotistical prick that I'd much rather eat something cooked by me than something from a restaurant, or cooked by anyone else. I can make what I want, when I want, and the way I want it. Instead of eating shitty restaurant salads with lettuce, bread croutons, and whatever weird milk cream thing they use as a salad dressing, I have my salads the way I want, with spinach, chopped carrots, mustard as a salad dressing, and beans/ham/almonds/whatever the hell I want.

Sure, there are some parallels between adult life and teenage life. Instead of school, I go to work. Instead of waiting until my birthday/christmas to get something I really want, I wait until it comes on sale. Or if I really want it, fuck it, I'll buy it full price as soon as I get the chance.

 

[Pyrian]

I vastly prefer being an adult:

Someone doesn't like your hobbies?
Kid: They get taken away.
Adult: Your problem, not mine.

Responsibilities?
Kid: You are responsible for your school and your chores and have no say whatsoever in what this consists of.
Adult: Virtually every responsibility is optional, in one way or another. It's tough as hell to live off the grid, but people still do it. And when you say you don't anything out of it? What are you talking about? My bills got me a car to get around with and a place of my own to live in and decorate as I pleased, and that's just for starters.

Violence?
Kid: Nobody seems to care much. Kids bully each other with near total impunity in most cases.
Adult: Bullies get in real trouble. Behavior that would be completely overlooked at home or in school gets people thrown in jail, and even the sort of minor harassment that isn't even noticed in children routinely gets adults fired.

Granted, childhood kind of sucked for me. I clashed with my family a lot, and not having to care much what they thought was one of the happiest moments of my life.

 

[Cidward]

My 20s were all semi-impoverished flailing, but as I've gotten some distance from them I'm starting to think that's pretty standard. I'm quite enjoying my 30s so far, though (only a couple years into them, so it could all go south soon, but it's good for now!). I'm more financially stable and more secure in myself, and I've beaten and shaped parts of adulthood into what I want to make of it.

 

[Sable Gear]

Join the ranks of the manchildren and have the best of both worlds. Some responsibilities are inevitable if you want the freedom of living independently but on your own time, do whatever you want. I love the money and freedom I have now, it's beats schoolwork and having my parents decide everything by a long shot.

This. On the cusp of graduating from university I can say that the prospect of "true" adult (school-less) life is daunting, but I've never abandoned my "childish" drive to do what I enjoy. I game, I follow cartoons/anime, I knit, I write, and I have my own income to put towards embracing all my geeky hobbies that my mate embraces too.

The trick to a happy adulthood, I find, is the same as surviving high school/university/college: find what you like and keep it. Find your niche and enjoy it, because work/school/obligations are inevitable. That's just how it is.

 

[Sarge034]

But, the most important thing you haven't found yet is the spark of being an adult. Others have said to not care about things, but that isn't actually the truth. You need to find out what you care about. That sacred mission all adults that matter have where they figure out what they want their life to mean and work tirelessly toward it. Sometimes that doesn't came to everyone all at once, and just because you think you know what makes you happy doesn't always work out that way. I am an artist. I make money with my talent, and I know what I want to leave when I go. What do you want to be?

You, sir or madam, are truly a wise sage. I'm 24 and have just started to realize this and figure out what is truly important to me.

 

[Serinanth]

Some friends came over a few days ago and had their nephew with them whom is probably around six or seven. This was a few days after Christmas, I had finished the Lego Guardians of the Galaxy Milano set that my G/f had gotten me which was sitting on the coffee table, she also got me a friggin PS4 which was pretty sweet =).

We ended up playing SuperMario 3 on his request which was surprising to say the least. By the third world he started getting a little upset that I was good at the game, and his aunt says "Hon, he has played this game a million times he has had a lot more practice".

He then looked at me and says,
"Its weird, you are a lot like I am, we both like Lego's and video games but your an adult."

My reply as I continued playing, "I am only cleverly disguised as an adult".

The look on his face was hysterical he had no idea such a thing was possible. My g/f also tells her nieces and nephews that she doesn't have to pick an ice cream flavor, she can have them all because she is a grown up.

I am 35.

Sure bills and work are dumb, that's a mantra around here "Work is dumb" But I like that I can buy what I want and do what I want. I worked moderately hard in school, I am polite as fuck, and not being a dumbass helps too so I landed a good job.

When my factory closes in 8 months or so and depending on if I can find another job that pays as well I will probably have to cut back on my spending on fun but that is just knowing your limits, and part of being an adult. Adulthood is simply being responsible for yourself, and if you procreate, your family. You can still have fun while being an adult, even if times get tough, I can still just go for a bike ride.

When you stop playing, when you stop enjoying the simple things in life is when you actually start to grow old and die.

 

[Armadox]

Yeah, I'm really feeling the whole 'being an adult sucks' thing right now, as currently:

- I have three jobs and still can't afford a basic living
- Trying to keep a relationship together (and apparently not doing such a good job of it)
- Looking at being homeless by the end of the month or so
- Having to make one meal last three on an almost daily basis
- Trying to keep it all together so I don't get committed again (not doing so hot there either it seems)


All of this, and I'm not even 23 yet. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that the stress/myself hasn't done me in already.

How good are you with your hands? Do you have any skills at crafting (trinkets), painting, or the ilk?

Not very handy, especially in the crafts section.

Also, I am no good with directly dealing with people, I'm only okay at best with computers, and I can only cook maybe three things.

I absolutely understand where you're coming from, and if you'd like, I'd like to give you some advice, thought it's very long term at this moment, it's what I've had to use to get out of the exact situation you find yourself in now.

Spoiler: Multiple Streams of Income

First thing: Never stop looking for a better job. Always make it your mission to either find a niche that will allow you to step up in the job you are in, or use that job til another can pay you better. The second you stop that, is the second you get used to your situation and it'll get harder to leave for something new. One of the absolute hardest parts of going it alone is finding ways to get ahead of your finances. You're working three jobs, but how much of each are you actually profitting from? What I suggest to you is the same thing I suggest to any kid that says they want to get into art. It's not about having a job that you have to manage, it's about having skills that you can have work for you while you're out.
You're not good with your hands, but can you write a small story? Or, say, can you record voices for others, or build web sites? There's all sorts of things you can work toward that you can do in between other things to help get a little more bang out of your day. Start gathering skills,and figuring out what you're good at, and then start working outward from there; Fiverr, cafepress, deviantart, etsy.. There's sites you can build a digital shop and then work on when you're free to help add to your finances, and the trick is to find things you can make or do once and continuously sell them with out having to do them again. And if you're smart you'll find something you can do in an hour, and work on that while you've got free time within the day. Find a price point that works out to be about time and a half minimum wage for your state (if the gig requires resources, divide them by their cost and add that number to your requested price) Scheduling that hour a day is vital, and set every dime made this way aside in it's own fund and don't touch that until you have enough for point two.

Spoiler: Eventually making your money work for you

part one is the hardest toll on you, part two is the hardest thing for you. As much as you'll want to use this money on food and stuff. Hold off in it til you can manage at least a grand[footnote] I know that sounds impossible, but honestly if you get enough little things working for you, it's not hard but simply time consuming[/footnote](thought 2 grand is better for this). Take your money to the bank and ask for a C.D. Secured Loan, you will put this money in the bank and they will give you the same amount back to you as a loan. Hold that money and continue to use it and what you're making from the small gigs to pay on the loan. This will generate toward your credit and since you're only 23, it'll pay off in about a year, and leave you with enough credit by the end to have a bitchin' credit report. Now you have a safety net, not only will you have your gigs paying in but also can get a credit card that you need to put away and only use for one purchase a month. Something small, like a tank of gas that you can pay off so you keep building your credit. New bank, new card. Rinse and repeat til you have enough to hold you in case of emergencies. This is the point where I was able to focus my efforts into dropping the jobs that was not paying out the most and experiment with new ones.

Spoiler: The rest will fall into place

Relationships and the ilk I can't offer advice for. I found a woman who worked with me and want the same goals as me. We split all bills equally, and pay ourselves out of the remaining money so that we're never without or feeling deprived. Find that, and half your problems will be gone. Just.. focus on you first right now. early 20s are hell, and as much as relationships are good. They could easily hurt you if they're punishing the resources you have instead of helping you.
One crock pot, one stewing pot. Take your food budget, and learn how to make chili, spaghetti, and stew. Make one full pot at the beginning of the week, then separate them out and fill sandwich bags with them. One pot of chili could be separated out into ten meals, which I heated in the morning and ate on that week. More hearty then a sandwich, and more cost effective then a banquet meal.

I had a hell of a time getting out of that situation, and I hope you find your way man. I really do.

 

[Fox12]

Yeah, I feel the same way right now. I think part of it is whether you love your job. I fucking hate my job right now (I'm a part time cashier at Home Depot) so I'm not feeling great about adulthood. However, I'm getting my degree and hoping I get a job I enjoy. I think things will be better then. At least, I hope so. Other aspects of adulthood are awesome, though, so your mileage may vary. I know that people looked down on Tolkien and Lewis for their love of fantasy, and they were basically accused of having an arrested development (fancy talk for being manchildren). They were successful and intelligent, though, and did what they wanted.

I won't deny I'm scared (hell, I'm terrified) but I know what I want, and I want to work towards it. If things really work out, then I may be happier than I've ever been before. It's the not knowing that scares me, since I only have one more semester. I'm hoping this is normal for people about to REALLY enter the work force.

 

[cathou]

Yeah, I'm really feeling the whole 'being an adult sucks' thing right now, as currently:

- I have three jobs and still can't afford a basic living
- Trying to keep a relationship together (and apparently not doing such a good job of it)
- Looking at being homeless by the end of the month or so
- Having to make one meal last three on an almost daily basis
- Trying to keep it all together so I don't get committed again (not doing so hot there either it seems)


All of this, and I'm not even 23 yet. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that the stress/myself hasn't done me in already.

Actually, early adulthood kind of suck. you struggle in low pay job, and you try to build something for the future. at 35, married with a house, a decent paid job, 2 children, i can now enjoy life much more. i have enough money to get a little extras (going out sometimes, buying video games, etc.), a happy social and family life, and i keep a few hours per weeks to do things i like, like playing video games.

sure, i cannot play all day long like when i was a teen, but still.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

I'm approaching my late 20's and have concluded that if it wasn't for the stress that comes with having little-to-no money, adulthood would absolutely rock. I love Denny's and while I was a kid I could go if my parents took me, as an Adult I can go to Denny's at 10pm and just hang out until fucking sunrise and even the wait-staff won't mind so long as I buy food (or coffee), tip well, etc. When I was a kid, I could only play the video games I coerced my parents into buying me but as an adult, I literally got over 2-dozen games this past December as a mixed result of gifts, gift-money, etc...some of them are even Imports! Good luck convincing Mom and Dad to get you a game from another country...Hell, good luck convincing Mom and Dad to get you more than 2 games in the month of December!

Work sucks, school sucks, paying for school freaking sucks, debt suck, getting a double-hernia from working and paying off the medical expenses sucks...but ya know what? I drove 600+ miles to be with somebody I love. Good luck doing that kind of shit as a kid. This is actually something I needed to read...I feel like I'm one bad day from total ruin but I'm an adult...I'm closing in on my 30's...I can make this shit work dammit! I'M AN ADULT! Now I'm going to play an M-rated game my Mom never would have bought me even though I need to be at work in less than 12-hours.

 

[MHR]

Meh, you don't have to grow up. Do whatever the hell you want. Just get yours and let the president worry about running the world.

just whatever you do, don't have kids. I wear a rubber at all times.