Bisexuality doesn't exist

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everythingbeeps

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Of course it exists. It's idiotic to think that a person couldn't be attracted to both/either.

Just because a person isn't attracted to both genders at the same time doesn't mean they aren't really bi. Today you're into a guy, and in a few months you might be into a girl. Who knows.
 

Raesvelg

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/shrug

Part of the reason people tend to disbelieve bisexuality in men are articles describing research such as the one below:

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/07/05/health/05sex.html?pagewanted=all
 

IamLEAM1983

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I don't think today's society really has any lasting concerns about sexuality, conservative groups excluded. I'm perfectly fine with the idea of being 28 and not being entirely certain about which way of the fence I swing. I might be bi, I might be straight, just as I might be gay. I honestly don't know.

You can't expect people to have a clear-cut stance anymore. Opportunities for love and companionship come in so many forms, nowadays, that staying cooped up with the idea that you're either A or B but absolutely not C is a bit ridiculous. I think your sexuality only gels or becomes fixed if you're honestly, seriously committed to someone. Owing to the exclusive quality of that relationship, then you'll TECHNICALLY become gay or straight. It doesn't mean you stop being bi, however.

See how confusing this is? Which is why I just don't think about it and go on with my life.
 

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Batou667 said:


You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.

But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.
I think this is the best response out of everyone*.

OT: People like boxes. If you don't fit in a box then you must be wrong, not the person trying to fit into a box.
IMO, get friends that understand you, rather than try to change you.

[sub][sub]*may or may not have read each and everyone's response[/sub][/sub]
 

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Batou667 said:


You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.

But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.
LMAO

This made my day you earn 36 cookies and 5 Internets for that one
 

LiquidGrape

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I am an arguably straight male, myself, and even though I think this focus on sexual labels is ultimately rather fruitless, I definitely consider bisexuality a very real thing. At some level I would argue that everyone has the innate capability of a kind of polymorphous bisexuality, but social conditioning has taught us to behave otherwise.

Personally, I count bisexuals as the luckiest people on the planet. I mean, just think of the selection they have at their disposal!

Batou667 said:


You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.

But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.
*gasp*
Curse you and your blatant cyclesexism!
 

Ris

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I hate it too. In my heart of hearts I consider myself to be bisexual, but for a woman to say that out loud is to either be told you're just gay-for-attention or that you're a whore who will sleep with anything. The majority of my attractions are to men, so I tend to just bite my tongue and say that I'm straight.

All hail the Kinsey scale [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale] is all I'm saying.
 

Iron Mal

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To be fair most of those judgements of 'you're this' or 'you're that' are probably the result of how people percieve your current choices and interests.

If you're with a guy then to others it will probably look more like you're predominantly gay, if you're with a girl then it'll probably look more like you're just bi-curious more than anything (at least that's how I would imagine the general perception would go).

There's no reason to assume bi-sexuality doesn't exist but seeing as most of us frown on polygamous relationships it's often going to be hard to actually 'demonstrate' your equal interests towards both sexes (unless you date a guy and a girl at the same time but that could result in other problems).

Given how bi-sexuality has become somewhat popular now (especially amongst teenage girls) it's probably resulted in a lot of us adopting the same attitude we hold towards people who claim they have Asperger's on the internet (I am aware of the hypocrisy of me bringing that comparison up), for the uninitiated, it's along the lines of 'yeah, sure, show us some proof because we're sure as hell not gonna take your word on it'.
 

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holy_secret said:
So escapist people. What do you think of bisexuality? Is it a bunch of bullshit?
Modern attitudes to sexuality are hugely perverse and strange; the idea of lust OR love that is gender specific is actually an idea thats: a. Mostly Western. and b. Mostly modern (ok there are exceptions, such as in countries that have had monotheistic faiths for a long time but this is generally true). In Japan for example traditionally homo/hetero/bi-sexuality dosen't exist; you fall in love with whoever you are attracted too and thats the end of it.

Basically i'v always thought that bisexuality is pretty much the universal human condition; all of us are capable of falling in love with men and women, and its the modern obsession with categorizing everything that is the actual bullshit.
 

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I don't really get what's frustrating. Some people think you are something you're not. That was, what, all of high school? For all of us? Those four years taught me that what people who aren't my friends think about me makes absolutely no difference in my life. Some people think my belief in God makes me either the most intolerant person on the planet or an idiot that deserves to die (at least that's what they said). That changes nothing about who I am or how I intereact with the people I want to interact with.

I know it's going to sound homophobic, but I think the best way of never having to deal with this annoyance is not bringing it up in front of others, either in word or deed.
 

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brownstudies said:
I hate it too. In my heart of hearts I consider myself to be bisexual, but for a woman to say that out loud is to either be told you're just gay-for-attention or that you're a whore who will sleep with anything. The majority of my attractions are to men, so I tend to just bite my tongue and say that I'm straight.

All hail the Kinsey scale [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale] is all I'm saying.
Too limited for me, to be honest.

At this point, any "scale" or similar will probably fall short.
 

x-machina

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Charli said:
As an Asexual I am confused by all of you. So don't worry!

It's probably not bullshit. Real bisexuals are easy to spot next to the "lol look I kissed my own/other gender, I am so hip." crowd.
I see this all the time on this site, and I do not understand it at all. Obviously I am not a doctor or anything, and yes I am talking out of my ass. But, it seems like a healthy adult should have some kind of sex drive. If you legitmately lack any kind of sex drive, doesn't that mean there is something wrong? Like a hormone deficiency or something?
 

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First of all, despite bisexuality sometimes being used as an "excuse" for completely homosexual ppl who are not comfortable with being completely open about their sexuality or are simply unsure, no-one will know better about their sexuality than yourself. Even if you suspect someone to "actually" be homosexual/heterosexual, you don't go around telling that person, because if you suspect it, then they probably do too, and are taking their time dealing with it.

Finally, bisexaulity is a real thing. In fact, there is evidence to suggest that we are all on a "bisexual scale", with most ppl leaning more towards attraction to a single gender on on end of the scale. But as very few ppl are "all the way" to one end, then we are all at least a little bit bisexual. I'm guessing the biological explanation would be that it helps us identify if others of the same gender are more or less attractive than us, and measure how much of a threat they pose to taking attention away from possible mates.


On a side note: Personally, I feel that the world would be a better place if we were all fully bisexual.
We would have more ppl to pick from as romantic interests, the world might be less exploitative of a single gender (Not exactly gender equality, but it's something), and since overpopulation is actually a problem, I don't think a lot of ppl should complain that there's a 50% a person may never have children of their own (I say "should" because I know ppl are currently complaining).
 

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Sure Bisexuality exists and there are plenty of bisexual people, including yourself, but whenever I hear people say they are bisexual I usually take it as bullshit, no offense to actual Bisexual people at all but out of all the people I know who say they are Bisexual only like 10% actually are, the rest just say they are for attention.
 

Daverson

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Bisexuality exists. Questioning this is like questioning if Homosexuality really exists, or is just the work of Satanic corruption! (If you've having trouble with that predicament, I can give you my assurance, as a learned scholar, that it is, in fact, not the result the Satanic corruption)

The weirdest thing I've seen is gay people who insist that bisexuals are just homosexuals who don't want to out themselves proper. I have no idea how people who should know better about this sort of thing can be so persistently ignorant.
 

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x-machina said:
Charli said:
As an Asexual I am confused by all of you. So don't worry!

It's probably not bullshit. Real bisexuals are easy to spot next to the "lol look I kissed my own/other gender, I am so hip." crowd.
I see this all the time on this site, and I do not understand it at all. Obviously I am not a doctor or anything, and yes I am talking out of my ass. But, it seems like a healthy adult should have some kind of sex drive. If you don't wouldn't that mean there is something wrong? Like a hormone deficiency or something?
I think at least half of the people on this site who claim to be asexual are probably just trying to justify their inability to get dates - but this is the internet, where the people society would normally consider "weird" gather and talk about their preferences, so I think there's a high chance a lot of them genuinely just don't have any sex drive for some reason.
 
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I laugh when people claim bisexuality but never pursue sex with one or the other gender (read almost all moderately attractive female "bisexuals"). Guys I'm more likely to believe, since they typically have nothing to gain socially from outing themselves. Anyway, I would never tell someone "you are not a bisexual", that would be a dick move... Doesn't mean I don't think it.
 

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holy_secret said:
In order not to confuse anyone, I need to tell you that I'm a dude.

I've heard this. A lot of times.
Wherever I go, whomever I talk to, this is the thing that pops up in their mind.
Their gender or sexuality doesn't matter, it's always the same.
If I tell someone I chose a guy in front of a girl, I have always got this as a response; "Maybe you are just completely gay". Every. Single. Time.

The same works the other way around. Except this time, the heterosexuals say that "maybe you were just experimenting with homosexuality" and the homosexuals say that "you are in denial bladibibla".
Even the last guy I was dating was like this. He was convinced I was homosexual because I was in love with him (and him being a guy).

This was okay in the beginning. I didn't really mind this. I know what I am and I don't care what anyone thinks of it.
However. This has been going on for several years. It's not really about the years. It's about the fact that this has been going on for as long as I have been open about my sexuality.
Now, this is pissing me off incredibly. Of course, this makes these people say "oooooh why are you getting so upset huh? :3 You know what it means when you take it personal riiiiight?"
I'm not taking it personally, I am just tired of hearing how I am and what I am is a lie and to be told I am something else. I know what I am and nothing is going to change that.
Point is, people are hell bent on telling me bisexuality is bullshit.
That's my rant.

So escapist people. What do you think of bisexuality? Is it a bunch of bullshit?
Bisexuality isn't bullshit. In fact, it's further to the truth than "Gay" or "Straight" because almost nobody is completely one way or the other. It's all on a sliding scale that may or may not change throughout your life.

As for the people telling you bisexuality is bullshit, ignore them. You'll prove them wrong when they see you with both guys and girls as time goes on.
 

LastHour1

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Bisexuality exists. Like everything else in life, sexuality is not a "black and white" thing. There are many, many shades of gray. Besides, as many other Escapists have said, no one would know your sexuality and who you are attracted to better than you, so if they ever tell you "Lol, you're just gay," give them a nice "Fuck off."

However, that said, I do think that most people who...well, advertise themselves as bisexuals only do it for attention, as if being bisexual would make them seem like a better person, or make them "cool."