Breaking Up
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where? That's easy. One of your homes. Preferably hers so you can gtfo, she can scream, "GET THE FUCK OUT!" if she wants, and she cant break any of your shit.
and you don't have to worry about her safely getting home
And a friend can come to her place quickly if she asks for one to.
And she knows exactly where the medicine cabinet and hte razor is.
That last one was a tasteless joke.
and you don't have to worry about her safely getting home
And a friend can come to her place quickly if she asks for one to.
And she knows exactly where the medicine cabinet and hte razor is.
That last one was a tasteless joke.
Be 100% honest with her. She will want a reason, so don't skirt around it to protect her feelings. It'll bring her closure.
Also, be absolutely prepared for her to cry. Don't try tell her not to be upset because she will be and it'll anger her if you appear to be expecting her to be calm about it. She won't be calm, she will cry and she will cry a lot.
This is from experience. A guy I used to go out with broke up with me by simply saying "i dont want to go out with you anymore. don't be upset." and very little else. That hurt far more than it would have had he explained his reason straight out. Because he never gave me a reason, it took me months to finally put it behind me. Weird, I know, but that's what can happen.
and don't try be her friend til she's pretty much over it. it'll make things harder for her if you break up with her, then when she's halfway towards getting over you, you appear back in her life all smiles.
also,
Also, be absolutely prepared for her to cry. Don't try tell her not to be upset because she will be and it'll anger her if you appear to be expecting her to be calm about it. She won't be calm, she will cry and she will cry a lot.
This is from experience. A guy I used to go out with broke up with me by simply saying "i dont want to go out with you anymore. don't be upset." and very little else. That hurt far more than it would have had he explained his reason straight out. Because he never gave me a reason, it took me months to finally put it behind me. Weird, I know, but that's what can happen.
and don't try be her friend til she's pretty much over it. it'll make things harder for her if you break up with her, then when she's halfway towards getting over you, you appear back in her life all smiles.
also,
he has a point. don't do it in a public place, fuck no. do it in her house when she invites you over, for the exact reason Plurralbles just said.Plurralbles said:
Dude, I know what you mean, but I've been in a relationship like that before and you have to get out of it.FlshrImp said:
Let her down easy. She might go a little nutzoid, but its best to let her down for you and her.
Alright. This advice is sound. I'm just going to go in there and get it over with.Furburt said:
Just tell the truth, because there's not much you can say that will not make her upset. But then again I know nothing of love nor do I really want to, so take my words with a grain of salt.
Since you have the solution i would go with somewhere where you don't have to drive much.... yeah keep your priorities in line.
But seriously if you can hold it in, which is the hardest part waiting for the right time, i would go with at her house you know so she doesn't drive to your house just to get broken up with. I think taking someone on a date and then breaking up with them seems dickish like hey dinner, a movie,... and little hearbreak. Work your way into it don't get there and be like hey this isn't working out, maybe get some pizza but that is as far in the date zone as you should go.
But seriously if you can hold it in, which is the hardest part waiting for the right time, i would go with at her house you know so she doesn't drive to your house just to get broken up with. I think taking someone on a date and then breaking up with them seems dickish like hey dinner, a movie,... and little hearbreak. Work your way into it don't get there and be like hey this isn't working out, maybe get some pizza but that is as far in the date zone as you should go.
My Ex took me near a graveyard to dump me, and she got stung by a wasp before she did it to, i call that Karma, its why i love wasps now.
Why in the name of god would you break up with someone you call perfect?. Me thinks your the type who doesnt know what he has till its gone.
in anycase, be a man, look her face to face and just tell her, go to her house, ask to see her for a minute and drop the bombshell.
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Why in the name of god would you break up with someone you call perfect?. Me thinks your the type who doesnt know what he has till its gone.
in anycase, be a man, look her face to face and just tell her, go to her house, ask to see her for a minute and drop the bombshell.
WARNING: be advised to stay away from Woodland creatures for a 72 hours period.
Have break up sex. Anyway for the actual break up say that your both young and there is much to experience in the world (or some shit like that). Also if you can get her semi-liquored before hand that would help.
Are you serious? Seriously, matters of love are about what one feels, not what one deserves. If he doesn't love her anymore, there's no point in staying to try and regain that feeling, that's what broken marriages are made of.Donnyp said:
To OP, tell her in person and be honest, but not nasty or mean, and try to at least remain friends. But, think about it before you go through with it, because once it's done it's finished, but with your descriptions of her as "perfect", it seems like you're a little uncertain. Still, best of luck to ya.
I'm intrigued now because my relationship is currently like this...however the feelings of wanting to stay together are mutual. Still, why the 'gtfo' advice?Julianking93 said:
Be a complete douchebag to her for a couple of weeks. Then tell her it's not working for you. She won't care by that point.
You'll have spared her a lot of pain in the long run.
But be sure there is no salvaging the relationship, as I think you may regret breaking up with this girl years down the line.
You'll have spared her a lot of pain in the long run.
But be sure there is no salvaging the relationship, as I think you may regret breaking up with this girl years down the line.
Dude, what are you expecting to feel? Love is not tangeable. You said it yourself , she is awesome , it appears you have a great time with her, what else do you want at your age? A fairytale love story ?FlshrImp said:
I'll tell you from personal experience that if you'll do this , in a couple of months you will be banging your head against the wall because only after you lose her will you realise what you had.
So if you think you thought about it long and hard , think longer and harder because you don't seem to have a good reason.
If you'll still want to do it, good luck, just be honest and get it over with.
You describe her as been the "perfect" girlfriend (which, I'm assuming, you mean perfect for you), you clearly don't want to hurt her, and you must have liked her at some point otherwise the relationship wouldn't have gone as far as it already had. Are you sure you're not just wanting to back out because you're scared?
I agree with silasbufu and Insanum, I reckon you'll regret this in a few weeks.
If there is something you don't like about a person, then you should try talking it out with them first. If you feel she is moving too fast then tell her you want to slow down a little.
People who are about to break up with their boyfriends/girlfriends don't usually describe them as perfect...
I agree with silasbufu and Insanum, I reckon you'll regret this in a few weeks.
If there is something you don't like about a person, then you should try talking it out with them first. If you feel she is moving too fast then tell her you want to slow down a little.
People who are about to break up with their boyfriends/girlfriends don't usually describe them as perfect...