Gearabelle said:
In many cases when I hear of how to handle a bully telling a teacher is usually at the top of the list. But when I was growing up going to the teacher very often got me the lecture of being a 'tattletale' for saying so and so was saying hurtful things or even once getting a punishment for telling about a student who was flat out making me cry. Also some of my teachers have done things which I found out are not punishments that are looked upon favorably by many people and could even be considered illegal, such as one sticking me in the kindergarden classroom and bringing my classmates to laugh at me.
My point in mentioning this has made me wonder about the very question this is titled with: Can/Why will a teacher encourage/ignore or participate in bullying?
I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, I already know that some of what was done is wrong and I'm trying to get past it but this question had been bugging me as of late.
Captcha: Head case... Ow.
Sometimes, it's a matter of "What do you want me to do?" I was bullied during middle school, so I'm quite familiar with how it all happens. And now I'm a teacher. I take bullying very seriously myself, but very often it becomes a matter of not being able to do much.
Should I punish the kid? Well, you'd better be prepared to
prove what they did or said. If we punish the kid, and the parent demands to know why, and we claim to have just taken the other kid's word for it, we've got a fight on our hands.
Teachers don't win fights against parents, because parents can't get fired.
Should I give the bully a stern talking to? Okay, but he's going to ignore it, and he's going to know who told on him, so I don't imagine that helping a great deal.
If he called you names, and you called him something back, and he's just "better" at it or whatever, you've put me in an awkward position -- now it's just a fight you lost, not "bullying." If you're seeking out confrontations for the purposes of getting this guy in trouble, you're part of the problem to (more common than you might think). Basically, until one lays hands on the other, in the presence of witnesses, there's not much we
can do about a specific bully.
All I can really do is try to watch closer, when the kids are under my supervision, and catch it while it happens. And, as much as possible, I can keep the kids separate. But, as you may have pieced together, most bullying doesn't happen during class.
But other than that, we can just make a note, watch closely, and inform the parents. Teachers aren't an enforcement agency when it comes to discipline. We want to stop bullying, but it's not as easy as people seem to think.