Children, why do some hate them so mutch?

[Screamarie]

I have some various different reasons for disliking children. For one, as a woman, it pains me when women start talking about having kids as if it's the only thing they're good for. Trust me, there is nothing more awkward or annoying when, at 24, people ask me "Are you married? do you have kids?" and I say no because then I either get questions about why I don't or I get that look like "You're not getting any younger you know..."

Plus, I dread the thought of being pregnant. On top of the pain, discomfort, and general unpleasantries, people think that because you're pregnant you're a happy person who only wants to discuss babies and being a mom, because now that you ARE going to have a baby, that's all you're good for (That's not what I actually believe, it's just seems to be a prevading thought even in this day and age). Not to mention I'm a misanthrope to some extent and so the thought of people cooing over my baby belly, trying to touch it without permssion, and trying to tell me how to raise my child when I don't even know you, scares the ever loving hell out of me.

Then there's the actual child itself. Yes, they're cute and you love them and in the end it's worth it, but it comes with lots of hard work, sleepless nights, becoming extremely unselfish (which is something I am, selfish, not necessarily about money, but I like lots of time to be left alone to do what I like, with a baby/child that's difficult if not impossible to get), and the ability to do some AMAZINGLY disgusting things. At this point I have trouble cleaning the litter boxes, let alone opening up a diaper over 10 times a day. Not to mention they're LOUD! Not loud, LOUD! I'm a very quiet person, I don't like loud. Noise drives me crazy and I'd be worried I'd end up one of those mothers on the 9 o'clock news who "violently shook her baby to death!"

And finally, I...don't find kids all that cute. To me, they're cute for all of about...maybe an hour. And then I'm over it. They're just...annoying. They babble, they're disgusting, they have to be told repeatedly to do things, they break stuff, they have NO sense of personal space, and just lots of stuff I generally hate...and I get it, that's all part of being kids, they don't know this stuff, they're learning, and they have tiny attention spans, but I simply can't stand it. I tolerate it when visiting others and kids generally seem to love me, but the thought of waking up to that day after day for at LEAST 18 YEARS! makes me want to jump out of a window...from tapei 101...after it's been placed atop Mount Everest.

 

[The Thinker]

To quote this video [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r1tg46ScP8w] "Have you met children? They're a bunch of little psychopaths."

I suppose I should elaborate. They haven't learned to be nice rational people yet, so they aren't. And that scares me slightly. It reminds me how close everyone else is to deciding to start doing evil things for no reason. Like the Joker. Kinda. Never mind. Anyhow, they're uncivilized almost-people who would kill you sooner than look at you. Okay, maybe not, but they usually don't think rationally, either.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Children are mean and selfish. However, the truth is I don't hate children. I hate society's attitude to children. I fact, I just hate people and my disdain for children is merely an extention of a more general loathing.

 

[JohnnyDelRay]

I don't hate kids. In fact I do see them as amazing, in how they develop their personalities and learn things through trial and error on a day-to-day basis. Hell, it's very evident to me since I work in a preschool.

BUT.
I don't want any of my own. My reasons are a few, and simple. 1) I don't think I'll be a good dad. I think I'll be too selfish, as it is I'm already to wrapped up in my life and diminishing time and money to uphold responsibilities of a full-time job and married life. I know having a kid is like supposed to be a miracle and you're never going to worry about missing out on life again, but how long does that last really? I have no idea, so I'd rather not risk it.

2) I believe overpopulation to be a REAL problem, for everything in this world. Yesss, I know there are humanists and optimists who believe that there is more than enough for everybody, I agree with this, but that is a matter of people not being greedy and distributing accordingly (in a perfect world). But the chances of this happening are about as high as people suddenly not enjoying sex anymore. So, in my belief, I'd rather not contribute to this problem. You may say my concerns are misplaced, but hey, at least I'm going to try and stand by it. This may change some day, we are all dictated by chemical reactions after all, but as it stands, not kids for me.

 

[LadyxDevilish]

Well i can say i always thought kids were there... crying, yelling, puking, crapping, peeing machines too, i didnt have the patience for them and i couldnt stand their crying.
Later on i didnt mind them as mutch and liked them aslong as i didnt have to take care of them but the main reason was because i was simply scared of doing a shitty job at it, thought i would make the kid cry or something and it wouldnt stop.

But yeah in a good relationship things really change, feeling wise that is.
i have way more patience now, and im not at all bothered by their crying or creaming anymore.

I guess you need that certain part in your life and certain person And feeling to want such ?

 

[Yureina]

I... don't really know. The kids I tend to run into are okay, but I still tend to avoid them, as I do with everyone else.

I don't expect to have kids of my own though. It's just not something that interests me.

 

[Wierdguy]

Well... I utterly despise kids for three reasons:

1: I was forced to spend 2 weeks as a practicant in a daycare and assist in taking care of about 15 snot-nosed, noisy, anoying, hyperenergetic, whiny, unreasonable, incomprehensible, stupid, disgusting womp-rats. I came out of that without the murder of said 15 children tagged to my name through a small miracle.

2: I spent one 3 hour flight with a kid behind me who would just Not Shut The FUCK UP! I swear if that flight would of been just 5 min longer Id have thrown that siren through the god-damend window.

3: Parents of kids who generally go out of their way to protect them and thus cracking down on anything they considder even remotley offensive, immoral or otherwise "harmfull" to the pure uncorrupted saintlike little devil-spawned slimy worm-like offspring.

All in all whenever I see a kid who look as if theyre 7ish or below I do my best to just not be anywhere near it. God damn do I hate kids...

 

[AstylahAthrys]

Children can be a pain. They whine, cry, are rowdy and require a ton of patience. Most people, especially on here, who say they hate kids are still teenagers. Most teenagers don't have the necessary patience and nurturing skills that let adults like kids. Hell, I just recently got out of my "NO KIDS FOR ME EVAAARR" phase a month or so ago, and I'm almost 20 and hardwired with a biological clock that makes me fawn over cute little baby clothes and baby shoes. Thankfully my sister just had twins so it gets the baby bug out of me. Not even close to wanting to get pregnant right now.

 

[Vault101]

I'm not sure people hate kids so much as they hate the veneration they receive from some corners of society. In the eyes of some, particularly new parents, there is no higher calling than childbirth, and no more perfect being than their own offspring. Reproduction is fine...it's an a-priori compulsion. I get it. I understand. But when you are not in the throes of said compulsion, it can be hard to stomach the fanatical zeal with which people embrace the cult of children. So you come to view it with the same withering scorn that atheists often employ when discussing Christianity.

Also, children are loud and smelly and rude and generally profoundly irritating when you don't have a superhighway of hormones coursing through you.

yeah pretty much this

I like kids..but I really dont like the Idea of being a parent..and of coarse the way society thinks if you dont produce spawn your a failure of a human being (inb4 the evolution people start saying thats true...just shut up)

 

[Chewster]

I don't mind children and I am open to the possibility of them far in the future, but I also know that if I were to have one now, my life would essentially be over and I'd fuck it all up. Power to people who want them, but please do me a favour and teach them to not run around in stores, almost knocking me over? That gets old, rather quick.

In any case, I will leave you all with this sage wisdom which sums up my opinion (all credit to me, unless I heard it somewhere, in which case, all credit to whoever): Children are a lot like weddings. Fun when they aren't yours.

 

[Vault101]

I have some various different reasons for disliking children. For one, as a woman, it pains me when women start talking about having kids as if it's the only thing they're good for. Trust me, there is nothing more awkward or annoying when, at 24, people ask me "Are you married? do you have kids?" and I say no because then I either get questions about why I don't or I get that look like "You're not getting any younger you know..."

Plus, I dread the thought of being pregnant. On top of the pain, discomfort, and general unpleasantries, people think that because you're pregnant you're a happy person who only wants to discuss babies and being a mom, because now that you ARE going to have a baby, that's all you're good for (That's not what I actually believe, it's just seems to be a prevading thought even in this day and age). Not to mention I'm a misanthrope to some extent and so the thought of people cooing over my baby belly, trying to touch it without permssion, and trying to tell me how to raise my child when I don't even know you, scares the ever loving hell out of me.
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very true

I think ive grown to resent the very Idea of having children because the angry feminist inside of me says "really? is THIS what we're suposed to do? suposed to want more than anything?...fuck that..." kind of like marrage

I know I kind of already said this, but I think people would start looking at you funny if you get to a certain age and dont have children (but marrage at 24? jesus Im feeling old now )

 

[Chemical Alia]

I'm almost 30 and I've never felt a desire to have kids, not even for a minute. The thought of me raising kids feels more like a colossal punishment than anything else. It's not that I dislike kids, per se, but there's nothing about raising them that I find appealing, and that would also get in the way of my life's aspirations. Of course, for many people, having kids IS one of their main aspirations in life, so I can understand why people are put of by my point of view.

I'd love to be old some day and have family members to take care of me and have a great relationship like me and my mom, but not having that is something I'll just have to live with. I simply don't have any maternal instincts.

 

[game-lover]

I don't hate children. But I'm not exactly fond of them either.

They have smart mouths, can be spoiled and bratty and of course, cruel. You've heard that saying. Children can be cruel. I have babysat more than I have ever wanted because my stupid horny siblings didn't have the willpower to stop long enough to use some god damn protection and apparently being the youngest makes you the go to aunt.

But the big one is that they're so needy. As most things are when they're young and dependent. Yet this all basically culminates into the reasons where I dislike children and do not want any under any circumstances.

I would sooner babysit a fussy, cranky newborn that won't get to sleep than have to worry about a kid. Because they're needy but it's simple. Feed them breast milk, change diaper, burp, let sleep and repeat.

And then when they hit about 2 or 3 years old, I never have to deal with them again.

 

[Auron225]

I don't really understand the hatred either - it does seem to be irrational at times. Personally Id love to have kids someday (3 or 4, 2 minimum).

For those here that say they hate children - ALL children? Can anyone name a child they don't hate?

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

I don't hate all kids I just hate some kids. Just like I hate some adults.

 

[Tonimata]

I tend to love children a lot, I've worked in taking care of them for 4 odd years, and I've had the chance to take care of children aged only in a few months up to 10 years of age, and I've enjoyed not only taking care of them physically, but also teaching them values, and overall, getting to know them and play with them is a very enriching experience.

On the other hand, I've also had to deal with some right brats who had crossed way beyond the line of possible redemption. This just proves how very unprepared some parents are to have children, to the point that they're merely engrossing the population of dysfunctional adults in the world. I'm of the opinion that, if someone is to have children, first they should prove that they're able of taking the responsibility and produce something other than a complete and utter failure of a human, at all and any levels.

 

[Skulltaker101]

I can see why folks would wish to have children, but I'd like to recall a little something that happened at school that more or less made up my mind about having offspring of my own:

Two art teachers arrived at school. One brought her baby, which cried and screamed and promptly shat on everything. Aside from this, I just can't see human babies being very cute. They look grotesque, their voices are disgusting (this is by natural design, but I hate it all the same), and I really have to hold this fixed grin when someone brings theirs to a social gathering.

The other teacher brought puppies. PUPPIES! They are sweet, cute, fluffy, inquisitive and when they're sad or scared, they give a little whine and cuddle up to the nearest person or grown-up dog they can find. Sure, they're just as likely to pee and poop everywhere, but they learn not to do so much faster than a human, they cost less to feed and take care of, and...well...they're PUPPIES!!!

So yes, by all means reproduce if it is what suits you. I'm sure that many of you fine folks will be great parents someday. It's just that between seeing babies and meeting the children of Skyrim, I'm going to say no to the whole concept and just go and save some adorable baby dogs. Best of luck folks!

 

[requisitename]

I like my nieces most of the time. I don't care for other children, though. It mostly has to do with the fact that I'm very sound sensitive and kids are generally loud. They make me physically uncomfortable, so I try to avoid them. However, I don't hate them. I sometimes hate their parents, though, for egging them on when they're being annoying little fucks in public.

On the subject of having children: I'm 35 and I don't want them. I've never wanted them. Thankfully, I'm finally to an age where people generally don't question whether I actually know what I want in life. It's been several years since I've heard, "Oh, you'll want them someday!"

That makes me happy.

 

[Vault101]

I like my nieces most of the time. I don't care for other children, though. It mostly has to do with the fact that I'm very sound sensitive and kids are generally loud. They make me physically uncomfortable, so I try to avoid them. However, I don't hate them. I sometimes hate their parents, though, for egging them on when they're being annoying little fucks in public.

On the subject of having children: I'm 35 and I don't want them. I've never wanted them. Thankfully, I'm finally to an age where people generally don't question whether I actually know what I want in life. It's been several years since I've heard, "Oh, you'll want them someday!"

That makes me happy.

(assuming your male...apologies if thats not the case)

do you think the attitude you get from other people would be different if you were female? I mean for women "marrage and kids" are still considered very common and desirable things....and I cant say from experience but perhaps there is a stigma attatched to women eho dont eant children? since not wanting children cousl even be considered "unatural"

 

[Jazoni89]

Kids I find generally okay until they get around seven or eight, then they turn into cocky little shits who will not leave you alone even when you kindly ask them to.

They stay like this until they are sixteen, then they ask you to leave them alone.

Funny how it comes full circle.

I'm in my twenties, so I have a low tolerance for them, so when I see them playing around my flat, on the concrete porch overlooking the garages, I always have the temptation to shout out that this is a residential area, and you should be playing in the park just a couple of meters up the road.

Also, this song explains just how I feel about modern day British children.