Children, why do some hate them so mutch?

[Techno Squidgy]

I have read and seen on this site as well as many others, that a lot of people have really strong opinions on having children.
Some people even show hate/disgust towards this topic, and i wonder why is that?

Isn't having a child something that should be seen as a good thing?
No matter how bad you feel about yourself or the world around you, you are putting something on the world, and You have the chance to help it develop and learn.
To help it understand, and to love.
Some also say they see them only as something that costs money, Ofcourse they cost money, you will need to help them raise to the fine person it can become.
Wouldnt you feel proud, and satisfied seeing your child grow up to be a great person?
Not to mention seeing your family name go on, and holding something that is a piece of you.

I have great understanding to people who wouldnt like or want kids, but i simply dont understand how some people can put forward such hatred/disgust for it.

My mum is a childminder. For the last 15 years of my life (I'm 18 in April), I have had other people's children in my house. Children are terrible. They scream, they cry, they shit, they piss, they vomit, they break things. Why anyone would ever want to have children is currently beyond my scope of comprehension. During breaks from College or school I'm woken up at 7:00 in the morning by somebody else's 'little angel'.

It's not even just the young ones that are bad. The older ones, 5 and up, are just as bad. They throw tantrums, they get into fights with each other, they steal each others toys. The parents wonder why I glare at them in the mornings, why I refuse to hug their brats when they leave, why I don't have the same fake smile on my face that my mum does as they try and wrangle their children into the car.

I don't believe it's entirely the child's fault though. I blame the parents. Particularly this one couple. They are Career parents. They want to have their cake and eat it. They want kids, and to work full time jobs as well. They enforce soem ridiculous food regime on their children, forcing them to eat healthy, which makes them steal other kids' snacks. They get home from work tired so they can't be bothered to stand up to their children. SO they think they can do whatever they want. You try and tell them otherwise, and they have a tantrum. It can take in excess of an hour to make these kids shut-up, and it stretches my mum's will power to the breaking point to not give in. Personally I'd just smack the fuckers. If my parent's ever laid a hand on me as a child, I KNEW I was in the wrong. But we can't do that, and they certainly won't. These kids are going to grow up to be arseholes and will most likely end up in prison or dead-end jobs.


I've seen more than enough of the bad side of children to know I'm not having kids for a VERY long time.

 

[CrazyGirl17]

I dunno, I like kids (so cute and innocent!) but when they get older... Well, I can see how they'd get on some people's nerves, though.

 

[boag]

I have read and seen on this site as well as many others, that a lot of people have really strong opinions on having children.
Some people even show hate/disgust towards this topic, and i wonder why is that?

Isn't having a child something that should be seen as a good thing?
No matter how bad you feel about yourself or the world around you, you are putting something on the world, and You have the chance to help it develop and learn.
To help it understand, and to love.
Some also say they see them only as something that costs money, Ofcourse they cost money, you will need to help them raise to the fine person it can become.
Wouldnt you feel proud, and satisfied seeing your child grow up to be a great person?
Not to mention seeing your family name go on, and holding something that is a piece of you.

I have great understanding to people who wouldnt like or want kids, but i simply dont understand how some people can put forward such hatred/disgust for it.

Because most people on this site are just reaching or havent reached their early 20s?

you see what I did there?
I generalized.

Generalizations are bad, in General.

 

[Soods]

They're small, loud and stupid. Sometimes cocky, small, loud and stupid. I have heard stories of kids that aren't loud, but I have never witnessed such a miracle.
Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being a kid, in fact, I was one when I was younger, but I just don't like being around them.

 

[appleblush]

Well, children are loud, often obnoxious, eat a lot of food, and tend to be sticky. If an adult were like this, then there would be no question as to why no one like him and he lives in his parents basement, and some people can't make the connection that children are young and will grow out of it, and also have many much more likable characteristics. Like being compassionate, and charmingly naive. The other problem is, not everyone likes these characteristics or cares how cute they are, especially in young adults and teenagers who might not have developed that parental instinct yet.

That said, I love kids and coo every time I pass a stroller in a way that is probably very creepy even though it's not intended to be. But I also tend to be pretty good with kids in small quantities. The other issue is people who tend to dislike kids put up the "I don't like kids" to hide the real issue which is "I don't think I can handle kids". Men especially tend to do this, not because they actually don't like kids, but because they see kids as fragile, growing minds that their immature, male testosterone could break or corrupt without a second glance, and it concerns them. That isn't really hate of course, but it's much easier for someone to say "I hate kids" than say "I'm afraid I simply don't have the personality to help a child grow to their full potential".

EDIT: And on a side note, most people who really like kids have either a very compassionate personality, or are very biased in which kids they like. I for instance, tend to see most kids that I haven't had the opportunity to be molded by my superior mind, are loud, selfish, bratty, and break everything they touch, but then I tend to see their parents are really really bad parents in one way or another. To my credit though, everyone says the kids I help raise are adorable angels with soft temperaments who speak at a 6th grade level (despite being in kindergarten). Perhaps I'm just some kind of magic. In summary, the answer to your problem is, if every child in the world were like me, no one would hate children.

 

[TheMadJayWoman]

As someone who has never been particularly interested in spawning (if/when I ever choose to parent, I'm perfectly happy to foster or adopt a kid), I don't understand why I've had to spend so much of my life being ostracised for not having such desires. There's such an insane emphasis on having children - I mean as a woman why would I want to do anything else, right? When you're a non-breeder, plenty of people treat you like a freak. Furthermore, much of your adult life will be compromised "for the sake of the children" which is usually just an excuse for people not to parent. That sort of atmosphere tends to make you really antagonistic towards children and their guardians.

Most people who become parents don't do so out of some altruistic feeling toward society and humankind. Heck, many become parents because they can't figure out how to use birth control. People have kids because their religion/social order tells them to (you know - breed out the savages and heretics!), they want to see their genes mirrored back at them, because that's what you do at a certain age, because they need something to love them - lots of really selfish reasons. I don't know anyone who sat down with their significant other and decided "we have the genes, the intellectual capability and the psychological stability to bring forth the best possible contribution to the next generation of humanity."

I don't care to be around most children because they are children, i.e. not fully formed adults. They haven't developed adult values and concepts - empathy, volume control, not everything you think needs to be said out loud, you don't get everything you want right when you want it, etc, etc. That being said, I would much rather be in presence of children who aren't old enough to have learned these skills than adults who just can't be bothered to develop them.

 

[GamerAddict7796]

I've always got along with kids, maybe being the oldest child helped. But I love children, even other people's. I get along with them better than I do with adults and I don't get the whole 'Stupid, ugly, worthless' argument as I have met more adults like that then I have children.
I plan to have children, in a decade or 2, and I KNOW it will be awesome!

 

[TheLastSamurai14]

Because one of the little fuckers BIT ME in a goddamn store! Then when I screamed bloody murder-with much profanity, primarily "roody-poo" "******" and "fuckface" his mom got all pissy, when I pulled the ultimate trump card, "GET YOUR CUMSPAWN CHECKED OUT, I HAVE AIDS! YEAH THAT'S RIGHT, RUN YOU WORTHLESS WHORE!"
I really, really, REALLY do NOT like most kids, they're selfish, rude fucks who usually have horrible parents.

I have a friend whose cousin did the exact same thing in that situation, and I'll be doing it myself if I get bit. I mean really, how ill-mannered and inconsiderate do their parents have to be in order to give birth to shit like this. It's not fun for anyone, and if someone with a rude kid just tells me that "He's my little miracle and I love him and you're just being mean" I will punch them in the genitals to make sure that no more of them spawn.

In short, I really don't like them either. And my girlfriend and I have resolved to never have kids, primarily because of the overpopulation issue (because people can't bother to wear a fucking condom when they have more than enough kids) and also because they're just little shits in general.

 

[Elgnirp100]

In the eternal words of Dr. Cox...
"They're loud, you can't understand them, they're like tiny cab drivers."

 

[RickyRich]

I'm not against people having kids, and I know I'll eventually have some. It's other people's kids that I can't stand. They are nothing but nosy little bags of germs that have not learned to cover their mouths when they sneeze or cough. And this goes specifically for my neighbor's kids, they are dumb as rocks. I know as a kid I wasn't a rocket scientist, but unlike kids now, I wasn't completely retarded. These kids are about 12 and 8 and can hardly read, they have to be the dumbest kids on the fucking planet, but they come over to play my Xbox because I'm like their big brother.The big brother that hates them with a passion!

 

[Doc Theta Sigma]

I was doing the grocery shopping yesterday and as I was walking around the supermarket I noticed most of the kids were with greasy, pikey looking motherfuckers. The type that live in squalor and keep pumping out kids like frogs. Yet those types will refer to them as their little angels when in reality, they're little shits. Honestly. Can those people not stop their rutting? Just for a fucking year?

I volunteer in a primary school and I'm training to be a teaching assistant. I work with children who... Well. They're not special needs but they have difficulty reading and writing. It gets difficult to keep a smiling face and to surpress frustration sometimes. They're Year 4 so... Hm. 7 or 8 years old? And I just don't understand it. Nobody was like that when I was their age. Everyone could read and write by age 7.

 

[Tuesday Night Fever]

I don't hate children. I hate annoying children.

That said, I won't be having any children. Frankly, I think I'd be an awful parent.

On the very remote chance that someday I change my mind though... I'll be adopting. There are way too many children that have already been brought into the world who have no homes or families to care for them.