It wouldn't be any kind of issue for me. I dated a bisexual girl for a while, things didn't work out but her sexuality wasn't a factor in that.
Could you be attracted to a bisexual?
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I couldn't care less. I really don't see how it would matter. Though, to be fair, I'm not so attracted to men that I'd call myself "bisexual" (if only because I don't want to announce that I'm "in" to both genders when there's not much chance I'd actually date a guy), but I've definitely felt some inklings of romantic attraction towards men before, so I guess I can empathize a bit?
I think the reason why people are a little leary of bi's not being monogamous is that its harder to catch them cheating with their same gender. If it was your bi gf and she was staying at some other guy's place for an evening, most guys would see that as a giant red flag that something might be going on. On the other hand, if your bi gf was staying the night at one of her female friends houses. You might consider it in the back of your head for a moment that she might be cheating on you, but its alot harder to prove or call her out for it.
I'm sure a lot of Bi women are aware of this and take advantage of that. It's enough to drive most men paranoid so we try not to think about it. Most people are opportunists. Bisexual's are no exception. Some are faithful, most are not. Been the guy in that scenario more times than i can remember. It's actually a relief to be with a straight girl for a change. Every other relationship i've ever had was with a bi girl.
I'm sure a lot of Bi women are aware of this and take advantage of that. It's enough to drive most men paranoid so we try not to think about it. Most people are opportunists. Bisexual's are no exception. Some are faithful, most are not. Been the guy in that scenario more times than i can remember. It's actually a relief to be with a straight girl for a change. Every other relationship i've ever had was with a bi girl.
If I was attracted to someone, it would not be deterred whether they were bisexual, homosexual, heterosexual, asexual or pansexual. Granted, any of these different things would change how I interact with them. For example, knowing a girl is homosexual would put out of my head the idea of trying to start a relationship. They wouldn't want it and that's okay.
Ha! Yeah, I have no problem with discovering that one thing I have in common with a girl is an attraction to girls.
Actually, Id say I have the opposite problem: I feel mildly bad about bisexuality being a slight turn on. I know that that's a horribly piggish part of my brain speaking but hey, there it is.
Actually, Id say I have the opposite problem: I feel mildly bad about bisexuality being a slight turn on. I know that that's a horribly piggish part of my brain speaking but hey, there it is.
short answer, im a straight guy and im dating a bisexual girl. it doesn?t bother me in the least.
I like to think that it would be no object--there's still the compatibility between the two of us on the sexual attraction level--but thinking about it, it might actually be weirder for me than I think. I can't justify it any further than some vague, incredibly stupid gut associations I have with bisexual people. I think I could get over it, though, given that I'd actually know the person.
The majority of women I've dated/hooked up with wave been/are bisexual, but the only factor on the sexuality checklist is "Attracted to men, female" (I'm heterosexual). Other than that, it doesn't matter to me.
My schools population is basically 27% female bi so I know quite a few I could start a relationship with.
But my 'preferences' tend to go towards girls who are mostly bi, but I dont care.
But my 'preferences' tend to go towards girls who are mostly bi, but I dont care.
When I was between 17 and 27, most of the girls I dated were bi-sexual. I even ad-libbed a Morrissey style joke song called "All my exes are bi-sexual" at band practice one night.
After the first one, the fact that they were bi-sexual didn't have an impact on my attraction. Being young, my first thoughts about dating a bi-sexual girl were:Hey, my chances of being in a male-female-female threesome just went up exponentially.
There were a couple of times that I felt like I was being trapped. She would talk about girls she found attractive, or movie stars, or whatever. It was strange to be watching a movie and thinking "In a perfect world, I would so do _actress name here_" only to have my date tell me just about the same thing. Having dated a girl who would actually bait me into complimenting her only to use what I said as an excuse for an argument (cognitive dissonance at work. She thought she was crap, so if I said she wasn't, I must have been lying...and then the fight started), I wasn't sure if she was just sharing because she felt comfortable enough with me, or if she was waiting for me to say the same thing and launch into a chorus of "so, I'm not enough for you?"
I also used to wear my hair long, being in a band thing and all that - but even before. I noticed that most of the bi-girls I dated told me that my hair was one of the first things they noticed/were attracted to. My longest term bi-sexual girlfriend was completely against me having any type of facial hair. As strange as it might sound, it was almost like her interest in me waned the more "traditionally masculine" I appeared.
After the first one, the fact that they were bi-sexual didn't have an impact on my attraction. Being young, my first thoughts about dating a bi-sexual girl were:Hey, my chances of being in a male-female-female threesome just went up exponentially.
There were a couple of times that I felt like I was being trapped. She would talk about girls she found attractive, or movie stars, or whatever. It was strange to be watching a movie and thinking "In a perfect world, I would so do _actress name here_" only to have my date tell me just about the same thing. Having dated a girl who would actually bait me into complimenting her only to use what I said as an excuse for an argument (cognitive dissonance at work. She thought she was crap, so if I said she wasn't, I must have been lying...and then the fight started), I wasn't sure if she was just sharing because she felt comfortable enough with me, or if she was waiting for me to say the same thing and launch into a chorus of "so, I'm not enough for you?"
I also used to wear my hair long, being in a band thing and all that - but even before. I noticed that most of the bi-girls I dated told me that my hair was one of the first things they noticed/were attracted to. My longest term bi-sexual girlfriend was completely against me having any type of facial hair. As strange as it might sound, it was almost like her interest in me waned the more "traditionally masculine" I appeared.
Well I like that I'm not the first one to comment that Scarlett Johansson looked banging in The Avengers. So having a bisexual girlfriend is fine with me haha.
Heh... I think most men wouldn't mind, if it meant that it increased their chances of having a FFM type threesome.
Honestly I am not fussed if a girl is bisexual. As long as they are monogamous I couldn't care. I believe in what Bender said at the end of " A Beast With A Billion Backs" "Bender knows love, and love doesn't share itself with the world. Love is suspicious, love is needy. Love is fearful, love is greedy. My friends, there is no great love without great jealousy!". I'd be suspicious of a partner that didn't sometimes express distaste of certain actions or slight jealousy sometimes.
Yeah I don't see why not. I mean it's not really a problem for me, since it be a bisexual woman that I'd be into in that case, their own preferences aren't usually a problem with me. if they're lesbian i have to remind myself of that to avoid getting hurt later.
I suppose I'd be wrong to conclude it impossible, but I'd be more likely to joke that I'd "turn a straight girl lesbian..."Mimsofthedawg said:
I really don't see the problem with dating someone whos bi, if they are faithful to ya does it really matter in any way?
Heck actually...Dating a bisexual would increase the chances she would be interested in a threesome or kinkier, so yeh, really struggling to find negatives here.
Heck actually...Dating a bisexual would increase the chances she would be interested in a threesome or kinkier, so yeh, really struggling to find negatives here.