Could You Date A Transexual?
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If I find a person attractive, I would consider dating them. I find feminine features attractive.
Now, brutal honesty, I haven't seen that many MtoF transsexuals who didn't look a little mannish. Of course, I've seen born-females who look a little mannish, too. Not particularly attracted to either one. (Morgan Webb is kinda my standard for this -- her strong jaw is about the extent of masculine features I can tolerate and still find attractive. If you look manlier than Morgan Webb, then I'm sorry, but I'm probably not gonna be interested.)
But I have seen transsexuals who look 100% feminine, and I'm not ashamed to admit I found them attractive. Heck, the prettiest one I've seen was pre-op, but post-HRT, and honestly, I would not hesitate. In other words, if I like the way you look with your pants on, what's in your pants isn't going to make much difference to me. (Unless it's obscenely hairy, but that's an entirely different sort of hang-up.)
Now, brutal honesty, I haven't seen that many MtoF transsexuals who didn't look a little mannish. Of course, I've seen born-females who look a little mannish, too. Not particularly attracted to either one. (Morgan Webb is kinda my standard for this -- her strong jaw is about the extent of masculine features I can tolerate and still find attractive. If you look manlier than Morgan Webb, then I'm sorry, but I'm probably not gonna be interested.)
But I have seen transsexuals who look 100% feminine, and I'm not ashamed to admit I found them attractive. Heck, the prettiest one I've seen was pre-op, but post-HRT, and honestly, I would not hesitate. In other words, if I like the way you look with your pants on, what's in your pants isn't going to make much difference to me. (Unless it's obscenely hairy, but that's an entirely different sort of hang-up.)
Not unless I knew form the beginning and grew to love her in the light of that knowledge.
Even then, I'd still find it icky.
There's nothing wrong with it, but I'd find it difficult.
Even then, I'd still find it icky.
There's nothing wrong with it, but I'd find it difficult.
Thank you for your nice words, i feel more secure thinking about it knowing im not hurting anyones feelings :3 I just desire to be honest with myself and always scrutinize the way i think in terms of how it affects other people. I think thats what makes someone a real man or woman. This topic makes me feel sad because i feel hypocritical and mean to people for no real reason. Its funny how people think about it in terms of sex though. I did too. I thought "Would i bang a transexual if you put them in front of me and said go" and my answer was no. But id probably say no for a LOT of girls because to be honest i dont subscribe to basless sex with random people, i didnt frame the question in the right context for me. I think the most important question, what the OP was semi asking but what matters to me, is can i LOVE a transexual. Could i fall in love with a person who identified as trans. And i think i could, i cant see any reason why i couldnt. I know if i loved a trans person as much as i love my girlfriend now i wouldnt care. If my girlfriend said she was trans i wouldnt take any issue at all because i love her totally and in that context it couldnt matter less. When i frame it in terms of love it becomes easy. Its easy to frame in terms if just sex but as steven fry once said:7moreDead said:If more people could approach matters like this be it about gender, race, creed etc The world would be lot happier I feel - It's honest and isn't trying to hide behind a stonewall of intolerance and appears open to change (Much respect ^^) I also possibly worded all that wrong as my head is in rant mode xD
"The idea that really spins their melon and sickens their stomachs is that most terrible and terrifying of all human notions, love. Love in all eight tones and all five semitones of the world's full octave. Love as Agape, Eros and Philos; love as infatuation, obsession and lust; love as torture, euphoria, ecstasy and oblivion love as need, passion and desire."
I wonder if the OP said "Can you see yourself falling totally in love with a transexual, if you did would it be a deal breaker for you?" i imagine the question would get people to think a lot harder.
I think that has been discussed here before, and i think you would be shocked at the responses.BiscuitTrouser said:
Would I date a transexual?
That depends on whether they can tell me if the rag smells like chloroform or not.
That depends on whether they can tell me if the rag smells like chloroform or not.
Beautiful Tragedy said:
Serious answer of the day number 2 (if I keep this up, people may think I have actual human thoughts instead of verging on Monkey).
Quoted you both to get the original question and back up B's "shocking response" retort.
If i'm willing to date a Trans Woman then i'm more than willing to fall in love with one.
I'm a tad bit too old now to be dating just for the hell of it and would hope to progress further than that if it ever did happen.
The idea of dating for no reason seems a bit daft to me. I'll grant you that i'm way out of touch with the dating scene and have no idea how to go about it now (my wife said that if we ever split up, the only woman i'd find is at the Bingo .... she likes calling me old .... even though she's older .... it's madness) but i'm pretty sure if I was dating a Trans Woman it would be for a more meaningful reason than a coffee and kiss.
I'm in that same boat but hanging my feet over the edge. (LONG story- needless to say, my wife is dating these days, and NOT me.) Anyway, At my age, it terrifies me to start dating again. Plus being pre-op makes things a little more challenging if a physical relationship was to evolve.Rawne1980 said:
What's wrong with a coffee and kiss? that could be the start of a beautiful relationship (Tragedy).
Also if Rawne splits with his wife, i claim him!
I think I'm getting sick, so if I take that comment differently then forgive me.Zachary Amaranth said:
But to be fair, I don't consider every single guy that I've ran into dating material because I do have standards.
And how do you know what peoples' chromosones are saying?Blargh McBlargh said:
Are you a Chromosone Whisperer?
If I had a dollar for everytime I've been told that I could buy me a Russian Wife!Fiz_The_Toaster said:
I'd buy a fancy house personally.RhombusHatesYou said:
Don't get me wrong because I'm not the pinnacle of beauty, but I don't use that as a throw away phrase as in appearance.
Mainly personality traits.
Are you fucking kidding me? You are asking me for a fucking citation for my own fucking opinion. Do you realize how fucking stupid that sounds?Zachary Amaranth said:
Hmmm... dunno if I've been told enough to buy a fancy house... maybe some nice beach front property in the country.Fiz_The_Toaster said:
Maybe. I likely would pursue not knowing. but i also don't think its near as deep a judgement of a person any more than.. well ya know not dating out of your actual gender preference. For one, no offense I don't think most people date for serious business but recreational stuff. Now they may not need a lot of convincing to stand by their date in face of some disapproval. But I don't consider it some moral statement if someone just doesn't want to date a transexual. I realize though I'm saying this from the position of the cisgendered and a part of the process of being trans is that doubt or fear "will I ever be who I know I should be" Being denied the markers or acceptance or potential options of the gender they assume as to the sex they were born with. However my empathy extends only so far. I would not feel personally happy dating a transexual same as someone paralyzed, blind, mental ill, or even with cancer. I am exceedingly shallow wanting a partner whole and abled bodied first with no ahem history. At the least at the start.
I will say this. The sooner we get over the idea transexuals exist as some attack on your msculinity/sexual identity the better. I have shortly beleived that and for the longest part of my life not bought into it. I will admit I disagreed or disliked the idea of hormone treatments, body modification, or assuming a social role that by their admission is a social construct as a response but internet and personal interaction has told me this isn't some ... mistake or wrong thing on their part. but more critical than ANY of that is the idea they went through that whole process for a bunch of strangers just to "trick" them.
I will say this. The sooner we get over the idea transexuals exist as some attack on your msculinity/sexual identity the better. I have shortly beleived that and for the longest part of my life not bought into it. I will admit I disagreed or disliked the idea of hormone treatments, body modification, or assuming a social role that by their admission is a social construct as a response but internet and personal interaction has told me this isn't some ... mistake or wrong thing on their part. but more critical than ANY of that is the idea they went through that whole process for a bunch of strangers just to "trick" them.
YAY! well, you'd have to deal with a aging-teenager your self lolRawne1980 said:
Second puberty FTL
We can always dream.RhombusHatesYou said:
Although, I'd image beach front property would be easier.