Could You Date A Transexual?
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I'd like to think I'm open minded, but I wouldn't know unless I was in that scenario.
There are a few problems however.
1, If I was aware of their transition, I'm not confident I would see past that. Again, I'd like to think I'm open minded, but I have had no experience engaging with a transsexual (that I'm aware of) and can't say how I would react to that knowledge.
2, I'd prefer to know in advance... this is pretty much a catch 22 for the individual I'm courting. If they don't tell me right away this could create a problem in the future if we are still together. But if they did tell me we would be back to the first problem. One could say I could be kept in complete ignorance of the fact, but there are a few scenarios where the truth can slip. Dealing with their family and planning a family as examples. This would create a double whammy effect (betrayal of trust and coming to terms with that bomb of a revelation) and I'd seriously question the viability of a relationship in that situation.
Finally, I have a slight issue with surgical modification. It's mostly irrational, but I can't shake it... I have a strong preference for naturals. This isn't just against transgendered individuals, but everyone. Heck, it doesn't even have to be surgical, I find a lot of cosmetic "improvements" towards women off putting. Hair dye (within reason), Nail Varnish and fake nails (I just think it looks tacky), Eye Liner (its face painting), Shaved pits and pubic regions... It's weird that we are living in a world where attraction to a completely natural form is considered fetishistic.
I'm NOT totally intolerant to these things, but to the extend and frequency that most girls I know use them, I have issues. It betrays more self confidence issues then it hides superficial flaws.
In short I have a strong preference for Au Naturales.
There are a few problems however.
1, If I was aware of their transition, I'm not confident I would see past that. Again, I'd like to think I'm open minded, but I have had no experience engaging with a transsexual (that I'm aware of) and can't say how I would react to that knowledge.
2, I'd prefer to know in advance... this is pretty much a catch 22 for the individual I'm courting. If they don't tell me right away this could create a problem in the future if we are still together. But if they did tell me we would be back to the first problem. One could say I could be kept in complete ignorance of the fact, but there are a few scenarios where the truth can slip. Dealing with their family and planning a family as examples. This would create a double whammy effect (betrayal of trust and coming to terms with that bomb of a revelation) and I'd seriously question the viability of a relationship in that situation.
Finally, I have a slight issue with surgical modification. It's mostly irrational, but I can't shake it... I have a strong preference for naturals. This isn't just against transgendered individuals, but everyone. Heck, it doesn't even have to be surgical, I find a lot of cosmetic "improvements" towards women off putting. Hair dye (within reason), Nail Varnish and fake nails (I just think it looks tacky), Eye Liner (its face painting), Shaved pits and pubic regions... It's weird that we are living in a world where attraction to a completely natural form is considered fetishistic.
I'm NOT totally intolerant to these things, but to the extend and frequency that most girls I know use them, I have issues. It betrays more self confidence issues then it hides superficial flaws.
In short I have a strong preference for Au Naturales.
Could I date a transsexual? Yeah.
Though most likely I may not end up dating at all at this rate.
I would add more content to this post but I am too busy marveling at all the bizarre rules people are putting up in relation to transsexuals. The whole "would like to know beforehand" thing bothers me because quite literally they are whatever they identify as anyway. Seems unnecessarily discriminatory.
Another troublesome thing is how people compare the act of dating another human along the same lines of some sort of fictional pornography.
Though most likely I may not end up dating at all at this rate.
I would add more content to this post but I am too busy marveling at all the bizarre rules people are putting up in relation to transsexuals. The whole "would like to know beforehand" thing bothers me because quite literally they are whatever they identify as anyway. Seems unnecessarily discriminatory.
Another troublesome thing is how people compare the act of dating another human along the same lines of some sort of fictional pornography.
You know, it doesn't mean because I enjoy Futanari Hentai comics, I will enjoy this in real life.
Seriously now, nope, I will never do something like that. Reason? Because I know deep inside me......want his penis deep inside me......
Seriously now, nope, I will never do something like that. Reason? Because I know deep inside me......want his penis deep inside me......
As long as I am attracted to them, I don't see a problem. Men are easier to get along with; but I worry that the crazy amount of hormones required to make the switch would fuck with her newly acquired female brain. Then I'd be back to square one regarding whether or not I want to put up with this person.
Its funny you should mention Questionable Content because it really shows the lack of severity the question actually poses. Martin and Clare are just going on a date for a wedding. He is bringing his friend along as a formality and for company and it doesn't need to be anything more then that. Not wanting to be in a relationship or have sex with someone who is one thing, but if you are just plain embarrassed to be seen with them then you aren't being very good friend. It makes me wonder how many people's answers would change if they considered the question like that, a "friends" date if you will.Tanis said:
Hmm, well it would take longer to form a relationship and I'd have to be really really sure I was into her before I... Would let myself get into her. Also the surgery would have to be really good because overly masculine women are not at all appealing to me.
Absolutely! I am Pansexual, and MtF... I would have ZERO problem dating a trans girl (MAYBE a trans guy, but i am more into female types).
I won't get into the misinformed statements, as I am not the argumentative type anymore.
let me add one note... Gender Dysphoria is no longer considered a mental illness (because it's NOT), it's a physical deformity.
I won't get into the misinformed statements, as I am not the argumentative type anymore.
let me add one note... Gender Dysphoria is no longer considered a mental illness (because it's NOT), it's a physical deformity.
Of course its not bad. By the way she acted she has never had the chance to wear a formal dress before, so this is basically a belated prom night for her. Even though I saw Claire being the date coming I still got all giddy when reading this comic.D Moness said:
I'd be perfectly fine with FtM, MtF, genderqueer or any variation thereof, in the hypothetical case I'd ever want a relationship in the first place. I would be more concerned, however, with how easily I could offend them by saying the wrong thing (I'm a bit of a moron in that regard).
No. Harsh as it may sound, and I've said this to transgendered people I am friends with, when it comes to sexual attraction I do not see transexuals as the gender they wish to be. If a man wants to be treated like a woman or visa versa, then that's ok. But while mentally I would consider them the gender of their choosing, physically and sexually I would not.
So, as a straight male, I could not be attracted to a MtF transexual. Although I don't think I could be attracted to a FtM transexual either, for completely the opposite reasons I've stated. If a woman thinks themselves a man and physically changes themselves to be so, I would not be attracted to them. Bit of a catch-22.
So, as a straight male, I could not be attracted to a MtF transexual. Although I don't think I could be attracted to a FtM transexual either, for completely the opposite reasons I've stated. If a woman thinks themselves a man and physically changes themselves to be so, I would not be attracted to them. Bit of a catch-22.
Yup, I could and would date a transsexual(If I felt myself physically/emotionally attracted to them), if the opportunity presented itself. This post coulda used a poll. ^^
Exactly... my parents couldn't not have children (or rather chose not to due to a genetic "condition" in my father family. They chose not to "spread it" to their bio children), so they adopted my self and my older brother.TheLion said:
And right there you've pretty much got it all wrong from a base standpoint. Pretty much all of us Transgendered people have the mental framework of the target sex, not the other way around. There's no such thing as a "newly acquired female brain": the brain is already female, the body is not. The therapies and surgeries are to physically align the body as much as possible with one's mental image and thought patterns. The hormone treatments help, not fuck up our brain chemistry.DevilWithaHalo said: