Don't worry about it. I actually prefer people like yourself who are curious, since people like that actually treat us more like people than most others do.Cry Wolf said:
Could You Date A Transexual?
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I would like to think so, but I really wouldn't know until it happened. I guess it would depend on the person and how I felt about them.
I feel I can answer this, somewhat.Lieju said:
I was originally going to answer `No, because I want children`, but there is a trend of people who seem offended by people wanting to have their biological children.
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly four years, and if we found out he could not have children, I would be deeply upset. But I wouldn't leave him, because I love him.
I might, however, avoid entering a relationship with someone who I know from the beginning I wouldn't be able to have kids with.
It's one of my life goals, and I don't feel I should be judged in a game of `I'm more enlightened than you` for it. (Not that I'm saying you're doing that, but it happens).
Quadocky said:
Sure
Ya it's not "acting" anything, it's what I AM... I was born in the wrong body and i am just making efforts to change that mistake.
Interesting.Quadocky said:
So somehow both "sides" feel that the other is being hostile towards them?
Seems like a real clusterf*ck if you ask me.
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I would never date a transsexual, but I will defend their freedom to do with their bodies as they please, their freedom to live their lives pursue their dreams and their happiness for this freedom should be had by everyone, as long as they do not seek to use their freedom to harm others.
Which is incidentally also my reasoning when it comes to gay marriage and the equal rights:
They should be free to do as they please and have the same possibilites as individuals of any other sexual orientation, for there are no reasons to impose restrictions upon their freedom other than prejudice and hatred.
But what does any of that have to do with being physically attracted to someone? I'm not attracted to 90-year old ladies either, it doesn't mean I think they're sub-human.Quadocky said:
I can't force my body to be attracted to someone when I don't find them attractive. It is okay to not be sexually attracted to someone based on how they look. Maybe this makes me extremely shallow, but I guess I'm just that close-minded.
Nope. It's one of my phobias, actually.
I can't rationalise it, I'm just REALLY terrified of the possibility. It even goes so far that I actually doubted my girlfriend's gender for the first week or so of the relationship.
Yes, I am fully aware of the fact that I'm a fucking lunatic, thank you very much.
I can't rationalise it, I'm just REALLY terrified of the possibility. It even goes so far that I actually doubted my girlfriend's gender for the first week or so of the relationship.
Yes, I am fully aware of the fact that I'm a fucking lunatic, thank you very much.
This is a hard question for me, because I have a lot of misgivings regarding transgenderism. To me, gender is like race; it's a somewhat ephemeral concept but it is undeniably extrapolated from genetic realities. No matter how much an African-American person feels like they don't belong in their culture or their skin, they are African-American by the sole fact that their genetics are of a quality that gives them membership to that group. They're free to act however they'd like, and I'd applaud anyone who attempts to break out of stereotypical roles, either racial or in regards to gender, but at the end of the day, "woman" means to me "of a female body."
I think we, as a culture, need to focus far more on breaking down the stereotypical roles that are foisted upon men and woman and far less time advocating for the ability to move freely between those rigid structures. There should be no requirements that come with physical sex; women can do whatever they want, whether it's traditionally "female" or not, and the same goes for men. Being male or female shouldn't come with any kind of preset rulebook, and I can't help but think that transgenderism is a result, in part at least, of those oppressive structures. But I realize that people will disagree, and I mean no offense.
So I wouldn't be physically repulsed or anything by dating a man who had transitioned into a woman, but I may have trouble reconciling my beliefs about gender and sexuality with her.
I think we, as a culture, need to focus far more on breaking down the stereotypical roles that are foisted upon men and woman and far less time advocating for the ability to move freely between those rigid structures. There should be no requirements that come with physical sex; women can do whatever they want, whether it's traditionally "female" or not, and the same goes for men. Being male or female shouldn't come with any kind of preset rulebook, and I can't help but think that transgenderism is a result, in part at least, of those oppressive structures. But I realize that people will disagree, and I mean no offense.
So I wouldn't be physically repulsed or anything by dating a man who had transitioned into a woman, but I may have trouble reconciling my beliefs about gender and sexuality with her.
And if you want to have biological children with your partner, and to what you'd sacrifice to get that (such as leaving your boyfriend if you found out he couldn't have children), it's your bussiness.Phasmal said:
Similarly, if someone is just turned off by the thought of a trans-sexual (or, say, someone of different skin-colour), it's their bussiness.
(Although, if their opinion is based on misinformation, it might be wise to discuss it further)
But I was wondering if the 'I want to have children' was for many people just an easy way to dodge the question, and if that's the only reason. Which is why I asked them to think how'd they react if asked the question 'Could you date someone who just can't have children?'
So not being physically attracted to someone is now being seen as a form of oppression?Quadocky said:
Really?
Quadocky said:
You didn't bother to read the rest of my post, did you?
Something about freedom etc?
No idea. I don't have any objection to it, but I've never been asked out by a transsexual, so it's entirely possible that I could not date one because they all dislike me. I've met trans women I find attractive and there are probably some who share interests with me, so I guess I can answer 'yes' to the question 'are there trans people you would be willing to date?'.
If I were to state a preference, I would probably prefer to be with someone who had just had hormone treatments as opposed to full reconstruction surgery on their genitals.
If I were to state a preference, I would probably prefer to be with someone who had just had hormone treatments as opposed to full reconstruction surgery on their genitals.
Love how you say you would be 80% ok with dating a MtoF and you GIF is ''kill them with fire'' xDwintercoat said:
No, it's totally ok and perfectly natural to be attracted to people based on appearance. And if you find out someone you were attracted to is transwoman, and that's a dealbreaker for you, better to be honest.Casual Shinji said:
What's not ok are pithy comments about how "if you're a guy you're a guy."
I think it's more of an issue that a lot of people seem to misunderstand what it means being a transsexual, and have a very strict idea of what is a 'man' and what a 'woman', when reality is not always so black and white.Casual Shinji said:
It's a bit like saying 'I'd never date someone who has a different skin colour than me'.
You're entitled to choose who you want to date, but it might be based on misinformation and prejudice.