Could You Date A Transexual?
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We're always going to judge someone on appearances alone, at first. Because how someone looks is the first information that enters our brain. And our eyes are generally our most precious of the five senses. Can you honestly tell me you've never seen certain people walk down the street and thought, 'Jeez, look at that idiot'? Our minds kind of work automatically that way. But that doesn't mean you should base your entire opinion on that. And I don'tQuadocky said:
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Yes, I would not start a serious relationship with anyone who didn't want or couldn't have children, it's that simple. To many people having a family is an important life goal and while adoption is an option, it takes years of jumping through hoops and most adoptive children take a different challenge to raise than biological kids since at the best they've experienced neglect and often much worse abuse.Lieju said:
OT: I would date for short term if I found them attractive but for long term, the lack of fertility would rule it out. People are free to choose their own gender and I will respect their choice but I'm somewhat sceptical about the whole "it's not a mental condition, it's physical," point. There are people who believe they are wrong age (adult babies) or the wrong species (otherkin), do they have a physical problem too?
Absolutely. Funnily enough, I don't find myself attracted to regular girls or boys, but I love M-to-F Transsexuals (pre-op is better). It kind of sucks though, since as far as I know there are not a lot of transgender women where I live, and probably less that I would share interests with.
are those in the DSM? Gender Dysphoria is, and was declassified now that deeper long term study has been done. It is not considered a mental disorder by the mental, and medical health community.JoJo said:
Why is this not okay? Why is it okay for transgenders to place so much importance on gender (why else would they get a sex change), but not for everyone else?bananafishtoday said:
Being what you "are," at least somewhat includes your body. Which is still its original gender, aside from cosmetic tweaks. Let the hormone treatments run out, you'll see my point.Beautiful Tragedy said:Quadocky said:
SureYa it's not "acting" anything, it's what I AM... I was born in the wrong body and i am just making efforts to change that mistake.
I am NOT saying people should NOT be transgender. I AM saying belief that you really have BECOME the opposite gender is not true. In reality, you have become a nonfunctional version of your original gender that resembles the opposite one. So no, it's not deeper. Yes, you are roleplaying. But that's perfectly ok, because it's what you truly feel you want to be. Also note, being "born in the wrong body" is probably too metaphysical a case to bring up in a medical argument.
I don't think anyone is saying that really, any one who does is rather silly. You can't force someone to be a attracted to trans people any more then a trans person can "just deal with it. No one should have to make apologies for their sexuality and that means heterosexuals too. However people go beyond that and add an unnecessary level of hostilely to their answers. I'll use yours as an example.Casual Shinji said:
Yours was a relatively mild way of putting it, (relative to comparing it to cutting of dog faces, almost everything is mild) but your words still come off as telling transpeople they are delusional. That's the problem. Rather then saying something like "Its not something I could get past physically or sexually", many have to try and act like transpeople are lies in human form. That is the part that offends people, the idea that they are all delusional.Casual Shinji said:
Depends on how he/she dealt with it. Being born with the wrong sex must have been a trauma, and I wouldn't date a depressed person. I probably feel a bit weird about it, but if he/she is happy with who he/she is and if he/she is a fun person to be around. Hey let's give it a shot
incorrect. completely incorrect. My MIND, the chemistry of my brain are female. I am not roleplaying anything, I am a woman, it's for you to have an opinion, but do one minute of research... or not..ignorance is bliss.Nieroshai said:Being what you "are," at least somewhat includes your body. Which is still its original gender, aside from cosmetic tweaks. Let the hormone treatments run out, you'll see my point.Beautiful Tragedy said:Quadocky said:
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I am NOT saying people should NOT be transgender. I AM saying belief that you really have BECOME the opposite gender is not true. In reality, you have become a nonfunctional version of your original gender that resembles the opposite one. So no, it's not deeper. Yes, you are roleplaying. But that's perfectly ok, because it's what you truly feel you want to be. Also note, being "born in the wrong body" is probably too metaphysical a case to bring up in a medical argument.
Ya i was depressed most of my life, but since beginning transition I am a LOT happier... I am on the right track and finally being who i was supposed to be.rutger5000 said:
Aww how sweet!Hot Madness said:Yes, already kinda in love with a MtF person already so very much yes
If they?re attractive, yes. Attractive trans women (or even attractive transvestites, for that matter), that might blur the gender lines, are an incredible turn-on for me, not to mention that I admire their bravery and whatnot. I mean, I?ve never actually met a transgender individual in real-life, but they can?t be that different from genetic women. They have a female brain, they have a female body, and the only difference is that they may not have a 100% natural vagina. But if it?s functional, who the fuck cares? I have 0% desire to have children either, so that would be a bonus too.
Of course, if they have a shit personality, then I wouldn?t want to date them the same way that I wouldn?t want to date a genetic woman with a shit personality.
Also, many of the responses in this thread me sad, not because I?m biased or anything, but because of the amount of ignorant and/or prejudiced people saying, ?I wouldn?t date a trans woman because it?s still a dude/they?ve got psychological problems I don?t want to deal with? (reminds me of the homophobes that say ?Marriage is meant to be between a man and a woman; think about our FAMILY VALUES!?). Just look at Morgan Bailey and tell me, with a straight look on your face, that she?s a man. Also try to tell me that genetic woman can?t have ?psychological problems? too, just as ?bad?, if not worse, than trans women. Practically everyone?s got some ?psychological problems? anyway; it?s just that some are better at hiding it than others. People just discriminate against their fellow man without having a lick of understanding of what they?ve gone through, or what it?s like being them, having the gall to claim that they know more about their minds and bodies than they do.
Oh, and by the way, guys: you can be as straight as an arrow and still be attracted to a trans women, if she looks feminine and attractive enough. That?s why, in porn circles, they call them ?traps? (although I understand that?s a derogatory term, for obvious reasons).
Of course, if they have a shit personality, then I wouldn?t want to date them the same way that I wouldn?t want to date a genetic woman with a shit personality.
Also, many of the responses in this thread me sad, not because I?m biased or anything, but because of the amount of ignorant and/or prejudiced people saying, ?I wouldn?t date a trans woman because it?s still a dude/they?ve got psychological problems I don?t want to deal with? (reminds me of the homophobes that say ?Marriage is meant to be between a man and a woman; think about our FAMILY VALUES!?). Just look at Morgan Bailey and tell me, with a straight look on your face, that she?s a man. Also try to tell me that genetic woman can?t have ?psychological problems? too, just as ?bad?, if not worse, than trans women. Practically everyone?s got some ?psychological problems? anyway; it?s just that some are better at hiding it than others. People just discriminate against their fellow man without having a lick of understanding of what they?ve gone through, or what it?s like being them, having the gall to claim that they know more about their minds and bodies than they do.
Oh, and by the way, guys: you can be as straight as an arrow and still be attracted to a trans women, if she looks feminine and attractive enough. That?s why, in porn circles, they call them ?traps? (although I understand that?s a derogatory term, for obvious reasons).
Same here.Cry Wolf said:
You have a right to that opinion and that's perfectly fine.. but a lot of trans girls including myself would not associate with someone who claims to be a friend, but sees us as our birth sex and not the gender we truly are.DarthSka said:
You do realize that most transgenders actually have their brains developed similair to the opposite sex? Sexually you might be right, a man is born a man and a female born a female. But mentally it's a much more complex storyNieroshai said:Being what you "are," at least somewhat includes your body. Which is still its original gender, aside from cosmetic tweaks. Let the hormone treatments run out, you'll see my point.Beautiful Tragedy said:Quadocky said:
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I am NOT saying people should NOT be transgender. I AM saying belief that you really have BECOME the opposite gender is not true. In reality, you have become a nonfunctional version of your original gender that resembles the opposite one. So no, it's not deeper. Yes, you are roleplaying. But that's perfectly ok, because it's what you truly feel you want to be. Also note, being "born in the wrong body" is probably too metaphysical a case to bring up in a medical argument.