Did I just cheat on my girlfriend?
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No, you didn't cheat.
You are not guilty of anything.
Solve it by dumping the chick way the hell over yonder, and - YOU KNEW THIS GIRL EARLIER?! - bang the chick that wants to bang you.
Just make sure to do it in this order.
You are not guilty of anything.
Solve it by dumping the chick way the hell over yonder, and - YOU KNEW THIS GIRL EARLIER?! - bang the chick that wants to bang you.
Just make sure to do it in this order.
I'd say you're definitely near that cheating edge. On which side though, it's hard to say. It's certainly dickish to both girls. You're hiding your flirt from your girlfriend and leading this other girl on. Go with one or the other, don't sit here in limbo.
From personal experience, long-distance relationships are difficult but possible...so long as they aren't distant for too long. A different college? If you spend all the breaks together, might get through it, but really unlikely. More than a year, even with frequent visits, is difficult for a relationship that isn't fully developed. A semester or two away though isn't bad.
On the other hand, there's a good chance you're willing to jump on most anyone since you're in a long-distance relationship. It will be easier to have a girlfriend nearby, but your judgement is likely clouded from lack of contact.
Either way, choose one. Stop leading that poor girl on and emotionally cheating on your girlfriend. You're also really close to cheating for sure.
P.S. How long have you been with that girlfriend to think saying "I love you" is moving slowly? That's a pretty big step, I think. Eh, everyone is different, whatever.
From personal experience, long-distance relationships are difficult but possible...so long as they aren't distant for too long. A different college? If you spend all the breaks together, might get through it, but really unlikely. More than a year, even with frequent visits, is difficult for a relationship that isn't fully developed. A semester or two away though isn't bad.
On the other hand, there's a good chance you're willing to jump on most anyone since you're in a long-distance relationship. It will be easier to have a girlfriend nearby, but your judgement is likely clouded from lack of contact.
Either way, choose one. Stop leading that poor girl on and emotionally cheating on your girlfriend. You're also really close to cheating for sure.
P.S. How long have you been with that girlfriend to think saying "I love you" is moving slowly? That's a pretty big step, I think. Eh, everyone is different, whatever.
You're boarderline- and either girl would be / should be upset to learn that things have gone this far without you coming clean that you have a girlfriend, or denying the advances. Unless you're in an open relationship, you cannot have your cake and eat it too.thehorror2 said:
A person cannot be condemned for a thought (so the court of public opinion says).
You haven't done the deed, so there is nothing 'cheating' there. Being honest with your gf about this will NOT help at all. Telling her any inkling of this will only damage the relationship (honesty is the best policy my ass - I speak from the throne of experience). So IMO flirting is fine but keep your head and don't think with your pants.
You haven't done the deed, so there is nothing 'cheating' there. Being honest with your gf about this will NOT help at all. Telling her any inkling of this will only damage the relationship (honesty is the best policy my ass - I speak from the throne of experience). So IMO flirting is fine but keep your head and don't think with your pants.
There's no such thing as emotional cheating, either that or everyone on the planet is guilty of it. Most people aren't biologically capable of switching off all possible attraction to everyone except their significant other, and any partner who expects you to do so is being unreasonable and a hypocrite.William Ossiss said:
Don't feel bad for feeling attraction to another person, OP. Especially when she's right there and the one you're in a relationship with is far away. But you have to decide one way or the other if you can commit to long distance. Most people can't, and they would have saved themselves a lot of grief by admitting that and coming clean with their partner before they slept with someone else. There's no shame in breaking up with your current partner if you can't deal with it, shame only comes if you cheat on her first.
Pretty much this. I wouldn't say that it's a good idea, I know people who have been in them for over a year and they're constantly depressed.GreatTeacherCAW said:
Another long distance relationship I know of is that of an "Open Relationship" where they can do stuff with other people as long as it's nothing serious. But that takes some serious trust in order for it work.
If at any point you're genuinely asking yourself, "Am I cheating," you're doing something wrong.
While it's not cheating it's not really right either, you should tell the other girl that you have a girlfriend and stop flirting.
I know most people will disagree, but I try to be understanding when it comes the concept of cheating, mostly because people tend to view what they can't have as being really attractive. If I was to be in a relationship with someone I'd really love, I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with sexual experimentation, as long as I know it's just that 
There are normal curiosities each of us has regarding our sexuality. And best of all, there are few consequences to our actions if we're still young and trying out relationships. We have plenty of time to learn responsability
I guess I'm saying that whatever you decide to do in the end, whether it is to actually cheat on your girlfriend or not, it's important that you are satisfied with this decision. You can't go all married husband and then resent your girlfriend because you feel like she's grounding you. So think on it, then act.
There are normal curiosities each of us has regarding our sexuality. And best of all, there are few consequences to our actions if we're still young and trying out relationships. We have plenty of time to learn responsability I guess I'm saying that whatever you decide to do in the end, whether it is to actually cheat on your girlfriend or not, it's important that you are satisfied with this decision. You can't go all married husband and then resent your girlfriend because you feel like she's grounding you. So think on it, then act.
While I don't think that flirting is cheating, you need to tell the girl you are flirting with that you are taken. She will either back off, or go after you more, but if she goes after you more, then I would stay the hell away from her because if you embark on a relationship with this local girl, then there is no guarantee that she won't still "play the field". I am not saying she will, but it wouldn't exactly be the healthiest start to a good relationship (that is if you want a relationship).
Flirting is normal man, don't fret about it. You have a couple courses of action to take in this situation.
either,
A: Tell your girlfriend that it's too hard to continue.
or
B: Tell your friend that you've got a GF.
Either way, if you're going to make a decision, you've gotta figure out which person is more for you. gauge what their interests are, their likes and dislikes, their goals and finally their willingness to stay in a relationship with you.
Honestly, there is nothing worse than chasing some tail without knowing what you're getting into, let alone what you're throwing away. Trust me, I know enough on that subject.
either,
A: Tell your girlfriend that it's too hard to continue.
or
B: Tell your friend that you've got a GF.
Either way, if you're going to make a decision, you've gotta figure out which person is more for you. gauge what their interests are, their likes and dislikes, their goals and finally their willingness to stay in a relationship with you.
Honestly, there is nothing worse than chasing some tail without knowing what you're getting into, let alone what you're throwing away. Trust me, I know enough on that subject.
you will always regret it if you don't bone this new girl, just screw everyone who wants to screw you, one day you'll be dead rotting in the ground, fuck as much as you can
Would you have made this thread if you weren't hesitant wether you were doing the right thing here?
What neatly falls under ''the rules'' of cheating or not doesn't matter. What matters is how you feel about it. Does it feel like you're being honest to these girls? You know what to do.
What neatly falls under ''the rules'' of cheating or not doesn't matter. What matters is how you feel about it. Does it feel like you're being honest to these girls? You know what to do.