As someone who was taunted in highschool by a football jock, and dubbed "a ******" by him, it's likely that the kid isn't even gay, and the kid was just being an asshole. Not that it matters if he is or not, but it's very unlikely, just because that guy said it. I'm straight, but damn if this one jerk didn't insist for 3 years straight in school that I was a queer/****** as he put it.
To a previous post saying ignoring it will make it go away, no that doesn't always work. Because I ignored this guy, and he continued for 3 years running, up until he graduated.
To the OP: Yes you did the right thing, physically beating up a kid in middle school when you are much older is not the right way to do it. Though I probably would've used more hostile language than "Yo, cool that shit"
Though it might be a good thing, since you are in a martial arts class with him, to give him a training session in fighting a larger, stronger opponent, knock him down a few pegs maybe. In the constraints of a sparring circle, I think it would be ok, as long as you keep your cool and don't lash out. But giving him a decent ass kicking in sparring is perfectly acceptable. My instructor used to set us against multiple opponents, and larger opponents all the time, to help us deal with unusual, and unfair odds.
The MOST important part of this exchange though, is to turn to the kid who was being bullied, and let him know that you didn't like what the other kid had to say, and to not let it upset him. That "some people are just assholes, don't let them get under your skin"
To a previous post saying ignoring it will make it go away, no that doesn't always work. Because I ignored this guy, and he continued for 3 years running, up until he graduated.
To the OP: Yes you did the right thing, physically beating up a kid in middle school when you are much older is not the right way to do it. Though I probably would've used more hostile language than "Yo, cool that shit"
Though it might be a good thing, since you are in a martial arts class with him, to give him a training session in fighting a larger, stronger opponent, knock him down a few pegs maybe. In the constraints of a sparring circle, I think it would be ok, as long as you keep your cool and don't lash out. But giving him a decent ass kicking in sparring is perfectly acceptable. My instructor used to set us against multiple opponents, and larger opponents all the time, to help us deal with unusual, and unfair odds.
The MOST important part of this exchange though, is to turn to the kid who was being bullied, and let him know that you didn't like what the other kid had to say, and to not let it upset him. That "some people are just assholes, don't let them get under your skin"