Difference in age...

[President Moocow]

Wow, either age difference is insanely high on your priorities list or you haven't noticed the HUGE situation here as well: Are you going to tell your friend about her or are you going to keep her slip-up a secret?

I'm surprised you seemed fairly nonchalant about that and you're more concerned about an age difference.

 

[SimuLord]

I care little for age and everything for maturity. Someone's apparent age is more important than their chronological age (except, of course, in cases of age-of-consent laws. I wouldn't get mixed up with a 17-year-old girl in California, for example, no matter how mature she was, and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone else in that state.)

I'm 32. But I'm also a college student and therefore most of my friends are quite a bit younger than I am. If I met a fellow second-year accounting major and future CPA who just happened to have graduated from high school in 2008 rather than 1995 (which would make her 19 or 20), would that deter me? Hell no! We'd be at the same stage of our lives (yay misspent Gen-X slacker youth!) and at the same stage when it comes to stuff like goal achievement and future plans. The 13-year age difference would have no bearing at all on the nature of the relationship (except for me having a lot more life experience, but that's not necessarily a bad thing either.)

Steering this back on-topic, I'd say that 17-year-old in the original post scenario should not be touched by anyone much older than she is, only because she's 17 going on 13 emotionally. That girl needs to grow up, and any guy dumb enough to get mixed up with her is in for a world of stupid teenage drama (and most college-aged guys I know are only after one thing from a girl like that...and rightly so.)

 

[Motti]

I'd just avoid her, hopefully she'd get the message and/or lose interest.

 

[rampantcreature]

There is a 15 year age difference between my parents. Yeah, my mom is THE hot mom.

 

[hotdogoctopus]

So last night I was back in town where I grew up and hanging out with old friends.

there was some drinking and as the party was going on, my best friend's brother's girlfriend started hitting on me... and talking about how more mature I am and asked me if I got to know her better if I would date her- and she would leave her boyfriend, etc etc getting way too close for comfort

currently, I have a girlfriend already.
but it creeped me out because she's 17 and still in high school and I'm 22.
I've already thought about either telling her boyfriend, who is my friend as well and he deserves to know that- or just leaving that shit lie and just not talking either of them, especially her, for awhile.

EDIT: and while we're at it- I guess discuss about how much age difference matters to you

a) reasons two and three I refuse to go to parties where anyone is underage 2=underage girls 3=underage guys (douchebags)

b) let that shit LIE.

c) if you're not my age, you better GODDAMN impress me.

d) and yes, I get invited to parties where underagers are becuase I am in grad school and when I T.A. the chillun think that I will treat them special if they invite me to drink. Which I do just fine on my own thank you.

 

[LeonLethality]

I call the half your age plus 7 rule, though it only really applies once you turn 25.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=half+your+age+plus+7

clicking related words from that led me to half stiffy...

OT: after the age you become an adult it is fine for you to date any other adult but adults with anyone who is not an adult is a bad thing.

 

[MelziGurl]

Just leave it, if she hits on you again or just tries to do something more then I would consider telling him. But, why wouldn't you talk to him? Why make him suffer when he knows jackshit about what's going on? For all you know this could be a once off thing that happened under the influence of alcohol. I say keep your distance from her and if he asks why then tell him the truth.

 

[Asturiel]

Age is relevant, however if the younger proves to be quite mature and you two hit it off it is pretty shallow to end it because of how long the person has lived (This however is subject to bad judgement and good non moron friends should be consulted to verify it.)

In your situation I would honestly tell your friend lest things get complicated and you didnt tell him.

 

[RikSharp]

in this case, age is irrelevant.
she's with someone else at the mo so off limits.
you are with someone else at the mo so off limits.

otherwise (depending on location) i'd say go for it.
age of consent over here is 16.

 

[MetaKnight19]

Age shouldn't be a factor but there is a limit, like when one of the couple is twice the others senior, or even older. But nowadays its mostly just celebrities doing that because they want media attention. So basically I'm agreeing with what everyone else has posted, that being as long as there is something there then go for it, you might not get another chance.

 

[pantallica95]

How about..be glad girls hit on you? I'd say thats a good way to think about it.

OT: Age dont matter, love is love.

 

[cleverlymadeup]

There is a 15 year age difference between my parents. Yeah, my mom is THE hot mom.

yeah i go drinking with my friend and her kid, she had him really young, so she's like a couple years older than me and he's like 20 or so. me and his friends always bug him about his mom being hot. it's pretty funny

anyways on to the topic at hand, the girl sounds rather flaky and immature.

the funny part is i notice everyone saying the whole "half your age + 7" is fairly young. that rule is mostly a joke and not real at all a good guideline, once you're older you realize age isn't much of an issue

 

[NuclearPenguin]

My girlfriends two years younger than me..
We have jack shit in common mainly because of the age difference.
Oh, and no one my age with their head on straight would date me.

 

[DuplicateValue]

I'm 17 at the moment. The youngest I'd go for is 14/15, the oldest 19/20. Make of that what you will.

 

[Nanaki316]

I don't believe age matters either. Me and my bloke are 5 years apart and I was once with a guy like 20 years older than me *shrugs*

As so many have said Love is Love but I do believe at a lower age with a big age gap you should be very very careful.

 

[Supernatural Girl]

I generally go with the rule no-one more than a year younger than me or 3 years older. (maybe that's why I've always been single... hmmm
Of course this will probably change in a few years as maturity sets in

 

[Et3rnalLegend64]

My girlfriends two years younger than me..
We have jack shit in common mainly because of the age difference.
Oh, and no one my age with their head on straight would date me.

Is two years all that bad?

I say tell her boyfriend to dump her. He probably deserves better (can't say for sure, seeing as how I don't know any of you). Not sure how I feel about the age gap. 17 and 22 might weird me out a little, but it's really none of my business.

There is a 15 year age difference between my parents. Yeah, my mom is THE hot mom.

New question: Does anyone have a problem when the girl is the older one?

 

[ZippyDSMlee]

Meh damn age, people are people so treat people like thieving sheeple and you'll be alright!!

 

[zohmbee]

If you told your friend and he confronted her, couldn't she just reverse it and make you sound like the bad guy?

I personally don't care about age in love, then again I don't really care about anything. My friend's mum is 33 and her dad is 51. -shrug-

EDIT: 17 here. The farthest I'd go is probably 23, considering I'd be judged to all Hell.

 

[NuclearPenguin]

My girlfriends two years younger than me..
We have jack shit in common mainly because of the age difference.
Oh, and no one my age with their head on straight would date me.

Is two years all that bad?

I say tell her boyfriend to dump her. He probably deserves better (can't say for sure, seeing as how I don't know any of you). Not sure how I feel about the age gap. 17 and 22 might weird me out a little, but it's really none of my business.

There is a 15 year age difference between my parents. Yeah, my mom is THE hot mom.

New question: Does anyone have a problem when the girl is the older one?

Two years is alot at my age. Sure, once you get into your 20s/30s/40s/50s whatever, its less. But when im 16, shes 14 theres a difference.

And I dont like the girl being older.. Mainly because I dont like the girl being taller.