Do I deserve to be spat on for saying this to a gay person?

[JordanMillward_1]

Spitting wouldn't be my personal choice (a bit of an overreaction, I'd probably just continue to kiss, maybe be a bit more passionate about it), but yeah, your friend should have just ignored it.

I'd go with that too. To be honest, I've never seen someone else tell a couple to not kiss in the cinema ever, and given you did say that you are both disgusted by the act of two men kissing... I think your mate was possibly being led by his dislike of men kissing than the actual act of kissing.

EDIT: Yep, just saw the post where it was said he wouldn't have asked that if it were a heterosexual couple. In this case then, he was discriminating against them just because they were gay, and for that reason only he probably deserved to be spat in the face of, because people who discriminate for any reason are, in my opinion, scum.

 

[Dags90]

I don't know why anyone would go to a forum to tell people a false version of a story just to get validation that that would have put them in the right if it happened, but I don't know why people do a lot of things.

Spoiler: Overanalyzed pop psychology

I think the some posters (and possibly the OP) are trying to justify revenge fantasies. We've probably all had unfortunate experiences at cinemas and not acted, and this causes some resentment. The same thing keeps the Nazis in business in Hollywood. Everyone hears about all the atrocities and a lot of people get angry about it, but they can't actually DO anything about it. So, they write and consume stories where those God damned Nazis get their comeuppance. Fuck yeah, America!

 

[buddycat]

Your friend was not justified in asking them to stop?people make out in theaters...either deal with it by moving or by paying attention to the film. The fact that you can't deal with men kissing isn't their problem, it's yours.

However, spitting in your face as a reaction to the request is also not justified. They could have told you to mind your own business or get over yourself. Spitting on someone is socially taboo and also unsanitary.

 

[Canid117]

If they were distracting you from a movie that you paid good money to see than your friend was definitely in the right. The guy who spat in his face hopefully got punched in the face for his general douchebaggery.

 

[Dexiro]

"Being offended at gays kissing" isn't the problem. 7 pages of everybody agreeing with each other because they believe a clearly untrue story is the problem.

Even if it isn't true we're only answering the OP's question. We're saying if that were the situation then it'd be the gay couple that were out of order.
If you want to delve into what's true or not then go for it, that doesn't mean other people have to.

 

[ShadowsofHope]

No, the guy who spat in his face was being a dick. He was justified in asking them to stop, though I personally find it very easy to ignore most of that stuff if I'm watching the movie. I may be a little jaded, but I have seen people do this a lot of homosexual couples, and ignore heterosexuals completely in this case.

But I'm assuming you would've done it either way.

Edit: Reading that second part.. Yes, your friend in somewhat of a bigot. But both parties are in the wrong here, in this case.

 

[Shoqiyqa]

They were being rude. Your friend was justified in asking them to stop. They were there to view a movie. Not to (as the English say it) snog.

Its sad the papers rolled it as an anti gay thing. If it was a man and a woman I'd tell them to stop, its ridiculous.

Ditto this, pretty much.

You're supposed to do your snogging in the back row(s). Lesbians do. Heterosexual couples do. Sugar daddies and their ... what's the polite term? Munchkins? ... do. Threesomes do. Those two should as well, or save it for somewhere private.

{prejudice}Sure, if it had been The Hurt Locker and two hot ladies decided to provide some alternative entertainment, that's different because women are hot and lesbians are awesome{/prejudice} and that film was DULL, but Inception deserves better and paying customers deserve more respect.

 

[lacktheknack]

Would you say the same thing to a guy and girl who were snogging a row ahead of you?

I would, and that's perfectly fine grounds for telling ANYONE making out to get a room.

 

[GamingAwesome1]

Spitting in your friends face was somewhat of an overeaction, your friend was justified. It's somewhat rude to makeout in a movie theatre regardless of sexuality. Just ignore the newspapers.

 

[Treblaine]

It doesn't sound unreasonable to ask. He was wrong to spit, especially if it was as even natured a request as you claim (though I doubt it).

But it takes two to fight, your friend should have taken it at that to the authorities that "this guy spat in my face" rather than escalated it even further though I can hardy find it THAT unreasonable to lash out after being spat in the face. Which is pretty demeaning.

Ultimately, it's an unwinnable situation. In future it's probably better to move to another seat but if they move AGAIN to be in front of you then you KNOW they are just trolling.

 

[Cody211282]

your friend did the right thing, if they wanted to screw around they shouldn't have gone to a movie.

 

[Orwellian37]

He didn't deserve that, by any means. They were just being rude.

 

[Les Awesome]

I would have done the same thing
only instead of politely asking them to stop I would have punched one of them
not cos I hate gays its cos I hate people in general

 

[Comrade Mateo]

I am what some call "A giant flaming floating fairy", and I think you should be thankful that they were not making sweet love, as I would have in a movie theater. How I love men...

 

[Grey_Focks]

after reading that your friend says he probably wouldn't tell a straight couple to stop, I must say it doesn't change too much. People making out in theaters is STILL annoying, and everyone around them STILL has the right to tell them to get a room, that one guy STILL shouldn't have responded by spitting in his face (seriously, NEVER do this. It won't "teach them" anything, and it will always result in violence. HUGE sign of disrespect), but your friend is a bit of a bigot. That's all, really.

 

[Fallen-Angel Risen-Demon]

Well, he did have the right to ask them to stop. I would ask a male female couple to stop as well as a same sax couple. For one, if you're going to 'snog' in a cinema you do it at the back out of sight. They were in the wrong for spitting at him but who started the fight? Whoever started it was in the wrong.

 

[Shapsters]

I don't think the gay thing matters much at all... Im sure he would have done the same thing had it been a guy and a girl, its just rude, go make out elsewhere if you must.

Well, he did have the right to ask them to stop. I would ask a male female couple to stop as well as a same sax couple. For one, if you're going to 'snog' in a cinema you do it at the back out of sight. They were in the wrong for spitting at him but who started the fight? Whoever started it was in the wrong.

Starting a fight after being spat in the face isn't exactly wrong... how else are you supposed to react? Especially in Ireland ;D

 

[trying to hide my account]

He shouldn't have spat on your friend he did nothing wrong.