Does anyone else not have any friends IRL?

[McElroy]

I know what kind of a friend I don't have. A girlfriend. And I'm not open to everyone - I have standards. Also I can't be that guy who goes in the middle of a group of women to ask one of them out and then just leave or awkwardly stare at the others. Beside money and status, women are the main reason I went to Medical School! Disappointed!!

I think I can see the problem here: when you walk up to a group- you address the group, not just one person in it- that's rude and (as you point out) awkward. What message does it send a girl when you walk straight up and ask her out without knowing anything about her yet, and ignoring all her friends? Not good.

You just need to walk up and be friendly to all of them. Show you can talk/joke with a few at a time, then keep doing that while you flirt with the one you like. If you can show you can get along with her friends, you'll have a much higher chance of her having interest in you too.

I do more or less (mostly less but still) know them, though. They are my classmates. I was writing a bit tongue-in-cheek, for I find the "real" lament comes from most women around my age (25) having relationship partners. It's a big class - 170 students with 90 of them women - plenty of fish, as they say. And then there's the rest of the university too... Then again nowadays I crush on every second woman I see.

 

[Programmed_For_Damage]

Man, I thought I was a bit of an outcast but reading this I feel buoyed somewhat.

I have three friends I have known since Primary School (I'm 40 BTW) that I see once a year. I kind of miss seeing them as much as I used to, but then again I think if I did see them more they'd end up shitting me. Apart from that I have a wife and kids and that's my life. I have some guys at work I'm sort of friends with but again I wouldn't hang out with them regularly if I was single.

My marriage has been a bit rocky of late and it is has made me wonder what would happen if that was suddenly extracted from my life. I'd still have my kids so that would cushion the blow, but would that mean I'd have to make new "friends"? Am I o.k without them? As I said at the start, reading the other posts has made me thing the answer might be yes.

EDIT: Here's something serendipitous. This afternoon when I was coming home on the train I ran into a friend from High School I haven't seen in 20 years. Sometimes the truth is stranger than fiction.

 

[Spunky88]

I have 2 friends that I meet somewhat regulary,2 more but I havn't seen them since early this year because they moved away. I hope that they returns to Gothenburg,cuz we all grew up here. Have seen them since March/April this year so it's been awhile. The other two guys hang out with live closeby,but are pretty busy so I see them maybe once a month. But that's life I guess it's hard to maintain a friendship for so long. It's unfortuneit that it's hard to make new friends,cuz when I'm not at work,I'm home with my girlfriend or out walking our dog. My advise to you is maybe start taking some late night classes,then you get to sociolize with others.