I had a similar experience to Yahtzee when I first played. I didn't really decide on who I'd be banging, and so just flirted randomly with Isabela and Anders. Then came a convo with Anders and he's all "I may be a mage but I'm still just a man" and the only options were to accept or break his heart. I accepted and was like "...damn..." As their romance blossomed I was finding myself liking Anders more and more. It was strange. The only other romanceable partner I felt this with was Merrill. She was so cute, I just wanted to hug her and tell her it's alright.