Well written piece.
I always take issue with the idea that games can somehow create romantic "conquests" for "everyone" since companionship and human sexuality is complex as all hell and while
Dragon's Age 2 takes us a step in the right direction, games may never be able to reach those levels of inclusiveness.
But, baby steps, I suppose. Better to try than to not.
jawakiller said:
But seriously, I have gotten into fights with gays who think its cool to hit on me. Why? Because I have to prove I'm manly and not gay. I know I'm not into homosexual stuff but the ladies don't. And yes, its necessary.
I wish it wasn't like that but thats just how it is.
I am sure you're getting tired of being quoted by now, but frankly, this whole post is too hilarious to not respond to. Sorry if this is long, but there is a lot to work with, I think.
This may come as a surprise, but most gay men are like straight men in that they like to get laid. As such, spending their nights trying to bed straight dudes is a waste of time. I too have been chatted up by gay dudes, and once I realized where it was going a simple "Sorry, I'm straight" was enough to send them on their way. Unlike what some people might think, gays aren't out to "convert" us straight guys. After all, you wouldn't spend your night trying to chat up a woman who rejected you, would you?
Additionally, your post is steeped in the typical hetero-normative nonsense, where being gay is to be feminine (PROTIP: it isn't, gays, like all people, run the gamut). Thus, if girls think you're gay because you got hit on by a dude or that you are willing to tolerate such an insult to your straight pride ("Dear God, he though I was one of them, all girly and whatnot! Can't let this stand, lest the women think so too! Must be a proper man! Fisticuffs it is!"), they will not think you're a proper man (after all, gays are girly, right?) and reject your sorry ass. Why they would assume that you're gay because of that has yet to be revealed, but to be on the safe side, you must assert your dominance over them by bashing them. After all, women need to be impressed! Still, God help you if you ever get hit on by a gay bodybuilder or something. Then the women would really think you're gay.
Funny thing is, I used to have a similar mentality, the typical "gays are alright, as long as they don't bother me" type of thing. Not surprisingly though, I grew up and realized that like all people, gays just want to get along in life as much as any of us do. They have just as much right to hit on people as any of us, and unless you propose segregation (I fucking hope not) you getting hit on once in a while will be the result. Let me assure you though: it isn't a big deal.
And I wish your mentality wasn't the way things are, but acceptance takes time. We'll get there eventually.
