Eyes

[C0RV4L0U5]

Me and my girlfriend were having a conversation the other day that she thinks its rude when people don't look into your eyes when you are talking to them, which i am opposed to. Personally if some one is talking to me i will look into their eyes for like a second or two then look around for awhile then back for a short time, i think its weird to stare into someones eyes. is this just me or what?

 

[dfphetteplace]

I'm with you on that. I get uncomfortable looking into peoples eyes.

 

[Halceon]

Rude or not, it's normal to not look into the eyes while you are talking.

 

[Icecoldcynic]

I think it's weird to 'lock' eyes with the other person. I don't make eye contact that much unless me and the other person are opposite/facing each other.

 

[mad825]

When it's women, I tend to stare at their cleavage, and I'm like "Oh fuck" and stop looking at them, period.

Because of that, 3rd grade music class was hell...

^this

also in western culture it is by good etiquette that you look at the person talking to you and vice versia

 

[T-Bone24]

I get really uncomfortable looking into someone's eyes for very long.

 

[jehuty_zero69]

You're not supposed to look directly in some ones eyes while speaking. This is socially confrontational. Humans have evolved all sorts of mechanisms for social signaling. And typically you only lock eyes with some one for whom you're confronting aggressively. Only short bursts of eye contact are needed to convey interest without aggression.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Sometimes it would get realy weird, like looking deeply in the cashiers eyes when your buying shit at Tesco.

 

[Jonluw]

I agree with the OP, I normally stare out in the air when I talk to people.

 

['Aredor]

I don't consider it rude, because I know that most people don't mean it that way, the just avoid looking other people in the eyes out of insecurity. You should be aware that if you don't look them in the eyes, most people will judge you as weak, if only subconsciously. Avoid it if you can, especially with women you try to woo.

EDIT: I just remembered that it's one of the three rules Furious tells his son in Boyz n the hood, not sure about the exact quote, unfortunately.

 

[S.R.S.]

When I really need to speak to someone it's direct eye contact, any other instance seems intrusive, space invading and kinda creepy.

 

[GundamSentinel]

During a conversation I do often make eye-contact, but not for long. Just staring into someone's eyes freaks me out.

 

[infinity_turtles]

Not normally. Sure, with my subs I will, but that's more a dominance thing. Or a sex thing. Oh, and I'll look into people's eyes when I'm being melodramatic. Which is fun.

 

[Breadzombie]

Oh, I've learned to use eye contact pretty darn well.It's good for establishing dominance, scaring people, play innocent or whatnot.

But, ye generally it's okay not to look somebody in the eye, if it makes you uncomfortable.


Edit:

You're not supposed to look directly in some ones eyes while speaking. This is socially confrontational. Humans have evolved all sorts of mechanisms for social signaling. And typically you only lock eyes with some one for whom you're confronting aggressively. Only short bursts of eye contact are needed to convey interest without aggression.

What?No.You could use long stares to convey interest just fine, or short bursts to confront someone aggressively.

 

[Jack_Uzi]

In a conversation I look people in the eye a few times. But sometimes it can also distract me from what they are saying so one of my ears is directed to them most of the time. Sometimes people just try to look me in the eye the whole conversation long. I don't have anything to hide and maybe I'm a bit shy but I try to look them a bit more in the eye as well. I hate the whole "staring contest" thing, they could better be quiet then and let's get the game on the road, because that isn't much about conversation if you ask me.

 

[Marter]

I don't like looking into people's eyes for a long time, my father disagrees. Every time we talk, he ends up saying "Hey, I'm over here, not there", as I'm not always looking straight at him.

 

[CheesusCrust]

I get uncomfortable looking directly at people, as if they're judging me, like what I say will be recieved differently by them depending on whether or not I look at them.

 

[Uncreative]

When someone is talking to me, I look directly into their eyes.
What's strange is I didn't even realize I did that until I made a comment about a guy having a lazy eye and my mom had no idea what I was talking about, even though she talked to him longer than I did.

When I'm talking to someone else, it's mostly the same thing. I almost always start and end a sentence looking into the person's eyes, but I don't always hold eye contact throughout, especially if I'm not interested in the conversation.
If I'm explaining something more complicated, I usually end up looking down or away as I try to figure out the best way to make sense, but I'm rarely really looking at something when I do that. It's just the normal 'Staring down while thinking about something' look.

And yes, I make eye contact with strangers. Seems rude not too.

 

[Kaymish]

i get a head ache when people stare at my eyes i look away when they do it or if its some random guy asking me out or something i sometimes walk off

 

[p3t3r]

well in general girls look into people eyes more often then guys