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Well, I have mixed opinions. For one I don't quite agree that the US really has an obesity epidemic greater than that elsewhere in the world. It's actually a first world issue. The fact is mostly that the US likes to air it's dirty laundry and point to it's own flaws excessively, while other countries try and conceal the truth or at least remain quiet about it, to the point of lying in terms of internal propaganda and so on. Pretty much every first world country has the same basic problem, as it stems less from overeating, than technological development leading to more sedimentary lifestyles among the people. As a general rule in the first world just about everyone trains for some kind of largely cereberal position (management, technology, etc...) which they approach with high hopes, your typical person winds up as a cog in the machine, suffering from depression and constant stress especially as the pressures to keep even a miserable job and make ends meet with it mount, and of course being very sedimentary during one of these jobs. These same stressed out people get home and aren't exactly in any condition to exercise or whatever. Weight gain is also heavily tied to certain drugs which are used to treat depression, anxiety, and other conditions that are at an epidemic status as well, most of these drugs also cause a degree of fatigue which contributes to everything else. Overeating is likewise not as big a problem as the quality of food due to poor regulation, as even poor people who have trouble getting enough food for their families and need assistance from things like food stamps can be quite obese, despite not eating an unusual amount. There are a lot of issues, but it's largely the price of success. The UK, Canada, and other nations have the same problems, to a similar degree, even if they aren't willing to confess to the extent of it. I've run into a few things covering it in the past.

I think the "fat pride" thing comes more or less from an increasing number of people realizing where the problem comes from, and seeing that there aren't any easy solutions to the problem. It's not so much a matter of "eat less, exercise more" as much as a lot of people want to simplify it that way. So called "health food" costs a premium, and the price whould have to be lowered (which also gets into the whole concept of food deserts), likewise society would have to otherwise go through a lot of major changes, as a big step would be dealing with the mental health epidemic in terms of societal depression and anxiety and such, which would in turn get a lot of people off certain drugs, and along with both of those things would lead to more people being less constantly wrecked allowing them to do more. As time has gone on some basic understanding of this problem has risen, as young, healthy people, or happy successful people who were into fat shaming wind up entering the grind one way or another and then realize after a while "holy crap, I'm obese too, it crept up on me" and this leads to people "getting it" as they see it happening.

It's a big mess, but strangely a lot of my opinions about society and even politics have come from things like this. For example when looking at the whole depression epidemic it's occurred to me that one of the biggest problems is an educational system that lies to people and tells every kid "your a winner, your special" and grooms them with high expectations, even when the weeding out process has already happened and the truly exceptional have already been separated from the herd. You don't want to exactly insult kids and tell them "your worthless" or anything like that,
but you shouldn't be telling people how great they are during their formative years, and setting them up for crushing psychological problems when reality hits. I mean it seems almost everyone is depressed because they wind up with
degrees they can't use combined with a mountain of debt, and jobs they hate if they can even find jobs, all because
they were convinced they could do anything and follow their dreams as opposed to setting realistic goals. That's not
the only step, but if you can get people off the Prozac, paxil, Lexapro, celexa, and other kinds of massively
prescribed psycho-drugs that right there is probably going to start shedding pounds on a society-wide level and lead
to thinner, healthier, future generations.... also understand "realistic goals" doesn't need to be bad, it's just that not everyone can be management for example, it's ridiculous when you have like 300 qualified people going for one management job, where some job working a piece of machinery might have to be filled by someone brought in from another country despite it paying like $25/hour because nobody in the US trained to do things like that. One guy gets the job the other 299 people feel like failures, go to jobs they hate (if they can find them) and pop psycho-drugs prescribed by the mental health establishment, which contributes to them blowing up like balloons (even if it's not the sole cause).


Now granted, to be fair your dealing with a guy who is currently morbidly obese (6' 1", 250lbs, which is fat even with broad shoulders) and as I have pointed out in other discussions has brain damage and takes some pretty substantial drugs (which I've looked into on my own, along with other similar drugs, and have learned exactly how prescribed things for depression, anxiety, etc... happen to be... leading to a lot of people talking about the over prescription of certain drugs as catch all remedies, but that's another discussion entirely), so I confess to having a bit of a complex about it. I was never really little, but nowadays I'm an ultra-soft flesh balloon, whose lucky to be able to focus enough to play video games or rant on the internet some days. I suppose I can't be considered entirely impartial, but as I said, I've actually been paying attention to this issue and things surrounding it.
 

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thaluikhain said:
SmallHatLogan said:
On topic, I skimmed through her follow up article 8 Things I Learned From Writing An Article Critical Of Fat Acceptance [http://thoughtcatalog.com/carolyn-hall/2014/05/8-things-i-learned-from-writing-an-article-critical-of-fat-acceptance], and while most of it was what I expected, number 7 really stood out to me: "A lot of people believe their doctors are fat-shaming". Yeah, I get that some fat people have to deal with fat shaming on a regular basis, but seriously? A doctor informs you of how your weight will affect your health and now they're a bully? Give me a break.
Actually, no, that's a very serious problem.

You have a lot of fat people (in the US, at least) who go to see a doctor because they have some medical complaint or other, and the doctor doesn't bother diagnosing them because they just assume that all their problems are due to being fat, and that losing weight will fix everything.

With predictable consequences.
Really? To be honest I'm kind of surprised. I'm no doctor but it seems like a pretty irresponsible and lazy way of practising medicine.
 

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SmallHatLogan said:
Really? To be honest I'm kind of surprised. I'm no doctor but it seems like a pretty irresponsible and lazy way of practising medicine.
Yeah, apparently it's not uncommon.

Points to a really serious problem with how fat people are viewed, even by people who should definitely know better. There's also stuff like dosages of medicines being determined with average body sizes in mind, medical tools being designed for certain body shapes, which has led to some quite nasty problems.
 

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thaluikhain said:
Yeah, apparently it's not uncommon.

Points to a really serious problem with how fat people are viewed, even by people who should definitely know better. There's also stuff like dosages of medicines being determined with average body sizes in mind, medical tools being designed for certain body shapes, which has led to some quite nasty problems.
It's a complex problem to be honest

http://edition.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/01/21/obesity.discrimination/

For example, although the article doesn't mention it, surgery on people who are obese (BMI > 30) it is much more risky due to poor blood circulation and will often lead to infections (that tend to not go away easily).
Not to mention risk of mistakes when doing surgery on obese people because holding back fat increases mistakes.

All this adds up to highly increased risk of being sued in the US, so it is better for them to wash their hands so to speak.
 

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I would like to point out there is a difference between fat and unhealthy:

I'm fat I'm about a stone and a half (21 lbs) over what I should be according to medical experts, but I'd hardly say I'm unhealthy, I walk a lot, I don't really work out beyond going hiking/climbing 4 or 5 times a week, I have no trouble pushing an average car along a flat plane, I could probably benefit from some more cardio based stuff and I could definitely eat better (fucking salt and pepper pringles man, they'll be the death of me).

But I can run from my home to the other side of the town centre (about a mile) without too much effort, as I said I do a lot of walking and climbing and although I snack a lot it, tends to be on fruit or veg (and pringles), my main meals I fit in a decent amount of veg and think I eat fairly balanced meals (if the portions are a little larger than they should be). Which for a traditional neck beard like me is probably an amazing achievement.

I've maintained this lifestyle and weight for about 10 years, never deprived myself a single ferrero roche, but can still out sit up most of my gym going friends (mainly out of sheer willpower).

And for those saying us fatties aren't capable of getting "valuable" women (whatever the hell that means), I've been in a relationship with a funny, beautiful, athletic, intelligent woman (who's worked as for one of the UK's top universities and is now a dedicated VLE programmer) for close to 4 years now. So either I'm the exception, or you really are talking out of your arse. (and yes I'm aware bragging about my amazing girlfriend makes me sound like a douche).
 

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Spot1990 said:
Except it was. Look at it. "Transfat", a person essentially screaming about being a fat person trapped in a skinny persons body and trying to make a transition. The only times I've ever seen that post was in response to pro-trans articles online. It's meant to sound ludicrous because it's comparing being "transfat" to transgendered. Why do you think he refers to the "asshole" as white and cisgendered? What does that have to do with "transfat"? The entire point of that post is to belittle people.
Transfats is a "real" thing...in that there are people who claim to be oppressed transfat people.

It's absurd, yes...but then again, there is/was someone on this forum who claims to be transethnic, and is really Japanese, despite being Anglo-Saxon of no Japanese heritage who has never been to Japan.
 

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shootthebandit said:
Yan007 said:
In their heart of hearts, %99.99999... of men truly would never pick an overweight or obese woman over a thin one
I dont think that is true (either that or im the 0.000001 percentile) I think in a lot of cases overweight women can be very attractive. I think obese is a different issue but certainly an overweight woman can look amazing. It just depends on the person
If we're doing a poll, count me in the chubby-chaser camp as well. Fat is what everything that's good to hold on a body is built out of. Butts, breasts, bellies, love handles... Less is not, nor has it ever been, more. Bigger is better. That's my opinion. It doesn't have to be yours or anyone else's. I just like overweight women. And exactly nobody was harmed by that.

A slim woman, a thin woman, or a muscular woman can be very beautiful, and indeed women often are, but I'm not attracted to them in any sexual way. I suppose it could happen, but it hasn't since I was a teenager (and let's be honest, what isn't sexually attractive when you're a teenage boy?).

For the record, I am a bit over 180 cm, or exactly 6 ft, and a bit over 80 kg (that would be somewhere around 175-180 lbs?) and as far as I know I'm not in any way genetically related to the black people that Chris Rock is talking about.
 

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I don't go out of my way to be mean to fat people, like I don't just randomly go up to fat people in the street and say "OMG YOU'RE MASSIVE! Just look at those rolls *pokes belly* god you must hate yourself!" etc, but do I think it's an attractive and healthy life style? No, definitely not.

Is fat acceptance a thing? I don't know but IF it is then I think it's a bad thing. You shouldn't be proud of being fat just as you shouldn't be proud of being a smoker or an alcoholic; they'll all have drastic negative effects on your health and those around you. Now of course some people might say that's taking it too far, but is it? Is it going too far when you need bigger ambulances, stretchers and hospital scanning equipment because you can't fit into it? Is is going too far when someone has to take up 2 seats on a plane or train because they can't otherwise fit? No I don't think it is.

The fact is that unless you have a medical condition that affects how you control your weight, then being fat is a choice, it's a lifestyle, and if you choose to live that way then you have to live with the consequences.
 

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Because of the unique way the internet works as a social platform, people will express all kinds of opinions that they don't really mean. Some people will act venomously to others because they don't consider a username and a profile picture to signify an actual human being, and others will say anything to protect themselves from the horror of self-criticism.

There is such a thing as 'fat acceptance', but it's actually quite rare. Just from the thirty or so overweight people I've known with any sort of intimacy, I'd say perhaps five of them were actually comfortable with their bodies. Personally I think this is a shame, because by and large it's a product of social pressures and an 'all or nothing' mentality that's prevalent in a lot of social spheres. The mob thinks that you either have to be at peak fitness or you're a fat, lazy slob with no morals, but when you actually talk to individuals you find much more complex and interesting opinions.

What it boils down to, anyway, is that western civilisation is constantly progressing in terms of the affordability, availability and nutrition of food(and other things, obviously). What this means is that people will engage in lifestyles which predispose them to being a certain size. Obviously each lifestyle has its advantages and disadvantages when it comes to overall longevity, overall enjoyment of life, overall wealth and the way in which others view the individual. What it boils down to is the internal struggle of ideals vs reality, ever has it been thus. The only reason some people get angry on behalf of themselves or others is because of the theoretical 'they', who we use as a scapegoat for unwelcome opinions that we hold ourselves.

None of it really matters. Health, weight, life-expectancy; none of it matters at all. People who've eaten nothing but cold rice and cycled 700 miles every day for their entire lives drop dead at 45, while my Nan ate what she wanted and drank half a bottle of brandy with every meal and lived to 96. Everything that supposedly tells you how healthy you are is just statistics. Happiness can't be measured, the UK government has proven this; because people want to think there's a right and wrong answer to every question. So when asked 'are you happy?', people lie. Whether or not you are happy is not something you tell other people, regardless of whether it pertains to your body-image, your career, finances, self-esteem or anything. It has to be a question you ask yourself and it has to be an answer you arrive at of your own accord. Attempts to derive self-esteem and acceptance from outside of your own head are futile and damaging.
 

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People being fat is a-ok as long as it doesn't become an economical problem for everyone.
For example if Switzerland had similar obesity/overweight rates like the US then people would probably start taxing weight or trying to impelement ways to reduce those numbers. Why? Because we've social health insurance and you can't expect all of society to pay the medical bills of the people with unhealthy eating habits.
The first thing that would happen would be a petition for a fine/fee ontop of your health insurance based on your weight. We already have those for smokers and depending on your age anyway.

So jeah: Being overweight/obese is (afaik) per definition unhealthy.

Then there's the other problem mutliple people already talked about. That people with normal weight (mostly women) are considered "fat" by some people because they're not ultra thin.
And that has to stay and at least over here i noticed a diffrence in the past decade. The super stick-thin models are no longer the beauty standard rather "slim but curvy" and the acceptance of "normal" is gettin' bigger steadily.
Nivea's ads usually display average women since a few years now - they're doing this deliberatly. And they're not alone anymore.
 

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I think the Fat Acceptance Movement was created with the idea of "don't shame fat people" (which is a good thing, as evidence has shown that fat shaming doesn't help people lose weight, and in fact often makes the problem worse). However, I feel like since then it has morphed into "there is nothing wrong with being fat EVER, and anyone who says otherwise is the equivalent of a racist" which (in addition to being an absurd leap of logic) is also scientifically and medically inaccurate.

The thing is, under normal circumstances I'd completely agree with all the folks saying "if someone is fat, who cares? It's not our business", but if you live in basically any industrialized country (The U.S. included), then the overweight population causes large increases in medical costs and other costs (often borne by taxpayers), so, in fact, it IS 'our business'. Hell, in the US alone the latest numbers say obesity adds around $150 to $190 billion in medical costs, and that's before you get into other costs:
http://www.dailyfinance.com/2013/09/25/obesity-high-mostly-hidden-costs/

Additionally, if you work with obese people (or have them under your employ) it can be problematic as well, as obese people are significantly more likely to miss work and to file workers compensation claims. Again, this costs others money as well:
http://archinte.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=412250

So while I do support the idea of not going out of your way to shame overweight people, telling people that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being overweight, and potentially even encouraging them to be that way (ie. 'big is beautiful!') helps neither them nor society at large.
 

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Spot1990 said:
And even if they were real do you think it's right to include them as part of your judgement of a fat acceptance movement? Does that person who thinks they're Japanese colour your views on racial discrimination? Do you judge any group or movement by its worst members?
Of course not.

Sonichu said:
That's social justice for you: you think it's too crazy and they're just joking, while they're serious about it.
Not really, transfats and so on really, really piss social justice types off, and aren't taken remotely seriously by anyone who isn't claiming to be transfats.
 

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Damn..... I've been reading through some of the comments in that article and the follow-up one..........

I didn't think it was possible for people to be that stupid. There are some hilariously wrong opinions in that thread. Just utterly wrong.

OT:

Personally, I think the idea that people shouldn't belittle people who are overweight is fair. But the movement has been hijacked by people who seem to think being overweight or obese is something to be proud of. That is fucking stupid, utterly fucking moronic and laughable.
 

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I'm going to catch a lot of flack of this but- You shouldn't be proud of being fat.

Now by fat I mean SERIOUSLY overweight, not just like a roll. If you become a burden for your own body just because of how fat you are, then stop. That's nothing to be proud of in my mind. Your lack of action has caused this. There are wheelchair bound body builders, and they can stay in shape without legs to run- the easiest form of cardio I can think of.

Sorry, it just frustrates me. For the record I weigh 60kg and am 5'9" I'm aiming to turn the fat I have into muscle in order to improve at my sport, as well as to bulk my noodle arms so I can actually wear vests. yes, I am very very vain and self conscious at times.
 

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Ultratwinkie said:
That's what's considered plus size now a days? Good lord she's heavenly!

lacktheknack said:
As with anything, there are terrifying extremists within the movement that make it look unhealthy.

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Thank's for the good laugh. I needed that today :)