I would think that was cool, yet i would find her lack of... inhibitions? prudness? Strange.
I am not the jealous, marriage til you die kind of weirdo
I am not the jealous, marriage til you die kind of weirdo
Fellas, What would you do?
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Well, I'd talk to her. I'd rather her put that behind her, but if stripping is her passion, I'd find a way to make it work for the both of us. Same if she was a pornstar. As far as I'm concerned, love goes beyond those kinds of things.
But I certainly wouldn't force her with any "choose me or your job" asshole bullshit, that's for damn sure.
But I certainly wouldn't force her with any "choose me or your job" asshole bullshit, that's for damn sure.
She's not my property and she can do what she wants to make money. If anything, I'd be happy because she would be loaded. I might make her start buying dinner. I'm not sure how one would go about keeping that secret, though.
"What do you do for a living?"
"I'm changing the subject!"
Not sure if I'd ever want to see her dance. Strip clubs seems so depressing in theory and I never want to go to one. Arguing that it's "unfaithful" is a little ridiculous. From what I understand, if you touch the dancers you get thrown out. End of story. And strippers don't fuck the customers... ever. *cue Chris Rock's "No Sex in the Champagne Room." You probably have a better chance of her not hooking up with another guy as a stripper than if she were a flight attendant. Think about it - long hours in different cities away from you meeting new people every day. In my mind, her being away that much would be more painful than "other guys seeing her naked." Nudity doesn't bother me in the slightest anyways.
You seem to be of the mind that stripping is somehow a low or base profession when it really isn't for the amount of money that they can make. A good stripper doesn't need "your support." She needs an accountant.
"What do you do for a living?"
"I'm changing the subject!"
Not sure if I'd ever want to see her dance. Strip clubs seems so depressing in theory and I never want to go to one. Arguing that it's "unfaithful" is a little ridiculous. From what I understand, if you touch the dancers you get thrown out. End of story. And strippers don't fuck the customers... ever. *cue Chris Rock's "No Sex in the Champagne Room." You probably have a better chance of her not hooking up with another guy as a stripper than if she were a flight attendant. Think about it - long hours in different cities away from you meeting new people every day. In my mind, her being away that much would be more painful than "other guys seeing her naked." Nudity doesn't bother me in the slightest anyways.
You seem to be of the mind that stripping is somehow a low or base profession when it really isn't for the amount of money that they can make. A good stripper doesn't need "your support." She needs an accountant.
Personally I think a girl/boy who decided stripping was the best course of action for a career (though it's more likely desperation), likely has some issues they never bothered to resolve... seriously, I can't imagine the unstable background that led a person thinking that being a stripper would be fulfilling and/or rewarding in the grand scheme of things.Kalezian said:I couldn't date a stripper, not because 'it could be a gateway drug to other evil things, like veganism!', but to me a woman who strips for (usually) a living is okay with multiple men watching her nightly.HardkorSB said:I wouldn't mind.ameemo said:
It could actually be an advantage. If she's a stripper, that means she's hot and she can move and excite a man and that's important, I think.
Also, she's showing off her body. The same thing happens at public pools and on beaches at times, unless you consider something like this clothing:
Unless of course, a guy wouldn't want to date a girl who did that as well, but that's just silly.
It would be impossible to date her only if you were one of those oversensitive insecure guys who think that stripping is the "gateway drug" to prostitution.
I however, would not be.
Jealousy? Not really, its more of having standards, which to me a girl who strip has either low or nonexistent standards.
Also, lol, "if you wont date a stripper, you are oversensitive and insecure".
L O fucking L.
Also, imagine the difficulty of teaching future kids important values, when their mother dangles her ta-tas to drunken louts, deviants and people who just don't give a fuck.
My code for life: If you would be ashamed to tell your grandkids about it, don't do it (yes, grandkids... where the future is even more decadent then the present).
EDIT: Admittedly, there is wisdom in experience, so who knows, maybe a stripper mother would have a better view on things for her kids to avoid. Though that leads to hypocrisy.
...you realize a stripper isn't a hooker right? If I found out my GF was a stripper I really wouldn't care. Hell, I'd be excited by the fact that she's likely making more money than I am. Other guys and, gals look at strippers, they don't play with them. If your GF was a hooker then there may be a problem. A stripper though? They're the post-high school Cheerleader. What kind of man breaks up with a cheerleader?!
If it took her this long to tell me, then it shows me that we've gotten to a point where she really trusts me and/or it's a job she may not be 100% proud of. It could be that she is really only doing the job to make some extra money to pay some bills. We've all done stuff we're not proud of, as long as I really know her personality then I can make the judgement myself.
On the flip side, would you rather date the girl who right up front offhandedly says she's a stripper? It would seem to me she is desensitized to it... Sure, you might make a good one night stand out of it but how many guys look at the stripper they just met and think "yup, I want to marry this girl".
The girlfriend who waited some time to tell you may just really like you and want you to get to know the good side of her before you find out about her employment.
On the flip side, would you rather date the girl who right up front offhandedly says she's a stripper? It would seem to me she is desensitized to it... Sure, you might make a good one night stand out of it but how many guys look at the stripper they just met and think "yup, I want to marry this girl".
The girlfriend who waited some time to tell you may just really like you and want you to get to know the good side of her before you find out about her employment.
Why on earth would I even consider dumping her for being a stripper? It's just a job. And if she's got that talent, it'd be really like looking a gift horse in the mouth, wouldn't it?
Furthermore, I'd still say her job makes more difference than mine. She gets payed for giving people blue balls (which is supposed to be entertaining somehow), while I'm (currently, probably not very long...) payed to call people up in the middle of dinner and trying to make them buy useless guff they don't want or need.
Furthermore, I'd still say her job makes more difference than mine. She gets payed for giving people blue balls (which is supposed to be entertaining somehow), while I'm (currently, probably not very long...) payed to call people up in the middle of dinner and trying to make them buy useless guff they don't want or need.
I would break up with her. However I would make sure she knows it isn't because I dislike her or don't respect her decision or job choice it is a my issue and I simply don't think I would be comfortable having my girlfriend out doing anything sexual with anyone even if it isn't sex and completely work related. To be honest I think I would have a issue if my girlfriend was actress doing certain things as well.
I wouldn't be able to date her. I see that as cheating. I suspect a lot of people will disagree, but it falls under that category for me.
Then again, a lot of people think it's cool to flirt with other people while you're in a relationship, which I most certainly don't.
Then again, a lot of people think it's cool to flirt with other people while you're in a relationship, which I most certainly don't.
If you know that this is making you uncomfortable, ask her to find another job. If she won't/can't, dump her.
If you're okay with it [IIWU]: let it proceed. Don't give a fuck and let her ride your...cuck?
If your family and friends don't like it [IIWU]: Dump her. Seeing a relationship from an inside POV kinda blinds you. If many of your friends and family met her and still didn't like her, dump her ass.
If she's helping you pay the rent [IIWU]: go with it for an extra month(or two) to save up more money then dump her to find a roommate.
A real-life experience: I have a buddy who had a stripper for a girlfriend. She was a fucking 10/10 (for a Mi'kmaq chick) and it was pretty damn well-known that she liked to sleep around the province for money. He knew about this[proceed to play Mario Winans], but he proceeded to ignore that she was whoring herself. They eventually broke up(with a custody battle) very bitterly. Now he has a kid to raise by himself while the ex-girlfriend-stripper proceeded to hook up with horny white people.
I'm always listening to radio shows at work and this is a very common topic. According to Covino and Rich(and many, many callers), dating a stripper or even a porn star(a similar job) is a very, very bad(but educating) experience.
DAMN I WISH I WASN'T DRUNK SO I WOULDN'T MAKE THESE DAMN SPELLING AND GRAMMAR MISTAKES.
If you're okay with it [IIWU]: let it proceed. Don't give a fuck and let her ride your...cuck?
If your family and friends don't like it [IIWU]: Dump her. Seeing a relationship from an inside POV kinda blinds you. If many of your friends and family met her and still didn't like her, dump her ass.
If she's helping you pay the rent [IIWU]: go with it for an extra month(or two) to save up more money then dump her to find a roommate.
A real-life experience: I have a buddy who had a stripper for a girlfriend. She was a fucking 10/10 (for a Mi'kmaq chick) and it was pretty damn well-known that she liked to sleep around the province for money. He knew about this[proceed to play Mario Winans], but he proceeded to ignore that she was whoring herself. They eventually broke up(with a custody battle) very bitterly. Now he has a kid to raise by himself while the ex-girlfriend-stripper proceeded to hook up with horny white people.
I'm always listening to radio shows at work and this is a very common topic. According to Covino and Rich(and many, many callers), dating a stripper or even a porn star(a similar job) is a very, very bad(but educating) experience.
DAMN I WISH I WASN'T DRUNK SO I WOULDN'T MAKE THESE DAMN SPELLING AND GRAMMAR MISTAKES.
*Okay, first off... me? Completely open minded about sex and sexuality. Strippers? Sure, let them do their thing. Does it interest me? Not in the slightest. It just doesn't jive with what I find appealing in a person.Spot1990 said:
*Secondly, Taboo? Didn't say that. Neither did I say strippers were meth heads or too stupid to do anything else (but you did, which handily adds to the weight of what I'm about to said). Family problems? I can place fucking money on it. How am I so sure? Because no parent would willingly allow their child (which all parents view their offspring, regardless of age), get into such a practice. If not for some draconian moral standard or some religiously orientated sexual repression, it will be simply due to the horridly bad publicity of the Stripping institutions that mainstream media pushes. Actually, I take that back, there are parents that would... that is, parents in families that are UNSTABLE.
*Moral Values: Live your life as you want, but everything comes at a price. That is what drives my moral compass, along with compassion and consideration for others. Tell me, how would the hypothetical classmates of the hypothetical kids react to the knowledge of a stripper mom? Hmm? I think the answer is obvious. In this case Consideration was lacking. Suppose one of the kids voices concern or even resentment at the mothers career and bullying that results from it, what would you do? Tell them to toughen up? Or tell your wife to stop stripping? Compassion, and this one will be a difficult choice.
Everything comes at a price... but some things are just not worth it.
*The moral code I made in my first post? Yeah, can be disregarded. Didn't think that one through. Never live your life under the control of shame. It's fucked me over one too many times.
*Finally, Love your avatar.
Your logic is flawed, he may have been simply looking up the word to prove you wrong, and to provide a source for his claims. You have no way to prove he didn't know the meaning of the word prior to looking it up. As for claiming Wikipedia is incorrect, personally I find it is right 99% of the time, but if you insist another source: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/promiscuousTheBobmus said:
You're both right, the word "promiscuous" can be used in different ways. Some people take it to mean a person who has casual sex frequently, others take it to mean acting "slutty", and showing skin. It's rather subjective. Anyhow, it's arguing a technicality, in my opinion.
On topic, I think if a guy were to dump her for working such a job, they are shallow, and likely believers in the notion of "sexual purity" for females, anyhow; a stupid mindset that I still see far too many men possessing, even in this modern day and age. I would tell her it's cool with me, and if she wants to practice, all she has to do is just send me an invite.
Sorry, I may have done the 1-page skim before raging myself at the sexual immaturity displayed by a lot of males here.TheBobmus said:Interestingly I just apologised for how petty this whole argument was literally five posts above you.
But thank-you for pointing out the flaw in my rage-logic all the same.
Where is the beach that women wear such outfits? Because if it exists I'd like to go, especially if they're that good looking. In response to the post, it ultimately depends on how you feel about the situation. Do you want to date a stripper? If I were in the situation, I don't know...I'd give it a shot, but I'm kind of the jealous-type. I don't know if it would work out simply because I don't like the idea of a) lap dances and b) other dudes recognizing her on the street. That's just me, take it for what it's worth. She must be hot, so you've got that, and you must be getting close, as stated previously, for her to tell you this. You've got a lot on your plate, like me. If you find it too much to deal with at once, have some drinks and think on it. That's my favorite kind of thinkin'. Thinkin' drinkin'HardkorSB said:I wouldn't mind.ameemo said:
It could actually be an advantage. If she's a stripper, that means she's hot and she can move and excite a man and that's important, I think.
Also, she's showing off her body. The same thing happens at public pools and on beaches at times, unless you consider something like this clothing:
Unless of course, a guy wouldn't want to date a girl who did that as well, but that's just silly.
It would be impossible to date her only if you were one of those oversensitive insecure guys who think that stripping is the "gateway drug" to prostitution.