Flirting

[Kelthurin]

What I hate about flirting is wondering what the meaning is behind it. Sometimes, there is a legit attraction. Sometimes, she's just a flirt. I find it pretty damn hard to differentiate the two.

And sometimes, they just want to be your friend. Aww. Meh.

I want status indicators on people.

 

[daftalchemist]

It's all about the physical contact. I'm kind of a flirt without realizing it, but the way I always flirted with guys I liked was with physical contact. It makes sense. If you like someone, you want to be close to them. So unnecessary hugging, touching hair, and with my current boyfriend I would tickle him because he's very ticklish. That and when we would play video games, instead of sitting on the large spacious couch in my living room, I would pull the ottoman close to the TV and we would sit shoulder to shoulder on it while we owned dudes together.

 

[Steel Ronin]

unnessecary and excessive physical contact is one of the more obvious ones imo

Lots of laughing too. And she'll smile a lot.

Or that's what I do when I flirt.

Sounds really shallow......lemme try it xD

 

[Omega Hunter 9]

something about pupils

I heard that a person's pupils dialate when a person is aroused. Something due to blood flow.

 

[nunqual]

something about pupils

I heard that a person's pupils dialate when a person is aroused. Something due to blood flow.

What if you're just in a dark room?

 

[The Austin]

I don't know. I never figured the flirting thing out.
I'll think that a chick is flirting with me, but then I'll find out that she has a boyfriend or is gay or something.

So confusing.

 

[XSA37]

Use the Turk method.

Tell an amazingly bad joke and if she laughs you're golden.

Just make sure not to fool yourself into thinking you're funny.

Scrubs win. And yeah, just watch for things like excessive touching, laughing at what you say, generally spending more time than normal with you for no apparent reason.

 

[nunqual]

I don't know. I never figured the flirting thing out.
I'll think that a chick is flirting with me, but then I'll find out that she has a boyfriend or is gay or something.

So confusing.

Some women just like to flirt, regardless of whether or not they're in a relationship.

 

[The Austin]

I don't know. I never figured the flirting thing out.
I'll think that a chick is flirting with me, but then I'll find out that she has a boyfriend or is gay or something.

So confusing.

Some women just like to flirt, regardless of whether or not they're in a relationship.

Yeah, well it pisses me off.
I think she's interested and then I find out that she's just being a cocktease.

Sigh.

 

[ViolentlyHappy91]

Flirting is wrong and you're a bad person for doing it and anyone who does it is a bad person!

As you can tell, I'm joking.

Nobody flirts with me, and if they do, I don't notice. I have asperger syndrome, so I can't really read it if someone is. Makes things difficult.

 

[Altorin]

1) If you think she's flirting, then she's just being friendly.

2) If you think she's just being friendly, then she's probably flirting with you.

3) If you try act on 2), it becomes 1).

painful but true

 

[Kraj]

My sympathies man.
I have the same problem. The girl I'm with right now I was interested in for 2 years. Through other relationships even. I finally found out all the time we spent together she was trying to get me to jump her bones. >_>
her... pretty... little...bones...
And I still didn't pick up on it! WTH MAN SOME OF US ARE JUST CURSED.

Look; your either an em-path or your not. If you can't read people like that? do what I do. Be aggressive and blunt. Even if you don't get it perfect every time, I've never been short... ever... of "fun".

 

[PureChaos]

something about pupils

I heard that a person's pupils dialate when a person is aroused. Something due to blood flow.

is that when they grow big or shrink? i can never remember

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I haven't any facts for you. My closest guess is when a girl starts talking to you and finding excuses to talk to you more often than what you would consider usual. But then again, she could be just messing with you.

This is why I like to initiate the conversations. Guys are usually much more upfront about things.

 

[Paksenarrion]

unnessecary and excessive physical contact is one of the more obvious ones imo

Lots of laughing too. And she'll smile a lot.

Or that's what I do when I flirt.

About physical contact, one of my friends keeps pushing her forearm into mine like a playfull push. Is this the kind of contact you mean?

Sure that kind of thing, touching your hair etc. Oh! Taking your shit and refusing to give it back. Apparently that was flirting... who knew?

*shared flashback to our moms hugging us, fussing with our hair, laughing at our bad jokes, and taking away our pokemans when we took too long to do a chore*

...MOM?!?!

or, to be precise, "O-KASAN?!?!"

 

[iLikeHippos]

I don't know. I am the last person to ask since I have a syndrome that specifically IS making it hard for me to catch these signs, among other things.

If I've ever a hope of getting a girl, she MUST say it aloud. Otherwise It's absolutely impossible for me to know at the moment.

But, you still have hope, right? RIGHT?!

 

[Bat Vader]

In my opinion I have always thought of flirting as a useless thing. If somebody likes someone else they need to tell them and not hint at it. If anybody does try to flirt with me I will not know it and think they just want to talk. I like it when people get to the point.

 

[Omega Hunter 9]

something about pupils

I heard that a person's pupils dialate when a person is aroused. Something due to blood flow.

is that when they grow big or shrink? i can never remember

The black part grows to let in more light, so the color areas thin out. I forget all the medical names

 

[PureChaos]

something about pupils

I heard that a person's pupils dialate when a person is aroused. Something due to blood flow.

is that when they grow big or shrink? i can never remember

The black part grows to let in more light, so the color areas thin out. I forget all the medical names

black part is the pupil
coloured part is the iris
the white bit is...the white bit!

 

[Folio]

Hm, seeing these tips I think I'll never get a flirt.

1: I have autism, I don't recognise body language that well.
2: I have autism, I don't want to be touched all of the sudden.
3: I hate it when people call me cute or giggle because I don't know what's so funny. No it's not because of autism.
4: Other people with autism won't know how I flirt either, so it doesn't work.
5: I don't know anything for 5. Autism.