Gaming problems with my gf.

[Charm Offensive]

1. Talk. To. Her.
2. You're seriously doubting the wisdom of advancing your relationship because of a game? The fuck man.
3. You admit she's better than you, yet you come to a forum and complain that she's talking too much, giving advice, and calling you out on your bullshit.
4. You were camping. No-one gives a shit what synonym you use for it, you were camping.
5. She sounds too good for you.

Woah woah woah. That's really quite a rude thing to say.

She is better than me on Call of Duty. I only break into the top 3 if i'm having an extremely good day, but more often than not am in the lower half of my team's scoring chart.

That's not the point. The point is i enjoy playing the game. Her telling me to do things her way is annoying, and i'm a little worried that now that we are living together it might start to happen with other, non-gaming related things.

Like i said, i just needed to vent, and it helped me to write down my feelings even if a lot of you have just been utterly rude.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

"Strategic waiting?"
Wait... SO ITS CAMPING?

So yeah... your gf is right, imo. However, the getting pissed over an ACOG on a smaller map is really dumb.

 

[Kahunaburger]

I'm opposed to oral sex

Well, there's your problem.

OT: Just don't worry about it - CoD playstyle is not something to have a fight over. Do you have cold feet for other reasons?

 

[Charm Offensive]

Anyway, i decided to tell her how i felt. She was cool with it, but can't understand why i insist on using ACOG sights.

We are going to do the one on one match too, where she thinks she will "school me" on the correct way to play... and she's probably right. But if i win while using my ACOG scoped Enfield, she has agreed to indulge a particular fantasy of mine that involves her dressing like Mad Moxxi and taunting me with a megaphone.

I should have probably just spoken about it to her straight away, but like i said, we just moved in together and i didn't want to rock the boat. I like her a lot and don't want to mess things up.

I appreciate you all hearing me out, and thanks for the advice.

 

[Geo Da Sponge]

*snip*

Yay! All's well that ends well... And assuming you're not joking about that Mad Moxxi thing, you are one lucky mofo.

Just out of curiosity, was there some condition for if (when) you lose?

I'm opposed to oral sex

Well, there's your problem.

The problem is that the oral sex isn't being performed to Jamie Hyneman?

Or is the problem that the oral sex isn't being performed by Jamie Hyneman?

 

[Capt. Crankypants]

"OMG, killed again by another fucking strategic waiter!"
how many times have we heard this?

If this is what your first fight is over, and you have a nice girl who is interested in your hobby, then you should be giving people HERE advice champ.

 

[Baneat]

ACOG scoped Enfield,

Oh god,

Good luck.

 

[Hugo Artenis Rune]

Can I have your girlfriend please? My wife thinks I'm stupid for playing games. (Just fucking wait till the zombies come, then she'll be glad of my training)

 

[p3t3r]

camping n00b my most used gun in black ops is the spas 12. run and gun like a BOSS. but seriously camping is lame punch people in the face

 

[Harry Mason]

I love gaming girlfriends!
My girlfriend just called me on the way home from work asking if I wanted her to, and I quote, "Pick up snackies for Zombie Killins."

 

[meryatathagres]

OT: unless you're a sniper, there is really no such thing as strategic waiting. I can't really comment much on her other points but -- hell -- better she yell at you that you're not playing right than yell at you that you're playing at all.

I'd say there is, but 90 seconds is either sniping or taking a bathroom break.

 

[meryatathagres]

I'm opposed to oral sex

Wait... What?

Men who don't give oral sex to women, deserve to be married to their lefty. Just saying.

ps. Yes it's a really big deal, really really big...its huge, huge as in no amount of love or emotions will make up for it ever.

 

[JohnnyDelRay]

Play co-op. Seriously. My boyfriend and I have been playing games co-op since the beginning. At first, it was rough. We each had our own play styles, it was hard to mesh, there was frustration, but we moved past it. Now we have an incredible synergy, and it has translated into our actual relationship as well. Once you guys are used to your play styles, you won't nag each other for it as much.

And if she has a suggestion, for fuck sake just listen to it! So your girlfriend noticed a good tactic while you were too busy watching for enemies. So what? That's what sitting on the sidelines is good for. My boyfriend would have missed about half the treasure/healing items in Resident Evil 4 if I hadn't pointed out every shiny spot to him. Sometimes your head gets too far into the action, and you can't see alternate ways around it. Be a man, suck it up, try her suggestion, and if it doesn't work don't be an ass and tell her she was wrong all along. That last piece of advice was actually a mistake I made, bit I'm sure a girl would be just as pissed if she had been told she was wrong the whole time too.

That sounds like a well-thought out and most viable solution so far. Apart from, you know, talking to her about it. I also wish my gf would take the time to at least watch me play once in a while, and see this 'magic' of gaming that I experience everyday after work. (Corny, yes, sue me). But co-op play is the best invention since the g-string. The feeling of mutual success with a close buddy against seemingly impossible odds is hard to top (again, sue me).

Oh, and sorry that 'strategic waiting' doesn't seem to fly so well here. In an objective based map or match type, the only people allowed to camp are those who have just planted a bomb or are defending the objective from the other team (HQ, hostages, flag etc). You aren't supposed to camp when you're the attacking force, at the very most you can get away with is 'setting up an ambush' for someone who forgot to press the walk button.

 

[Charm Offensive]

I'm opposed to oral sex

Wait... What?

Men who don't give oral sex to women, deserve to be married to their lefty. Just saying.

Oh, i'm not aversed to giving, but i'm absolutely against receiving as i feel it degrades the woman.

 

[Amondren]

Luckily me good ol GF doesn't do that she accepts I'm a gamer and is interested by some of the games I play. I suggest talking it out if she legitimately is insulting you and your feelings are hurt.

 

[meryatathagres]

I'm opposed to oral sex

Wait... What?

Men who don't give oral sex to women, deserve to be married to their lefty. Just saying.

Oh, i'm not aversed to giving, but i'm absolutely against receiving as i feel it degrades the woman.

I see. Well it doesn't. That is if she wants to do it. Oh and dont grab her head. That doesnt feel nice and it can launch a puke reflex even.

 

[voetballeeuw]

Well, i only play team headqaurters and i think the difference between "camping" and "strategic waiting" is this.

A camper will park himself somewhere hidden or hard to reach soleley with a view of racking up kills while not dying to unlock a killstreak reward. Giving absolutely no thought to how his actions affect the team's ability to secure a HQ.

A strategic waiter like myself will choose his location very carefully. Normally a tactical position where i can provide overwatch for the guys on the ground that are attacking the HQ itself, or of the major routes from the spawns to the HQ.

I mean, yeah, i avoid the thickest of the action so i can unlock the attack dogs killstreak, but i do it for purely selfless reasons.

I'm sorry, but that's camping. You are not playing the objective, and instead are trying rack up kills. You can try and say that you're helping the team, but you're still camping.

 

[mikev7.0]

"...Strategic waiting?"

Sorry, mate. As many others have said, your girlfriend's right. And (promise I'm not saying this because of female solidarity, but...) she sounds like she knows what she's doing. As you've said you're "pretty sure she'll beat you one on one," have you ever thought that she's just giving you tips? I give tips to my gamer friends all the time when we're playing. (a la: "No, when I do that move you want to block and counter, not try to attack me after I've started winding up for it" in a fighting game.) You can fight about it if you so desire, but to me, it seems like she's in the right.

Worst comes to worst, and you need to duke it out in a non-fight situation: pick a game you're both equally good at and decide who's right in a 1v1 match (or best 2 out of 3, or whatever you can agree on). Winner of the match is right. Though, really, talking it out with a simple "I'd appreciate it if you don't backseat game while I'm playing" would be simplest.

Okay you had me at "No, when I do that move you want to block and counter, not try to attack me after I've started winding up for it." In what game did you give this advice? I ask because one of the true masters of martial arts, Bruce Lee, teaches in the Tao of Jeet Kune Do that the BEST time to strike your opponent is as they are preparing to strike you. I use this in fighting games all the time and if you DIDN'T combo into that Super or Ultra get ready to be comboed. An alert opponent can (and usually will) easily interrupt a non combo move with a wind-up. Priority counts. I was just really curious, there could be a fighting game that I haven't played where that's not true, that's kinda' why I wanted to know.

OT: You aren't going to like hearing this but it's not your girlfriend's advice that is bugging you. I mean, you have a girlfriend that's not only willing to play with you but is actually interested in the game herself, for one that's a pretty neat problem to have. Two, what's really pissing you off is that you don't like campers yourself and yet as your girlfriend (and several escapists) rightly pointed out, you are one. That's what's really bugging you. What is happening with your girlfriend is just transference to the origin of a truth that you really don't like and aren't ready to accept. The only thing that will really get rid of that feeling of discontent is to change so you are no longer guilty of a behavior that you really don't respect, or change your perspective of how you see "camper" so that being one no longer causes you any undue angst. I'm sure you'll both be fine just try to remember that no game is worth resentment being built up with anyone that you value. In short? People and their feelings are much more important than games or hobbies.

Also, I would avoid setting up any form of "contest" with someone you love as it sets a precedent that you actually believe it's possible to prove something other than who spends the most time with it by winning a video game. Anyone who gets owned by their partner at a game they are enthusiastic about themselves usually doesn't have to think that hard about it when they wonder what's more important to their partner, them or gaming?

 

[DSK-]

I'm quite a big gamer and have been spending a fair amount of my free time playing Black Ops on my xbox recently. I'm not neglecting Natasha or anything, in fact she's kind of a gamer too. The following picture is kind of true of our relationship.

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lmchytXP3d1qjbc5uo1_500.jpg

Pictures don't post here, so it says "a real girlfriend does not complain when her boyfriend is playing his xbox. She sits there and yells... KILL HIM"

The graphic makes it seem like a nice thing, but, it's kind of annoying when proceeded by "why are you using the ACOG attachment on such a small map" or "didn't you just call that other guy a tosser for camping in that exact same spot that you have been prone on for the last 90 seconds".

Or my personal favourite "oh give me the controller and i'll do it". She knows the difference in stopping power between an Ithaca and a HS-10 and thinks it makes her a bloody, i don't know, cold war era Joan of Ark or something.

But she doesn't even know the difference between "camping" and "strategic waiting". Which. Is. What. I. Do.

I really don't want our first major fight to be over Call of Duty. I just really needed to rant about this, but does anyone have any advice on how i can mitigate my burning desire to scream whenever she offers me advice on the game?

Sounds like she know's what she's doing. My advice: Ask her to take you under her wing. Also, play some matches co-op split screen style. Might be fun! You can always learn

 

[LiberalSquirrel]

"...Strategic waiting?"

Sorry, mate. As many others have said, your girlfriend's right. And (promise I'm not saying this because of female solidarity, but...) she sounds like she knows what she's doing. As you've said you're "pretty sure she'll beat you one on one," have you ever thought that she's just giving you tips? I give tips to my gamer friends all the time when we're playing. (a la: "No, when I do that move you want to block and counter, not try to attack me after I've started winding up for it" in a fighting game.) You can fight about it if you so desire, but to me, it seems like she's in the right.

Worst comes to worst, and you need to duke it out in a non-fight situation: pick a game you're both equally good at and decide who's right in a 1v1 match (or best 2 out of 3, or whatever you can agree on). Winner of the match is right. Though, really, talking it out with a simple "I'd appreciate it if you don't backseat game while I'm playing" would be simplest.

Okay you had me at "No, when I do that move you want to block and counter, not try to attack me after I've started winding up for it." In what game did you give this advice? I ask because one of the true masters of martial arts, Bruce Lee, teaches in the Tao of Jeet Kune Do that the BEST time to strike your opponent is as they are preparing to strike you. I use this in fighting games all the time and if you DIDN'T combo into that Super or Ultra get ready to be comboed. An alert opponent can (and usually will) easily interupt a non combo move with a wind-up. Priority counts. I was just really curious, there could be a fighting game that I haven't played where that's not true, that's kinda' why I wanted to know.

Soul Calibur (IV). I was playing Amy (rather fast rapier-wielding girl), my friend was Siegfried (slow, greatsword-weilding guy). I kept hitting him in the middle of him trying to attack me before I attacked him. In that, it works better for him to block as I attack him, because there's a counter move that'll leave me wide open for him to attack, and not allow me to attack before him. Make sense?

I know why that may have confused you- perhaps not the best example to pick, but I was posting while studying for a final exam, and that little tidbit was the first thing that came to mind.