Girl gamers and their boy issues.

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I stand on my own, with my DS at my side, and controllers slung across my chest. The road to happiness is paved with cartridges, and discs from all generations. If it's in the cards you'll find a companion, if not do what I do; let a warming console heat up your room on those chilly rainy nights, and let it keep the negative feelings at bay as the images it displays lulls you to sleep.
 

arsenicCatnip

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The Man With the Soap said:
arsenicCatnip said:
I've been gaming since I could hold a controller, and consider it an essential part of my life. And I've rarely had a problem attracting guys (I'm not gorgeous by any means, let's get that out of the way), especially guys who game. My current boyfriend is a hardcore gamer, and he loves it when we can share a game or talk about our achievements in TF2.

My problem is that there IS still stigma about being a female gamer. I used to laugh when girls would say that they wouldn't go on voice chat online for fear of hearing "tits or gtfo'... then I had it happen. (And I apparently sound like an 8 year old boy on voice). There shouldn't be gender separation. Girls can game, so can guys. We should be a happy community. Am I right?
I cannot stand the other guys who play online and always harrass girls like that. But, what annoys me equally are those types who say, "I'm a girl. I'm playing Halo. That makes me special."

I always respond with something along the lines of, "That's great, miss. But, in case you haven't noticed, we're in the middle of a team deathmatch here. Can we get back to it, please?"
I appreciate that you respond like that, lol! And I laugh when my (female) roommate and I play TF2 and a girl like that comes into the game and chats.

Girl: "im a girl and i play games that makes me special"
My roommate: "There are no girls on the internet, you're a liar"
 

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Wereraccoon said:
So yeah. I noticed there are bizarrely many topics about gamers(male) having problems with getting girls.

Just wanted to say it's not all that easy for girls either. (sadly)
I'm a gamer girl.. And yeah for me that hasn't worked out at all. Maybe it's just the lack of male gamers in my environment. But I wonder if more girls have been experiencing this problem.

For instance you're at a party talking to a nice guy... And realize you've ended up talking about Mass Effect. And the guy is like: Riiiiight... *backs off*
It's funny how non gaming guys are just as freaked out as girls... Oh well. Just curious after thoughts, and if more girls have experienced this problem.
Yeah you just need to meet some better (read: more in common with you) dudes. We're out there, obviously.
 
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arsenicCatnip said:
The Man With the Soap said:
arsenicCatnip said:
I've been gaming since I could hold a controller, and consider it an essential part of my life. And I've rarely had a problem attracting guys (I'm not gorgeous by any means, let's get that out of the way), especially guys who game. My current boyfriend is a hardcore gamer, and he loves it when we can share a game or talk about our achievements in TF2.

My problem is that there IS still stigma about being a female gamer. I used to laugh when girls would say that they wouldn't go on voice chat online for fear of hearing "tits or gtfo'... then I had it happen. (And I apparently sound like an 8 year old boy on voice). There shouldn't be gender separation. Girls can game, so can guys. We should be a happy community. Am I right?
I cannot stand the other guys who play online and always harrass girls like that. But, what annoys me equally are those types who say, "I'm a girl. I'm playing Halo. That makes me special."

I always respond with something along the lines of, "That's great, miss. But, in case you haven't noticed, we're in the middle of a team deathmatch here. Can we get back to it, please?"
I appreciate that you respond like that, lol! And I laugh when my (female) roommate and I play TF2 and a girl like that comes into the game and chats.

Girl: "im a girl and i play games that makes me special"
My roommate: "There are no girls on the internet, you're a liar"
I know, right?

"I'm a girl playing boy games."

"You sure ain't doing any playing, but you are doing a lot of standing around with your thumb up your ass."
 

Dumplebush

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Its been weird for me. I have always been on the football team, so the standard good looking girl has never really been that much of a problem, but the only times i really have been rejected by someone whom i thought was in my league has always been by geek girls. Even though I actually think they are more attractive and I have more in common with them then i do with the standard good looking girl. so i usually just have to settle for the more conventionally pretty one which kinda sucks because she doesn't give a rats ass about playing portal 2 coop with me. :(
 

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I was about to say that you are just picky and a drama queen, I mean there are tons of gamer guys, how could she possibly have trouble finding at least one.

Then I came to a realization. I don't have a single gaming friend. Well, aside from people on the internet, you know the ones I play multiplayer games with. So, wow, gaming is my main hobby, its fair to say it is a large part of my life, and yet I don't have a single damn gamer friend. I suddenly feel so lonely.

I guess games are not quite as popular as we gamers believe. I suppose you and I just need to become more rounded. I feel like we simply need to try new things. Find more hobbies, and maybe then we can meet new people.

Its not like we have to dedicate to new hobbies, or give up games, just find other interests, so we can connect with people.

Good luck to you, I think I am going to start by doing something completely out of my personality, I am gonna go see a play. I don't know what play, I don't know where, but imma find one.
 

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Even though I've been playing games since I've been about to hold a controller it still boggles my mind that that damn 'gamer girl' stigma is still around. Whatever.

Honestly, outside of the whole 'gamer girl' deal I've never had much of a problem with talking with guys about games. What problem I do have is that outside of me working all the time, I don't go out much, ever. If I do, it's mostly because I get dragged by my friends that don't understand what personal time means, or that having a social anxiety is not an excuse for wanting to be left alone.

If, however, that does come up, I don't take much offense to it since I don't really care what they think, and I have met some cool guys that love to talk about games with me. Although, I do get annoyed when I'm playing online and some other chick mentions that they are a gamer girl, I tend to tell them to shut up or keep talking so I can find out where they are so I can kill them for more XP.

I'm kinda horrible.
 

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It's just a matter of being at the right place. I went to Supanova a couple days ago and the concentration of gamers there was immense.
 

Tuesday Night Fever

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robotv56 said:
...and would tell you to refrain from online dating, it never works!
I met my husband on a message board for Command & Conquer, of all places, back in 2002. We played City of Heroes together, then moved on to World of WarCraft. He proposed to me in 2007. We're still together and going strong.

So, to the OP, disregard the text I quoted up top.
 

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As a guy! I'll make no qualms about being a gamer or attempt to hide my love of gaming or my excitement for current/future releases. The thing about it is though is that sure you've gotta test the waters and see if the person of the opposite sex(or your own sex if you roll that way) that your talking to is interested in games or is already a gamer. And if so fantastic...but if not you neeed to be able to (or atleast try to) branch out to other topics! And it sounds easy enough in practice but I've not been able to apply it with any luck so far either....don't let that discourage you though...keep at it!
 

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Wait wait wait wait wait WAIT!....You know about mass effect? Awesome! I mean, i know gamer girls exist it's just considering where i live (australia) it's just not all that common to find many girls who are into games like i am. Which, is the chief reason why i have never been able to get a date, as well as the fact I'm shy as all hell....

Just realized i went off on a bit of a tangent there, sorry. But, yeah, i guess what i'm saying is that it's nice to know I'm not the only one in this boat. Although, i do have to say if you like either Devil May Cry or Metal Gear Solid as well as mass effect, then i officially love you.
 

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Wereraccoon said:
Donnyp said:
Wereraccoon said:
Donnyp said:
If you'd like a hug i'm down lol.

I would think it wouldn't be hard for girls, no matter what, to get guys...well sorta. It's all about the guy and how big of a douche he is.
Well of course in theory it's not hard to get a guy. But that also goes for all you guys, not hard to get a girl. If you drop standards. No one does. So lets just say: It's hard to get a guy within personal standards.
True. But my standards are "i want to be happy"....
Don't we all have that standard?
Actually no, a lot of people have the standard of what they believe society expects of them. The whole conditioned to please our parents thing where society becomes our parent. Stupid explanation cut short, no. A lot of people think that happiness is another person when happiness is happiness.

So I suppose I need to be more fair and say you're right but you're wrong. If that makes any sense.
 

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I'm a guy, and I've only ever found like, a few girls that are super into gaming. But as has already been said here, I think the stigma exists on both sides of the gender spectrum. Ha, a problem I think you get that we don't though is that you tend to get lumped in with the "Ooh, like boys, I'm playing COD teehee, can I suck your dick?" group. I've seen a loooot of those in my limited time on this planet. Also men are stupid. REALLY stupid. And generally tend to be assholes. I've noticed that when girls display intelligence or really positive qualities (or both) guys get intimidated. Especially at parties. Did I mention men are stupid?

arsenicCatnip said:
My problem is that there IS still stigma about being a female gamer. I used to laugh when girls would say that they wouldn't go on voice chat online for fear of hearing "tits or gtfo'... then I had it happen. (And I apparently sound like an 8 year old boy on voice). There shouldn't be gender separation. Girls can game, so can guys. We should be a happy community. Am I right?
Italics Don't get discouraged, it's not that you sound like an 8 year old boy, it's that 8 year old boys sound like girls. The latter tends to be more common than the former, so people make assumptions.

Bold I was about to post this then I realized how good your post is at proving my point. Men are stupid. Monumentally so.
 

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Tuesday Night Fever said:
robotv56 said:
...and would tell you to refrain from online dating, it never works!
I met my husband on a message board for Command & Conquer, of all places, back in 2002. We played City of Heroes together, then moved on to World of WarCraft. He proposed to me in 2007. We're still together and going strong.

So, to the OP, disregard the text I quoted up top.
Way to go!

I'll also tell you to disregard that quote. I met my boyfriend through Steam (through a friend, but we were in the same gaming group). We started talking and he openly admitted he was a gamer, and liked the fact that I am too. I moved cross-country to be with him, and we spend a lot of evenings playing PS2 or PC games together. :)
 

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robotv56 said:
I said "Online dating" not "Online Gaming". Online gaming works! And you're an example. But I'm talking about it for the perspective of young single girls looking for a guy. Online dating when you're someone like that isn't going to work well.
Oh, trust me, it was online dating. I was in North Carolina, he was in New Hampshire.
 

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This is silly, girls don't exist, there are guys, 13 year old boys pretending to be girls, and anyone under 18 is FBI :p

OT: I've been gaming since I was about 3, watching some anime/manga since i was 7, playing D&D since I was 9, and started 3d modeling at 18, two years later still working on that, so I know my geek cred is strong :p

I've met some gamer girls, but only online and most of them live on the west coast while I am stuck in the middle of no where (aka Midwest). The few gamer girls I knew in high school were either taken or uninterested and in college it's pretty much they're all taken. I know what most of you are talking about with the "I'm a girl playing video games and therefore special" we all find online. From my experiences that's about as frequent as any other annoying form of troll video game player out there.

Most of the gamer girls I do know are taken or are lesbians with the occasional single one but the like, 3 I've met in person that were single seem to be interested in the jock type so meh. I can't count the amount of "you're a great guy but..." variations I've gotten but it's never been about them playing video games to me, just they tend to be nicer than most other girls (went to a sports heavy high school). At this point I just want to meet some gamer girls in person just to hang out with cause while talking with them online is fine and all it'd just be nice to have some personal interactions with the opposite gender once in a while.

Plus me being a ginger (I say I'm a day walker but whatever) and having no soul could be part of the problem as my friends are all quick to remind me 0u0 <=== it's a smile :D
 

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Go to some sort or gaming expo, you should be able to find at least one guy that meets your standards amongst all the men who will be trying to pick you up.

Also, why don't I know any girls like the OP?
 

Tuesday Night Fever

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robotv56 said:
"But I'm talking about it for the perspective of young single girls looking for a guy. Online dating when you're someone like that isn't going to work well."
Implying an assumption that I wasn't looking, and that I wasn't young. Wrong on both counts. Worked out just fine.

I could play the assumption game too, about you and your opposition to seeking soulmates on the internet, but I'm not going to. Just pointing out to the OP that I find your advice to be fairly bad, as it can, in fact, be done.