Girl gamers and their boy issues.

[Mimssy]

Hi, I'm a guy and I'd like to say people are all kinds of damaged goods.

So are you also in the corner on the weird discount rack with all the other dented cans? It's a fairly large crowd...

 

[thecatsme0w]

Hmm, suppose I don't give as much thought to socially inept women trying to find somebody. And yet my immediately selfish response is why do none of these geek girls (or geek gay, bi guys for that matter) live near me!

Bad news. Good chance they do live close by! The point is, you don't see them! Because they either stay inside... Or you just won't recognise them on the streets. Aside from fangirls/fanboys it can be pretty had to recognise a gamer because it's not like we all wear the same clothes like we're some kind of cult xD

I think you actually hit one thing that causes us such difficulties as a subculture -- there's no convenient way to identify each other outside of scenarios already centered around us. We lack the "secret handshakes" and "uniforms" of other groups -- I mean of course that we lack any common recognizable visual cues that we are gamers, and we also lack readily apparent behavioral cues.

It's easy to pick the goths out of a crowd. It's easy for Freemasons to recognize each other at close range (just look for the ring). Other groups have words, phrases, etc that allow them to signal to each other "I am one of you" without causing much chaos within the greater social group. Gamers lack this though.

That's why I bought myself a pair of d10 earrings

 

[Blizzarded Soul]

Oh, I wish I could find a girl I could discuss Mass Effect with!

This. Im a male gamer and metalhead, thus I find it extremely difficult to find a girl who will talk to me full stop. Most of the girls who live in my area of England are preppy and artificial so I pretty much get looked down upon because im wearing combats or black jeans coupled with a band t-shirt. Just pisses me off because they don't get to know me. It would be a dream come true if I could find a girl who would talk about Mass Effect with me, hell any kind of game. Sadly stigma in our society is a real ***** to anyone even remotely different.

Nyawwwwwh! I would hug you if I could :>

And I would accept that hug in no time. Now just let me prep my ocean draining device and i'll be there in a jiffy.

 

[Marcilla]

Could be worse. Could be a girl gamer who is also into girls. Much smaller pool than either gender of straight gamers has to deal with.

Yup, very small pool indeed. Its like trying to find a unicorn.

 

[Nazgual]

It's just a matter of being at the right place. I went to Supanova a couple days ago and the concentration of gamers there was immense.

I'm not sure Supanova or other conventions are really a good place to hook up with people lol. When I was there you had the creepy gropers or creepers with cameras for up-skirting.

Really? I've never encountered anyone like that there.

The place wasn't full of creepers (only some) but what I meant was that I think witnessing or falling victim to a creeper is more likely than finding a potential partner at a con. Even my friend I went with to Supanova is guilty of groping a girl in the crowd, though he regretted it after (she was rather upset).

 

[Vault101]

Hmm, suppose I don't give as much thought to socially inept women trying to find somebody. And yet my immediately selfish response is why do none of these geek girls (or geek gay, bi guys for that matter) live near me!

Bad news. Good chance they do live close by! The point is, you don't see them! Because they either stay inside... Or you just won't recognise them on the streets. Aside from fangirls/fanboys it can be pretty had to recognise a gamer because it's not like we all wear the same clothes like we're some kind of cult xD

I think you actually hit one thing that causes us such difficulties as a subculture -- there's no convenient way to identify each other outside of scenarios already centered around us. We lack the "secret handshakes" and "uniforms" of other groups -- I mean of course that we lack any common recognizable visual cues that we are gamers, and we also lack readily apparent behavioral cues.

It's easy to pick the goths out of a crowd. It's easy for Freemasons to recognize each other at close range (just look for the ring). Other groups have words, phrases, etc that allow them to signal to each other "I am one of you" without causing much chaos within the greater social group. Gamers lack this though.

for some reason I was day dreaming about this

like some sort of acceserie that when two gamers are within a certain distance to each other it shows their gamerscore/avatar/steamaccount/whatever (or holographic above their head..which would require wearing special glasses and probably isnt even possible...yet)

 

[Crazycat690]

"Normal" people, boy or girl, most often dislike hanging around gamers. Although it's interesting that gamers tolerate others alot more than non-gamers tolerate gamers, I reckon playing games allows you to see more things, "meet" more people, we are used to being with people and other objects that's not familiar, I bet that if aliens come down to this earth, gamers are gonna be the first to accept them. Unless their brains have been trained to murder them in horrible ways...

 

[Vault101]

My wife mocks me loudly if I have an 8 hour game session, but thinks nothing of it to do an 8 hour TV session (which seems an incredibly boring waste of time) The very word 'game' denotes self indulgance, so gaming seems to have fairly dubious moral quality in general. I guess if you make millions of bucks as an actual game inventor that is about the only way you can get any respect. Or at least if you earn a paypacket as a designer, gaming company employee, or other 'pro' you earn the right to play games as a 'professional interest'. But not too much, for games are akin to drugs, and always in the final analysis 'self indulgant'. It becomes a real problem when you are sharing a room with someone who hates it. Or if you truly are addicted and just can't keep your hands off the controller for five minutes. So I think a truly degeerate meaning for gamer is possible, for those who give up their whole existence for games. Like everything, It's a question of balance.

thats a very interesting way of looking at it, and yeah there was always this "thing" about gaming I couldnt quite describe, but I think you put it into words

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

It's just a matter of being at the right place. I went to Supanova a couple days ago and the concentration of gamers there was immense.

I'm not sure Supanova or other conventions are really a good place to hook up with people lol. When I was there you had the creepy gropers or creepers with cameras for up-skirting.

Really? I've never encountered anyone like that there.

The place wasn't full of creepers (only some) but what I meant was that I think witnessing or falling victim to a creeper is more likely than finding a potential partner at a con. Even my friend I went with to Supanova is guilty of groping a girl in the crowd, though he regretted it after (she was rather upset).

Well, sure there are people like that there, but if you just go up to someone who catches your eye and start talking to them, everything should be fine.

 

[Brandon237]

Oh, shame, but this makes sense, it is one area where you automatically lack common ground. Which is going to give problems either side of the fence. But best of luck

My girlfriend is a bit more of a casual gamer, she just plays on the PS2 and Wii, but with personality we are so similar that looking for common ground was never an issue And oddly enough the times we did take out a gaming platform was at her house... awesomeness XD

 

[Kl4pp5tuhl]

See, if we would still have more Arcades to meet at, we wouldn't have threads like this.

It's easier to recognize a male/female gamer if he/she is playing House Of The Dead out in public.

 

[Emilyx382]

For instance you're at a party talking to a nice guy... And realize you've ended up talking about Mass Effect. And the guy is like: Riiiiight... *backs off*

I've never come across a non-gaming guy.... what is this species you speak of???

 

[Kl4pp5tuhl]

like some sort of acceserie that when two gamers are within a certain distance to each other it shows their gamerscore/avatar/steamaccount/whatever (or holographic above their head..which would require wearing special glasses and probably isnt even possible...yet)

QR Coded T-Shirts with a link to your Gamerscore/Steam/Wii/Xbox/PS3 Profile?

 

[Schadrach]

Hmm, suppose I don't give as much thought to socially inept women trying to find somebody. And yet my immediately selfish response is why do none of these geek girls (or geek gay, bi guys for that matter) live near me!

Bad news. Good chance they do live close by! The point is, you don't see them! Because they either stay inside... Or you just won't recognise them on the streets. Aside from fangirls/fanboys it can be pretty had to recognise a gamer because it's not like we all wear the same clothes like we're some kind of cult xD

I think you actually hit one thing that causes us such difficulties as a subculture -- there's no convenient way to identify each other outside of scenarios already centered around us. We lack the "secret handshakes" and "uniforms" of other groups -- I mean of course that we lack any common recognizable visual cues that we are gamers, and we also lack readily apparent behavioral cues.

It's easy to pick the goths out of a crowd. It's easy for Freemasons to recognize each other at close range (just look for the ring). Other groups have words, phrases, etc that allow them to signal to each other "I am one of you" without causing much chaos within the greater social group. Gamers lack this though.

for some reason I was day dreaming about this

like some sort of acceserie that when two gamers are within a certain distance to each other it shows their gamerscore/avatar/steamaccount/whatever (or holographic above their head..which would require wearing special glasses and probably isnt even possible...yet)

We could always start a fad of tattooing QR codes to our foreheads that resolve to a URL with a profile or something. It would certainly be distinct. =p

 

[4ged]

all the "gamer girls" ive met seem to have a male counter part as it were.

this is because gamer girls aren't "available" for very long. has to do with the whole "omg its a girl gamer!!! must get before the other alpha-nerds get her" mentality... and yes there is a hierarchy in Nerd-Dom.

 

[Hosker]

I doubt anyone is going to find someone who has the exact same interests as them. Just look for something else if common ground is really important.

 

[Bugerion]

You talk to people about games thats weird I am a gamer but I don't go around saying my k/d or w/l ratio to other people I try to find other topic although its hard I must admit and I would also like to talk to people about games but sadly it's not interesting to them because they know nothing about it

 

[Nazgual]

It's just a matter of being at the right place. I went to Supanova a couple days ago and the concentration of gamers there was immense.

I'm not sure Supanova or other conventions are really a good place to hook up with people lol. When I was there you had the creepy gropers or creepers with cameras for up-skirting.

Really? I've never encountered anyone like that there.

The place wasn't full of creepers (only some) but what I meant was that I think witnessing or falling victim to a creeper is more likely than finding a potential partner at a con. Even my friend I went with to Supanova is guilty of groping a girl in the crowd, though he regretted it after (she was rather upset).

Well, sure there are people like that there, but if you just go up to someone who catches your eye and start talking to them, everything should be fine.

I wouldn't go about it that way but that's because I personally don't make advances on someone unless I know them enough and am attracted to them. (With that approach I've asked out a grand total of ONE girl. Who was interested but turned me down anyway.)

 

[William Burkett]

I am a lucky little duckling, I have the gamer girl of my dreams. Sometimes its just better to stick with your own kind (Gamers)

 

[cystemic]

its easy to spot a gamer in a male crowd. wear a gaming tshirt. if they look at you and nod or smile, it is one of your own species. im a girl gamer and i dont have or particularly want a boyfriend but I have met quite a few of my good friends just by the line "hey, nice tshirt". I think it's also the isolation of gamer girls, like we are so rare among the population that we never talk to each other and have the chance to share opinions or experiences. even on most gaming forums (bar the escapist), youd be hardpressed to find a girl gamer.