Hey guys, I feel alittle akward asking something like this over the internet, but there's this girl I really like and I want to go out with her. We're friends, but not too close, so I need some advice on how to get close to her and ask her out
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Get close to her. Then ask her out.
Sorry, I don't really see what there is to be confused about. What, specifically, are you having trouble with?
Sorry, I don't really see what there is to be confused about. What, specifically, are you having trouble with?
I ask a girl out today actually. She's a friend, not too close.
I just walked up to her, started a conversation, after a while I said I should get going and then just casually asked her out. Worked like a charm! Now give me a cookie
I just walked up to her, started a conversation, after a while I said I should get going and then just casually asked her out. Worked like a charm! Now give me a cookie
Ask her if your rag smells like chloroform, then take her home and have a nice conversation with her.
First think of something for you to do with her.
Second make sure you can really do said thing(homework, money, transportation)
Third Ask and wait for it. Don't get yourself worked up to much, relax.
Second make sure you can really do said thing(homework, money, transportation)
Third Ask and wait for it. Don't get yourself worked up to much, relax.
And don't forget to tie her up BEFORE the lotion goes on the skin, or the ropes just slip right off.Mariena said:
Just ask her out, but don't make it the whole topic of the conversation, ask around the time one of you has to leave.
Sound advice. Don't go too fast, but don't just sit there. Get a group of friends together, a small group, to go to a movie or something, and then tell her that one of the group couldn't go, so you had an extra ticket,that kind of thing. It sounds corny, but ask her if she wants to grab coffee or lunch or something. Just start hanging out with her, let her get to know you, and let it escalate from there.MaxMees said:
Just say hi everyday. you'll get closer as friends and try to do things that would make you best friends then you can try to ask her out then.
God, it really depends on how old you are. I rememeber early high school and everyone running around dating their friends and poking around to see if they can figure out if somebody is interested...
Whereas here most of us are old enough and confident enough that we'll probably figure out if somebody's interested fairly quickly and if they are there's not a lot stopping us from *going ahead and asking*. Ask what you say? Depends on your + her interests and whatever you think you have in common - or failing that, lunch. Because everyone needs to eat and if she doesn't then run away because she's a vampire.
Whereas here most of us are old enough and confident enough that we'll probably figure out if somebody's interested fairly quickly and if they are there's not a lot stopping us from *going ahead and asking*. Ask what you say? Depends on your + her interests and whatever you think you have in common - or failing that, lunch. Because everyone needs to eat and if she doesn't then run away because she's a vampire.
Maybe don't lead with, "Do you want to go out with me?" That's a little...global. Pick a specific activity, like a movie or something, tell her you are going and then ask if she'd like to go with you. "Hey, by the way, I'm going to see [X] this Friday. Would you like to come with me?" And do really go to [X] whether she accepts or not. That way, you have a second try option. "It was really to bad you couldn't go to [X] with me the other day. It was great, I think you would have liked it. But maybe sometime we could go to [Y]." Etc.
Don't make her think that you are hanging on her for the activity. It works a lot better if she thinks you have a life and want to invite her along on it, rather than thinking you are relying on her to get you a life.
Don't make her think that you are hanging on her for the activity. It works a lot better if she thinks you have a life and want to invite her along on it, rather than thinking you are relying on her to get you a life.
Yeah but if you do that your stuck in the perpetual "is she my friend or MORE" stage and that can only get uglier.The_Deleted said:
What country do you live in? (yes it matters)
Bad advice. That will lead you into the friend zone rather than the potential boyfriend zone and its damned hard to escape. Just suck it up and ask her out. She'll already know if she's attracted to you or not, getting closer before asking won't make a blind bit of difference. And don't make a big deal if she says no either, after all its not like you have anything to lose right?Skullkid4187 said:
If at all possible, get to know her friends, too. You will eventually earn their trust, do stuff with them, and you at one point will be able to casually ask to do something and let her know it would be just you two. It took me two and a half weeks, but it was worth it.
