Having Children...yes or no?
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Unsure, but probably not.
1: I like my spare-time and my hobbies. With a kid, me and what I like to do come in second place.
2: Money. Kids are a costly affair.
3: Freedom in the future. A child is a life-long responsibility. I like the thought of being able to kill myself should I tire of life for some reason. This would not be an option with a kid, as I'd have to stick it out to the bitter end.
However I also like to think I want to try to experience as many things as possible while being alive, being a father is a unique experience and I'm not sure I want to be without it. But we'll see.
1: I like my spare-time and my hobbies. With a kid, me and what I like to do come in second place.
2: Money. Kids are a costly affair.
3: Freedom in the future. A child is a life-long responsibility. I like the thought of being able to kill myself should I tire of life for some reason. This would not be an option with a kid, as I'd have to stick it out to the bitter end.
However I also like to think I want to try to experience as many things as possible while being alive, being a father is a unique experience and I'm not sure I want to be without it. But we'll see.
No, I do not plan on having any children. Most kids annoy me and I especially hate it when I am in a public place and they start crying and their parents can't make them calm down or be quiet. This is one of the biggest reasons why I take my MP3 player with me everywhere I go. To make absolutely sure I don't have children I am not going to get a girlfriend/wife either. That mainly has to do with me not being able to trust people though.
Nah, the world has too many people as it is. However, I might consider it if I do something really extraordinary in the future. At least that way my kids could make a positive contribution to society.
Maybe later in life. Like when I'm double my age or something. Right now, I can't see myself being responsible or mature enough for children, and if I ever am, I think I'd adopt. Sex-ed classes made the whole pregnancy thing really terrifying for me so I don't think I want to do that. Besides, there are many kids out there who could do with a family. But yeah, as of now, don't really want kids.
Got it planned.
I find that looking after other kid is tedious, but mostly because you lack control over them, even when your related you have only basic control. However if its your own, you can control them better... Needless to say, yes i want my own, and we already have an idea when we'll start as long as nothing crops up to say otherwise =D
I find that looking after other kid is tedious, but mostly because you lack control over them, even when your related you have only basic control. However if its your own, you can control them better... Needless to say, yes i want my own, and we already have an idea when we'll start as long as nothing crops up to say otherwise =D
REDUCE WORLD POPULATION! Theres WAY to many people in this world and Im not about to encourage anyone to have kids. More people just means more things that will drink our water, eat our food and pollute our world.
No kids. Kids are bad. Aside from what I stated above, kids also suck up your money.
No kids. Kids are bad. Aside from what I stated above, kids also suck up your money.
If you are married, and are financially stable, then it can be an option in theory.
So many children are in foster care now a days, that's it's sad young people breed without regard to the world. Adopt a child before you spread your seed. You will get a +1 and a cookie.
So many children are in foster care now a days, that's it's sad young people breed without regard to the world. Adopt a child before you spread your seed. You will get a +1 and a cookie.
Eventually, yes. How many? No more than two.
Adopted or my own? Well, we'll see about that one. I have a real issue with people who have more than a few kids (like 5+)of their own)), just seems selfish or stubborn or... something considering how many kids there are without parents or families.
Now, the one thing I'm sure of is that I do not want to bear the child(ren). My girlfriend/wife/lover can do that. :/
Adopted or my own? Well, we'll see about that one. I have a real issue with people who have more than a few kids (like 5+)of their own)), just seems selfish or stubborn or... something considering how many kids there are without parents or families.
Now, the one thing I'm sure of is that I do not want to bear the child(ren). My girlfriend/wife/lover can do that. :/
I'd have a kid when I'm financially stable.
... And have a girlfriend.
I like children, but I could find myself raising one instead of splitting it all to many.
... And have a girlfriend.
I like children, but I could find myself raising one instead of splitting it all to many.
The danger is that someone will say, "oh, I don't know, probably, maybe" and then accidentally have them when they're not ready, IE not having a big enough house, money, etc.
I want to balance two factors; how much I can accomplish (money/house/vehicle) vs. how little I want my kids (2, no more) to have birth defects (increases exponentially after 35). Whew! So, yeah, a lot to figure out. I still have time.
I want to balance two factors; how much I can accomplish (money/house/vehicle) vs. how little I want my kids (2, no more) to have birth defects (increases exponentially after 35). Whew! So, yeah, a lot to figure out. I still have time.
That's a big negative there. I'm even a card carrying member of the "Childfree" movement.
Reasons Incoming:
1. I'm at the age where many people make that fateful decision to burden themselves with all that commitment and obligation. That's cool for them, but I've barely even begun my life. I feel so unfulfilled, and I can't self actualize that my life has been thus-far worthwhile. However, I fail to see how spawning descendants is going to solve that problem. I choose to live vicariously through myself, rather than through children who have no say in the matter.
2. I don't believe in an afterlife. Some religious families like to breed way past their means because of the belief that they can all be together in heaven, when limited resources of time, food, and attention are supposedly a non-issue. I don't believe this to be true. In fact, I prefer to treasure the relationships I have with my colleagues over those I have with blood relatives. Getting off subject here, ah yes. Because of my lack of faith, I choose to live my life to the fullest of my finite existence. If I felt a sense of duty to my species, I may reproduce out of obligation to ensure the survival of the race as a whole, but that's not the case as our numbers are way above the extinction level. Therefor, I intend to live out my days providing for my own survival, and hopefully accompanied by a foxy lady who travels with me out of her own free will, instead of commitment to raising our descendants.
3. I am patient with adults, but intolerant of children. I threw away immature behaviors and ideals when I grew up. To quote that troublesome book, When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." Now that I've just briefly inherited the summit of rationality and intelligence, I refuse to so suddenly throw myself back down into the pit of feral humanity. I have many cousins on my mother's side and been exposed to their many small children. Each and every time I am around them I cannot feel more uncomfortable. While I have in the past thought of what having a daughter would be like, I do not think I would make it past their formative years.
4. I have no intentions of having dominion over another human being. A forced source of unconditional love, a source of cheap unpaid labor, and a life and mind to be molded and shaped by you... well it all wreaks of trying to play god. The notion that it is my responsibility to raise a child that is well adjusted and healthy is too great of a responsibility. Most people try and use the reasoning that "I had a shitty childhood, so I'll do better with my kids". And thus the cycle continues of raising imperfect children. For better or worse, I don't want it to be on my conscience that I am the architect for someone's life. Much better that I try and better myself, than run the risk of trying to pave the road for my enthralled prodigy.
5. Life without kids is great! Most parents burn out their youth, money, energy, and relationships all as sacrifices. I don't have to pay such a toll. I'm free to live out my life in any way I see fit. It's like having a blank check really. All those things you like doing, but think you have to "give up" to fulfill your procreative duty? You don't have to surrender those liberties! It really is a choice you make. Take a gamble of unknown variables, or take charge of your life. The decision was really quite simple for me.
Parents seem to believe that it's all worth it in the end. Naturally, I'll leave that judgment up to them. As for me, I've got an open road full of whatever I make of it.
Reasons Incoming:
1. I'm at the age where many people make that fateful decision to burden themselves with all that commitment and obligation. That's cool for them, but I've barely even begun my life. I feel so unfulfilled, and I can't self actualize that my life has been thus-far worthwhile. However, I fail to see how spawning descendants is going to solve that problem. I choose to live vicariously through myself, rather than through children who have no say in the matter.
2. I don't believe in an afterlife. Some religious families like to breed way past their means because of the belief that they can all be together in heaven, when limited resources of time, food, and attention are supposedly a non-issue. I don't believe this to be true. In fact, I prefer to treasure the relationships I have with my colleagues over those I have with blood relatives. Getting off subject here, ah yes. Because of my lack of faith, I choose to live my life to the fullest of my finite existence. If I felt a sense of duty to my species, I may reproduce out of obligation to ensure the survival of the race as a whole, but that's not the case as our numbers are way above the extinction level. Therefor, I intend to live out my days providing for my own survival, and hopefully accompanied by a foxy lady who travels with me out of her own free will, instead of commitment to raising our descendants.
3. I am patient with adults, but intolerant of children. I threw away immature behaviors and ideals when I grew up. To quote that troublesome book, When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." Now that I've just briefly inherited the summit of rationality and intelligence, I refuse to so suddenly throw myself back down into the pit of feral humanity. I have many cousins on my mother's side and been exposed to their many small children. Each and every time I am around them I cannot feel more uncomfortable. While I have in the past thought of what having a daughter would be like, I do not think I would make it past their formative years.
4. I have no intentions of having dominion over another human being. A forced source of unconditional love, a source of cheap unpaid labor, and a life and mind to be molded and shaped by you... well it all wreaks of trying to play god. The notion that it is my responsibility to raise a child that is well adjusted and healthy is too great of a responsibility. Most people try and use the reasoning that "I had a shitty childhood, so I'll do better with my kids". And thus the cycle continues of raising imperfect children. For better or worse, I don't want it to be on my conscience that I am the architect for someone's life. Much better that I try and better myself, than run the risk of trying to pave the road for my enthralled prodigy.
5. Life without kids is great! Most parents burn out their youth, money, energy, and relationships all as sacrifices. I don't have to pay such a toll. I'm free to live out my life in any way I see fit. It's like having a blank check really. All those things you like doing, but think you have to "give up" to fulfill your procreative duty? You don't have to surrender those liberties! It really is a choice you make. Take a gamble of unknown variables, or take charge of your life. The decision was really quite simple for me.
Parents seem to believe that it's all worth it in the end. Naturally, I'll leave that judgment up to them. As for me, I've got an open road full of whatever I make of it.
I already have several names picked out, now I just need to find a woman willing to breed with me.
Epic this. Epic epic this.Julianking93 said:
So, I've got a while to wait... and I'm COMPLETELY indifferent about that.
Im kind of neutral. Kids are annoying but they do still payoff by loving you back. Then again, Im terrible with women
I'll race you.octafish said:
I have a little boy (11 months old) and on October 22nd or thereabouts I will have another child - don't know if it is a boy or girl yet.
I want 2 or possibly 3 kids, though once you go over 3 it's either minivan or vasectomy. And I really hate minivans.