Healing a broken heart

[Arkhangelsk]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

 

[Lukeje]

Kill-crazy spree. That's the answer to any problem.

NB. Please don't actually do this.

 

[Xojins]

Time, its all you have. It may feel that way now, but later on you will wonder what the big deal was. So just give it time, stay busy, learn from it and move on. If youre going to dwell on it and torture yourself then umm yea dont bother. These things come and go, specially at your age, i know they all feel special but youre 15. Its all a learning experience.

Listen to this. You don't need a girlfriend anyway. But I will say that it is indeed all a learning experience, and in a few months you'll probably find a better girl, and you'll know better how to handle it.

 

[madcap2112]

Time and music

 

[azurawolf]

Try to move on. I know it is hard. That is all you can do. You will have crushes on people and not all of them will like you back. If you dwell on all these, you will never get on with your life.

Trust me... I know how it is. I have a huge crush on this one guy and he got a girlfriend. It hurt but you just need to move on. Someday you may be with that girl. You may find someone who is better suited for you. You don't know what the fates have in store for you.

 

[Pink_Pirate]

suck it up, not much more you can do... oh and if she ever breaks up with this guy, dont.. seriously just dont even think about it, no fun being your best friends rebound, i would know

 

[AndyFromMonday]

The internet is the best place to get advice about love.(THIS. IS. SARCASM!)

Yeah, I was in the same situation once. We were good friends, did a lot of things together and of course I had a crush on her, but I didn't tell her because she had a boyfriend.

So you might ask, what the heck did I do? Did I murder the Boyfriend? Did I dye my hair black and act emo? Did I cry every night? No. I got over it. Eventually you'll get over it too. No use beating a dead horse. Life isn't always what you want it to be. Maybe her boyfriend will leave her eventually and you might have a shot, but the transition from best friend to boyfriend is an awkward one.

 

[bulbasaur]

Screw all that.
She will prolly dump him in no time, so go do sumfin else and mabie it will work out, if not. Find who that wank is and beat the crap out of him.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Screw all that.
She will prolly dump him in no time, so go do sumfin else and mabie it will work out, if not. Find who that wank is and beat the crap out of him.

My non-existent muscles beg to differ.

 

[The_ModeRazor]

Cry in the corner... like a man.

Well what did you exptect, this be the internets.

 

[Mr Companion]

Forget about her, she blatantly has no feeling for you. Try to get her out of your system. Things of that kidney.

 

[ace_of_something]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

Well, time heals all wounds. Just shift your focus to something else like exercising or a hobby. Eventually you will find another girl or she'll break up with this other guy. I wouldn't suggest 'waiting for her' though it's not healthy.

 

[Pandalisk]

If you think you have alot in common and want her, Steal Her, that simple, nothings stoping you from pursuing her further, see how it goes.

 

[falcon1985]

It sucks, but you gotta suck it up, and move on. Girlfriends are overrated anyways, who needs em! (Someone please hold me?)

 

[Arkhangelsk]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

Yeah I felt like that once. You'll look back and go "Why did I care so much?".
Saying that, hindsight doesn't really help the present. Just keep talking to her and meet new chicks. The latter helps a great deal, and in a few weeks, maybe less, you won't care about any of it.

Would work, if it wasn't for my chick-repelling exterior. Ah yes, my body hates me. And it's mutual.

 

[Phoenix Arrow]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

It's a crush. It counts for shit. A broken heart hurts as much if you're 15 or 50, but the best thing you cam do is have a sense of perspective. Trust me on that one.
Let me do it for you. You wanted to date this girl you've been friends with for some time but she's seeing someone else. In one way, you're friends and you can keep talking to her being friends and maybe someday you can get together. The other way is you can forget about her, you probably have plenty of other friends who are there for you so hang out with them until you find someone else.
BOOM.

 

[Fraught]

What do my fellow Escapists think?

-Suicide
-Suicide by playing for 4 days and dying of dehydration or something
-Wait and hope
-Play some games, but try to eat and sleep at times, to not die, if that isn't worth dying for (and if it isn't, then you're probably lying)
-Try to get the girl and get her to leave her current boyfriend.

Yeah.

Also, I'd pick suicide. It's the quickest way out, and we all know that people are too impatient to "wait" for such a thing.

 

[NoriYuki Sato]

Trust me... I know how it is. I have a huge crush on this one guy and he got a girlfriend. It hurt but you just need to move on. Someday you may be with that girl. You may find someone who is better suited for you. You don't know what the fates have in store for you.

i personally say to hell with the fates, they've screwed me over too many times, so i make my own fate now, and On Topic, crazyhaircut, read your messages, i think this is a subject best let for more personal grounds..but that's just me

 

[zauxz]

If you play your cards right, this is actually your chance.

If she breaks up with him ( and dont worry, sooner or later she will) you will be there. Can you figure out the rest?

 

[j0z]

If you play your cards right, this is actually your chance.

If she breaks up with him ( and dont worry, sooner or later she will) you will be there. Can you figure out the rest?

Fixed that for you, and I tried that once.
It didn't work, she ended up liking me, "but not in that way." I am still trying, but not working...

My suggestion is to move on, not to sit and stew over it. Nothing you can do, just move on.