Start drinking. I did at 15 and I turned out fine, not a borderline alcoholic with escapism (ironic huh?) issues at all.
Healing a broken heart
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All things pass man, and shit just falls into place. You'll find someone eventually that'll make you wonder who the hell it was that had such a major crush on that girl, because it certainly couldn't have been you.
Mmm. Your body hates you. That's it. I'm sure it has nothing to do with eating too much, not getting excercise and having a "crazyhaircut".crazyhaircut94 said:
Come on, be proactive. If you're not happy with how you look, do something about it. Eat healthily, go walking or play a sport. Use Clinique spot cream and Clearisil face wipes. Bloody amazing, they are.
I speak from experience. I've gone from being described as the unattractive one with a great personality to the attractive one with an bad personality. I still don't think I'm attractive but that's what people are saying about me so meh. That's another thing. Don't try to impress people. It gets you nowhere.
You're probably right about that. Right now, all I do that can be deemed active is play instruments, and that gives me only strength in my hands.Phoenix Arrow said:
Oh, and "crazyhaircut" was before I had my hair done. Although it's still a bit crazy. I have dreadlocks. I'm known to everyone as the different guy with band t-shirts, dreads, leather jacket and platform boots.
Two things that work for me - the only two, actually - are time and getting fit. After the last bust-up, I focussed all that frustrated energy on eating better and working out a little every day. Not much, just 20-40 minutes a day of bodyweight excercises (pushups, lunges, squats and such) or I'd jump rope, or get on the bike, or just hike through the park. Pushing my physical limits drives the relationship distraction out of my mind. And I slept a lot better, being a little tired after a workout.crazyhaircut94 said:
Somedays I just do a few minutes at a time. Pushups while a game is on the loading screen, for example.
And, a few months later, I looked much better and felt much better. I'm no muscle bound jock, but I'm in decent shape. I'm more confident. Sure enough, my phone started to ring and she was one of the callers. I was still interested, but confident enough that my heart didn't hammer like a woodpecker. Physically, mentally, and emotionally I was more attractive, and we both recognized it.
The main healer is time, of course. But don't be idle while time is passing - fill it, with games, other friends, exercise, any activities will do. Some will suggest meeting other girls - also a good idea - but that's just another way (a great way!) to filling the passing time.
After a few heartaches, you realize that your life depends on no-one but you. Live your life well, and you'll be a better "catch", and more likely to meet/find the person you connect to best, who connects to you just as well. Not that it ever gets easy, really, but hey! Billions and billions of people have been through the same thing and so will you.
EDIT :: Stupid spell monkey.
Hmm. Wear a shirt and jeans. It looks like you've made an effort. I mean, stick with your own style. by all means, but it can never hurt to have a few shirts and smart jeans for whenever you're going places alone with a girl.crazyhaircut94 said:
Also, the best thing you can do at this moment in time is walk places. It's a great way to keep in shape without relising you're doing it and it's a great way to boost your self-esteem. Let me do some maths here. 1994. So you're... 15? I don't know if you have a problem with spots or not but if you do, Clearasil is the way to go.
Err. What else... oh. I was on the train the other day and this kid was behind me stinking on Lynx. So yeah, don't do that thing some people do and wear copious amounts of deoderant. It's not an attractive smell. Why can't those people just wash or something ffs?
I'm aware of the clothing issue. I need to buy clothes more often. And the smell thing, extreme amounts of deodorant is probably more preferable than the smell of sweat and dreads. I'm serious, dreads smell terrible if it gets wet or sweaty.Phoenix Arrow said:
Deal with it.crazyhaircut94 said:
She has a boyfriend, move on.
If she has a partner already, I don't think you're the one she wants to go out with.
No offence.
I've had feeling about my best friend for years. And I've gone through 9 or 10 girlfriends over said years. Its better off to leave it be as just friend and not bring up the interest issue. If she were interested, she wouldn't be with who she's with now. In the future, you'll meet a spectacular girl, and it's worth it to have both a best friend and a girlfriend. So keep the friend and support her in anything, you never know what'll happen tomorrow.
Exept forgeting about her, the best thing you can do is try to find someone else.
I'm 15 too and I understand how you feel. But you know, when you find someone else, you'll forget all about the previous one.
Time don't heal, love does.
EDIT: Try to read that while looking at my avatar.
You laugh, you lose.
I'm 15 too and I understand how you feel. But you know, when you find someone else, you'll forget all about the previous one.
Time don't heal, love does.
EDIT: Try to read that while looking at my avatar.
You laugh, you lose.
well if you don't have any muscles, i shall introduce you to my friend Mr Slugger, his first name is Lousiville, Joe Pesci knows him very wellcrazyhaircut94 said:
seriously it will just take time, she'll either dump him or you'll find someone else. in the mean time there is always the internet and searching for porn on google
Oh, you're back... HI!Kukul said:
OT: You probably should go out with someone else and that will make her jealous and she'll come begging you for your affections.
Read what I said again. I'm the one with the crush. She only likes me as a friend.goatzilla8463 said:
What's this, dear bloody Miriam? 
Okay... That she's got a boyfriend means absolutely nothing. A boyfriend or girlfriend can be a way to pass the time, nothing necessarily more.
Okay... That she's got a boyfriend means absolutely nothing. A boyfriend or girlfriend can be a way to pass the time, nothing necessarily more.
dude i hate to say this but i was in your exact position once (although i was 16), decided to come clean with her and got a ruined freindship and alot of laughing from poeple (not her though fortunately) for my trouble
just wait it out, when they split up play that comforting friend turned saviour card and get laid, although that last bit takes a bit of skill
just wait it out, when they split up play that comforting friend turned saviour card and get laid, although that last bit takes a bit of skill
One of the few XKCDs I agree with.crazyhaircut94 said:
DO NOT BE THIS GUY. Move on. There's nothing else you can do. Head to the XKCD forums and read the thread on that comic. Read how nerdy and CREEPY that situation is.
Again
o. Not. Do. This.