Help please (with a girl)

[Legion]

Unless you are 14 or a frat boy then ignore all this "Bro's before Hoes bullshit" for a start. I'd absolutely love it if Labyrinth sees this thread and puts 2/3rds of the repliers on probation/suspension for misogyny.

If you really like her, then ask her out.

Your friend already called it.

Sorry to put it like that but asking her out right after he tells you he likes her is a pretty shitty thing to do.

It's called reality. You can't call "dibs" on a human being.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

only the right ones say yes.

You were being so reasonable! But ruined it with this, I can say from personal experience that this is completely wrong.

 

[shwnbob]

Murder, plain and simple....What was this topic on again?

 

[the fake]

use the force my young padawan i have trained u well

 

[Sir Strange Of The House Lycan]

has a guy called cmwissy been here yet? he's usually here by now, hmm, anyway if you refer to HUBILUBS post you'll find my answer, its article one section 1 of the bro code, it is prominent.

 

[RagingScottsman]

Dude, it doesn't matter who you are, or where you live, one rule still stands.

[HEADING=1]Bro's before hoes, man[/HEADING]

Talk to your friend.

^^this^^

The second he stated he liked her, you lost all rights to her. Just realize that your relationship with this chick will probably last a few weeks; friends are forever man. Chicks are never worth the trouble of pissing off a friend, EVER. I don't care what people might say about true love, and how you have to pursue it no matter what; that's bull-shit. Statistically there will always be someone out there better for you then the person you're with now.

 

[bodyklok]

Your friend already called it.

Indeed.

Breathin before wenches and all that.

Though if your friend doesn't do anything, or gets turned down and is OK with it then feel free to move in.

 

[thisisyournamenow]

why are you asking the interwebs, there are tons of these topics ever month check them out

 

[p3t3r]

Dude, it doesn't matter who you are, or where you live, one rule still stands.

[HEADING=1]Bro's before hoes, man[/HEADING]

Talk to your friend.

[HEADING=1]Hoes before Bro's [/HEADING]

but ya you should talk to your friend

 

[Rooster893]

Consult your friend first. Then figure out if you really like her or not.

 

[theironbat46]

I have been in this situation before. Make your admiration known to your friend.
If he is pissed: If he is ok with it:
Ask AFTER your friend. Go for it.
If she picks him: If she rejects him:
Go for someone else. Go for it.
If she rejects you: If she accepts:
Too bad, both of you got rejected. Explain to your friend what happened and hope you can
all be friends still.
If he is ok with it: If he hopes you die of aids fire:
MISSION ACCOMPLISHED You still have a girll.

 

[McNinja]

So, to start off, I've known this girl for a good 10 weeks, but just in the past week have I started talking to her. She is pretty and smart, and I like her. Just in the past 3 days I've had a conversation with her for the first time (over facebook.... yeah i know :\) and we don't really know each other real well. I have thought about asking her out on a whim, but here is where I need some advice.

My friend of 2 years recently started taking interest in this girl, and has been pretty open about it and talks to her a lot. If I'm not mistaken she considers him more as a friend than anything serious. He has no idea I like her, and he even told me yesterday that he was thinking of asking her out this week or next week.

I like this girl quite a bit but don't know her so well, and I'm not sure if she would be interested in me or not. I want to ask her out, but don't really want to rush things - or do I? I just don't want to give up the chance to ask her out because if my friend does then my chance is lost (granted she says yes). What should I do? Should I let this opportunity slip away and give my friend a chance? or do I go for it? (I don't think he'd be too mad if I went out with her).

If you don't think he'd be to- ASK HER OUT. Just do it.

 

[Bagaloo]

Your friend already called it.

Sorry to put it like that but asking her out right after he tells you he likes her is a pretty shitty thing to do.

I'm sorry, but how? 'Bros before hoes' is the stupidest rule ever and whoever came up with it is an idiot. All's fair in love and war, remember, OP. Go for it. If you like her, then the worst that can happen is that she rejects you, in which case no harm done and you'll be able to move on. Whereas if you don't ask her out, you'll always regret it (take it from someone who knows, believe me...). Go for it. If your friend also likes her, then he'll just have to try and get in there first, won't he?

Thats your idea of the worst case scenario? Pretty tame.

Worst worst case scenario, you lose the girl, you lose your friend, your friend tells others about how you were a backstabbing git and tried to poach the girl he was after, you lose all your other friends, and you become a social outcast.

Now thats a worst case scenario.

But yeah, OT; talk to your friend about it, before you do anything. Its all about minimising the potential damage. If you don't talk to your friend, theres a higher chance of losing both the girl and the friend. If you do, either he's ok with it, and you can snag both, he's not ok with it and you back off and still have your friend, or the much lower chance of he's not ok with it, it really pisses him off that you would even consider it, and you lose both.

Seriously. Talk it out. Put yourself in your friends shoes, assume he likes the girl and then imagine how you would feel if after laying all this groundwork for a potential relationship, another guy who was supposed to be your friend comes shooting out of the blue and ruins it for you.

 

[Shru1kan]

So, to start off, I've known this girl for a good 10 weeks, but just in the past week have I started talking to her. She is pretty and smart, and I like her. Just in the past 3 days I've had a conversation with her for the first time (over facebook.... yeah i know :\) and we don't really know each other real well. I have thought about asking her out on a whim, but here is where I need some advice.

My friend of 2 years recently started taking interest in this girl, and has been pretty open about it and talks to her a lot. If I'm not mistaken she considers him more as a friend than anything serious. He has no idea I like her, and he even told me yesterday that he was thinking of asking her out this week or next week.

I like this girl quite a bit but don't know her so well, and I'm not sure if she would be interested in me or not. I want to ask her out, but don't really want to rush things - or do I? I just don't want to give up the chance to ask her out because if my friend does then my chance is lost (granted she says yes). What should I do? Should I let this opportunity slip away and give my friend a chance? or do I go for it? (I don't think he'd be too mad if I went out with her).

Bros before hos.

And you don't think he'd be TOO mad? Come on dude, wake up. If he talks about her and is open about it, he WILL be pissed.

Plus the fact that you're thinking of doing that makes me physically ill. Ever know the pain of someone stealing a girl, even if they're just working on it? Ever know the feeling of betrayal from a friend? Its enough for you to come home with a few less teeth, dude.

 

[Julianking93]

Unless you are 14 or a frat boy then ignore all this "Bro's before Hoes bullshit" for a start. I'd absolutely love it if Labyrinth sees this thread and puts 2/3rds of the repliers on probation/suspension for misogyny.

If you really like her, then ask her out.

Your friend already called it.

Sorry to put it like that but asking her out right after he tells you he likes her is a pretty shitty thing to do.

It's called reality. You can't call "dibs" on a human being.

That's why I apologized for putting it that way.

I hate saying "he called her" like its an object but that's really the only way to put it.

He did.

The OP never said a word of it and he'll seem like an asshole if he all of the sudden asks her out right after his friend told him he liked her.

 

[gbemery]

ahh the dreaded friend zone...many a men have been lost to this terrible place. I think it should be clearly marked somehow

It is quite clearly marked... with the dreaded phrase "I just want to be/see you as more of a friend(s)"

That isn't clearly marked for warning you before hand, because by that time you already passed the city limit sign, checked into a motel, picked up a local classifieds ad and started your search for an apartment and job.

 

[Nillz]

Alright, so I talked to my friend, and we discussed it for a while. We decided, better man wins. So I am just going to have to ask her out soon. She told her friend that "I don't really like him, but he's so sweet" so I think I got this in the bag if I can move quick. (she has no idea I am interested in her - so that might be a good thing)

 

[Taxicab Samurai]

only the right ones say yes.

You were being so reasonable! But ruined it with this, I can say from personal experience that this is completely wrong.

Well you're either obsessive or she said yes at some point.
Making me correct still.

Alright dude, she won't go out with him for being sweet, you got that so far.
Now as i said, DO NOT, DOO NOOOTT go fast.
Just keep talking to her (In real life no facebook bullcrap) and if you want her to show interest, (which is the hard part) you're gonna need a good head on your shoulders.
Now, since you like her you're going to take anything she says and think she likes you back.
Say for example she calls you funny or adorable, that does NOT mean she likes you.
(I know this from experience I got this)
You need to show no interest at all, sometimes act rather cold even.
Be cold, but at the same time incredibly nice randomly.
Be sure you give her stuff.
Act uninterested, buy her a gift, AND MAKE SURE you NEVER bring it up again, like you do that all the time.
"Oh hey you said you like anime so I burned you my personal favorites, oh no big deal I was burning some anyway."

 

[IckleMissMayhem]

ahh the dreaded friend zone...many a men have been lost to this terrible place. I think it should be clearly marked somehow

It is quite clearly marked... with the dreaded phrase "I just want to be/see you as more of a friend(s)"

That isn't clearly marked for warning you before hand, because by that time you already passed the city limit sign, checked into a motel, picked up a local classifieds ad and started your search for an apartment and job.

Yeah.... we usually prefer to get you all settled before we tell you your fate!! Muahahahahahaha!

 

[gbemery]

ahh the dreaded friend zone...many a men have been lost to this terrible place. I think it should be clearly marked somehow

It is quite clearly marked... with the dreaded phrase "I just want to be/see you as more of a friend(s)"

That isn't clearly marked for warning you before hand, because by that time you already passed the city limit sign, checked into a motel, picked up a local classifieds ad and started your search for an apartment and job.

Yeah.... we usually prefer to get you all settled before we tell you your fate!! Muahahahahahaha!

Why, that way we just look around and say meh, I just unpacked why leave now?