Homophobisms

[DugMachine]

Been hit on by 3 guys. Two of em in a bar and they got the idea pretty quickly when I explained that I was straight and that was that. Ended up chatting with em for a bit and they usually go off after that.

Then there was the last guy who kept persisting and acted like I was making excuses... when i'm just straight :/. It's kind of flattering I guess but seeing as I'm not looking to get a boyfriend any time soon I don't take it to heart.

 

[Johnny Impact]

Straight guy here.

Never been hit on by a guy.

Of course, never been hit on by a woman either (except a couple times as practical jokes, FML).

That there is no danger of it happening has basically become my take on it. "Women don't see anything they want here, why should men?" If I were hit on by a guy, I like to think I could just smile and say thanks, not interested, i'm straight, rather than freaking out.

 

[Woodsey]

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Pedantic comment is pedantic. It's a clearly defined word that can mean fear of or hate of, needlessly 'correcting' it because you think it should be interpreted completely literally is a waste of time.

 

[Starik20X6]

Straight guy. I think I might have been hit on by a gay guy? Was at work, didn't notice until after he'd left that he seemed awfully chatty towards me. I've got a couple of gay friends who have said I'm not their type. All in all I'd take it as a compliment; always nice to know you're attractive. Granted I'd rather be seen as attractive to straight or bi girls but hey.

Captcha: how quaint

Whatever you say captcha...

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I've been hit on by men a couple of times, though both times they were drunk and mistaking me for a girl.

 

[Grey Day for Elcia]

I've been hit on by men a couple of times, although both times they were drunk and mistaking me for a girl.

Well you are very pretty in certain light.

 

[Danzavare]

I have not been hit on by men before. As a straight guy I'm okay with that. Then again, being part of a couple I don't really want to be hit on by women either... my eyes screamed at the last one that tried it. (Because I'm a smooth operator) My very straight and slightly narrow minded friend however is a popular hit amongst men for some reason and it's quite amusing at how uncomfortable it makes him. "No man's hands should be that soft!"

If it did happen to me it'd be awkward, but I'd hardly consider it an offense against me.

 

[James Joseph Emerald]

If you want to get pedantic, why stop at phobia? Homo is just a slang term. When used in a scientific context it means either "Homo [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homo]" the genus of modern humans, or a greek-derived prefix meaning "the same". So I suppose "homonegative" would technically mean something that is not human.

Point being, getting pedantic with language is hypocritical, because if you look too hard nothing we say actually makes logical sense.

In general I consider myself a descriptivist. I'm not overly concerned with the rules of language and will happily agree that natural languages in general are irregular, and because of this could be seen as illogical. I simply made a statement about the usage of the word to which someone replied by posting an oxford definition. I Then replied in in the same manner to support my original claim.

But by making a statement about the usage of the word homophobia, aren't you contradicting your own self-professed descriptivism? As a descriptivist, your role is to describe why people say "homophobia", not declare it inaccurate based on your own feelings. That's called "prescription".

 

[TheVioletBandit]

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Pedantic comment is pedantic. It's a clearly defined word that can mean fear of or hate of, needlessly 'correcting' it because you think it should be interpreted completely literally is a waste of time.

Stupid meme is stupid. In regards to the "pedantic" parroting that's now happening, are you forgetting you were the first one to post a definition? Also, "a waste of time?" who's time? You didn't have to reply to my statement in the first place, and as of now I have plenty of free time so wouldn't consider this a waste; annoying yes, but not a waste. Also, If your worried about wasting your time why are you on an internet forum?

 

[TheVioletBandit]

If you want to get pedantic, why stop at phobia? Homo is just a slang term. When used in a scientific context it means either "Homo [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homo]" the genus of modern humans, or a greek-derived prefix meaning "the same". So I suppose "homonegative" would technically mean something that is not human.

Point being, getting pedantic with language is hypocritical, because if you look too hard nothing we say actually makes logical sense.

In general I consider myself a descriptivist. I'm not overly concerned with the rules of language and will happily agree that natural languages in general are irregular, and because of this could be seen as illogical. I simply made a statement about the usage of the word to which someone replied by posting an oxford definition. I Then replied in in the same manner to support my original claim.

But by making a statement about the usage of the word homophobia, aren't you contradicting your own self-professed descriptivism? As a descriptivist, your role is to describe why people say "homophobia", not declare it inaccurate based on your own feelings. That's called "prescription".

Actually, a descriptivists role is..... never mind I wouldn't want to seem "pedantic". And prescription has nothing to do with feelings. fuck, did it again, sorry. Descriptivists have just as much interest in the workings of language and talking about said workings than prescriptivists. Telling a person what I thought the word really meant doesn't mean I am trying to force any rules on anyone, it simply means that I have an interest in language, how it works, and how it is used. Damn it, was that "pedantic"? I guess I can't help myself. Of course I mean that last part jokingly, as I don't believe I have presented myself in ostentatious fashion just because I commented on a word.

 

[generals3]

been hit on. didnt give a fuck. he understood and left me alone.
maybe we should talk about how insane it is to be able to do the Gay panic defense.

The gay panic defense[1] is a legal defense against charges of assault or murder. A defendant using the gay panic defense claims that he or she acted in a state of violent temporary insanity because of a little-known psychiatric condition called homosexual panic.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_panic_defense

i totally killed that cat because....uhm.... cat panic defense mechanism.

Oh wow, thats hilarious. "Oh no, a gay person is hitting on me! I CANT HANDLE THIS SHIT!!! WHAT THE FUCK OH MY GOD NOOOOO" *Pulls out gun*

Well actually it would make me feel slightly uncomfortable, luckily it only happened once and i was pretty drunk so I didn't care at the moment. And the reason for that is simply because i always get uncomfortable when someone who i wouldn't do in a million years (includes chicks) tries anything. And that's because i always want to avoid offending (in this case by rejecting them) anyone and i have that tendency not to be very tactful.

 

[Woodsey]

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Pedantic comment is pedantic. It's a clearly defined word that can mean fear of or hate of, needlessly 'correcting' it because you think it should be interpreted completely literally is a waste of time.

Stupid meme is stupid. In regards to the "pedantic" parroting that's now happening, are you forgetting you were the first one to post a definition? Also, "a waste of time?" who's time? You didn't have to reply to my statement in the first place, and as of now I have plenty of free time so wouldn't consider this a waste; annoying yes, but not a waste. Also, If your worried about wasting your time why are you on an internet forum?

I posted a definition because you were telling someone they'd used a word wrong, which they hadn't. And yes, well done, I didn't mean "a waste of time" in a completely literal sense.

You were wrong, you have been told by several people you were wrong, and you clearly know you were wrong because now you're clutching at the "I'm going to interpret everything written completely literally" line of defence. Which, funnily enough, is why we're having the conversation in the first place.

 

[spartandude]

ive had a few guys saying im not allowed to hit on them. more often than not though i wouldnt even think about hitting on them because well... they're ugly and just not nice guys so i wouldnt

ive had people, both men and women who im not attracted to, hit on me and i was always flattered by it. why do people get so offended?

 

[zelda2fanboy]

I've been hit on by gay guys online, but never in person. I get so flattered by it that in real life, I'd probably lead the other participant on for way too long and relish being a cocktease. I can see myself halfway through the first or second kiss before saying, "Sorry, I like girls. Toodles!" This would easily be one of the most jerk responses one could have to this situation, but I'm a very sad and lonely person. Gotta get some human contact sometimes,

 

[Daveman]

The line I hear a lot is:

"Uh oh, bums to the walls!"

Seriously? Get the fuck out.

As a straight guy I have to say that the one time it happened, getting hit on by a gay guy was really great. I was having a bit of a shit night and it was just great to see somebody else spouting hilariously shit lines which make them come across as insane. I'm so used to doing it myself and haven't been on the receiving end so it was brilliant just watching him flounder about and totally cock it up. Not that I was a being a cock-tease, .

 

[Simonoly]

All my straight male friends actually like to hit on me and grind the crap out of my legs. They also seem to love playing gay chicken with me too because apparently "It's more authentic when you play it with a real gay. Extra danger and such".

I never get hit on by gay guys (apparently I'm too 'straight acting' - fucking hate that phrase) but I do get hit on by some absolutely stunning women, which is quite amusing.

 

[gazumped]

You can imagine how fun it was/how many egos got bruised when I came out as bi back in school. Suddenly I "fancied" just about everyone I ever spent any time with

Good grief, yes, I only told one friend in school that I was bi and she was Catholic and was all IF YOU EVER DEVELOP A CRUSH ON ME DON'T TELL ME. As it so happens, I did have a major crush on her, but I said nothing until I had five years of her saying things like "I must be ugly. No? Well, why don't *you* fancy me, then?" I did, you told me not to say anything, ya silly tart!

Some gay men like the challenge.

I wonder if some straight guys have a thing about lesbians for a similar reason...

You used the word "homophobia", but I think you mean people that hate gay people, not people that are afraid of them?

Nah, definitions aside, this is a stellar example of fear of gay people. It even sometimes goes something like "I don't have a problem with gay people, but if they hit on me I'll punch them in the face!" They're nervous about being in situations with homosexual intentions being pressed upon them.

I sometimes wonder, though, if for men it's not so much about the homosexuality... as a female I feel pretty anxious about being hit on my men as well, much more so than with when women flirt with me. If someone has an interest in me that I don't return, it's much more unwelcome when I'm aware that the individual is bigger and stronger than me and may be able to take what he wants from me if he were that kind of a person...

 

[exessmirror]

to be honest i would be flatterd when a gay guy hits on me. that would mean i am so awesome that both sexes want me

 

[GraveeKing]

I've seen it happen jokingly - but never seriously.
I've certainly never hit on a straight guy. Even ones I consider good looking!

No self-respecting bisexual or gay guy would ever hit on a straight guy seriously.
And no self-respecting ANYONE should EXPECTED to be hit on, smug blighters!

 

[viranimus]

You can imagine how fun it was/how many egos got bruised when I came out as bi back in school. Suddenly I "fancied" just about everyone I ever spent any time with

Good grief, yes, I only told one friend in school that I was bi and she was Catholic and was all IF YOU EVER DEVELOP A CRUSH ON ME DON'T TELL ME. As it so happens, I did have a major crush on her, but I said nothing until I had five years of her saying things like "I must be ugly. No? Well, why don't *you* fancy me, then?" I did, you told me not to say anything, ya silly tart!

I would just point out that your formatting is off as those are the words of Eamar, Not me as I am not bi, nor even remotely european enough to use the word "Fancied"