How Do You Keep From Being Flamed?

[Kurt Horsting]

Face punching. Shuts motherfuckers up quick.

 

[Xojins]

First step in not being flamed - be right and prove it.
Second step in not being flamed - know your topic, have examples and evidence backed up to prove your point.

That's about it really just make sure you know your stuff, and simply walk away if the argument/discussion enters a loop, or the person you are having a discussion with starts taking things out of context and/or begins using circular reasoning.

This sums up everything you need to not be flamed. However if you're talking about being trolled... you have to be a better troll

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

Iunno, don't give your opinion on a controversial issue? there are specific things that people will get riled up over. If you don't want to go back and forth with someone just ignore topics like that.

 

[Infinatex]

Self regulating fire extinguisher. I read all my post from the point of view opposing mine before I post. If I don't like it the I change it or don't post it.

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

By following the Golden Rule: If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

That's why even though I've been here as long as I have, I have such a low post count.

And that's fine with me.

[sub][sub]Plus I avoid Politics and Religion like the plague...[/sub][/sub]

 

[LogicNProportion]

I offer discussion and debate with points from both sides, and try to present my thoughts as logically and understandably as possible.

Failing that, I may try and make myself look smarter than I am.

 

[Lineoutt]

By not making a thread called "how do you keep from getting flamed?"

Kidding aside. Not being a dick helps.

 

[Aesthetical Quietus]

Everyday I see someone here get pounded into the dust for typing his/her opinion. It becomes very annoying very quickly when you are flamed upon. Is there any specific technique you use that is actually successful and allows you to retain your opinion while still throwing it out there?

Yes, I do argue it out, but it never goes anywhere, it always ends up a continuous volley of opinions and facts to back them up. <-----annoying part is that-a-way.

Yeah, there is. Either flame the trolls, [This is fun], or you can ignore them. Generally speaking, it sounds more like they are trying to debate you, rather than flame you. This is a good thing, you should keep your mind open. If you allow some of your more faulty opinions to be replaced, you might find yourself a lot happier and a lot more knowledgeable.

 

[Funkysandwich]

Don't post when you have nothing to contribute. Telling a person they're wrong because you disagree doesn't help. Telling a person you disagree because of fact 1 and 2 generally leads to a discussion, not a flame war.

Secondly, shut up. If the other person isn't going to budge and makes that pretty clear, stop trying. You can't win 'em all, no matter how right you are. Let idiots be idiots.

You're wrong. I disagree.

No, but seriously I don't think I've ever been flamed on here, and I've not done any flaming of my own so I think I'm in the clear. I don't post much though, so maybe that's why. I usually only post when I have something to say, when I can be bothered typing.

 

[Naheal]

To avoid being flamed, I usually stay as clear as I possibly can while taking a neutral standpoint.

 

[Jack and Calumon]

I don't prevent myself in any way. I'll post my opinion no matter what it is, and no matter who it offends. Plus I have Calumon and that earned me alot of haters who have seemingly vanished!

Calumon: We can take it! ^^

 

[JaeKin]

I fall somewhere in the "What counts as a flame?" and "I don't really care."

Always enjoyed a good debate, sometimes the best way to learn something or look at something is someone else pointing out an opinion you never would have thought of on your own. However, the key to any debate, or conversation for that matter, is both parties having and willing to use the ability to admit they're wrong about a previously-stated opinion. If neither side can admit the other side has a point, than it's just a back and forth until one bludgeons the other into their way of thinking, or they get tired and leave.

So, someone responding to what I say with a different opinion, even one a polar opposite of what I said, if done so with that same respect and desire to flesh an idea out that I share. I don't see that as flaming, just good conversation. However, that's the rub, some people can be respectful and calm in contradicting you, but simply re-state the same opinion over and over without re-examining their own stance. I find that more annoying than a hot-headed response. Though, by annoyed, I mean along the lines of "Oh, this conversation is a lost cause, moving on."

Than there are the trolls or just people begging you to take the bait by taking anything you say to the highest possible extreme. Those fall in the "I honestly don't care" part. I try to split my day into different parts, and each part has a certain amount of effort or care I put into it. First part covers family, wife, son, siblings, those I care a great deal about. Next part is work, finances, quality of life, still a good amount of caring, than you have sleeping, eating, bodily functions and hygiene for the next part, and those are important things to care about.

The last part, that tiny, last, little part of my day left over, that part is for "Things to do that won't cause any problems, may make me laugh or smile a bit, and be forgotten by morning." and the entire goal of this part is to take the smallest amount of effort and require no caring. So, whether or not someone flames my post, it will still belong to the same level of caring that I dedicate to watching TV while half-asleep.

I realize that the length of my post may seem contradictory to my points, but that's because I'm unable to make concise points.

 

[Beyond D espair]

This shield. There are many like it, but this one's mine:

Isn't that "Wall of Fire" from Magic the Gathering? I love that card. You're awesome for posting this.



And as for avoiding flames. I just don't go near them and avoid posting something arrogant and highly opinionated.

 

[Mechsoap]

Follow the crowd and only post opinions that are shared by the public.

Or you could not care about other people's opinions and post your own, then argue your point to those who have a problem with your opinion.

arguing on the internet is like competing in special Olympics.

just say your opinion and ignore those who say nai! to that, unless you say you like to burn kittens and piss on them to stop the fire im not really sure...

 

[xXAsherahXx]

I don't prevent myself in any way. I'll post my opinion no matter what it is, and no matter who it offends. Plus I have Calumon and that earned me alot of haters who have seemingly vanished!

Calumon: We can take it! ^^

Calumon?

 

[Serenegoose]

I don't prevent myself in any way. I'll post my opinion no matter what it is, and no matter who it offends. Plus I have Calumon and that earned me alot of haters who have seemingly vanished!

Calumon: We can take it! ^^

I have no idea who could hate Calumon. Calumon is a grade A bad ass. Maybe it's jealousy, I guess?

 

[cheese_wizington]

As my art teacher once said, "I march to the beat of a different drum."

I don't try and be a douche to get quoted for attention or to get in arguments, I just post my own opinion. If there's one thing this site has taught me it's that I should stand up for my opinions.

 

[Joe Matsuda]

I don't...

though I have no recollections of ever really being flamed too bad...

...though I might have just blocked out the horrible burning from my mind /depressing psyche

 

[ragestreet]

I don't post since usually I don't have anything of substance to add.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Be polite, even when dealing with a jackass. I wrote a guide on this, I believe.