How to please a girl, non-pysically.

[uzo]

All of these things are lovely and sweet and la-dee-dah, but in my experience women get used to this kind of thing remarkably quickly, considering how long it takes us guys to cotton onto the idea.

From a guy's POV, remember to keep it completely random -- *don't* attach it to special days (be they good or bad!).

Whatever you do, don't start doing goddamn back flips every time she has a shitty day because one day - just ONE day - you're gonna forget, or be too tired, or not have time, and on that day ...


... WHAM!! WHERE THE HELL IS MY SPECIAL TREAT YOU BASTARD ?!?!?

 

[Paschendale]

Three words.

Learn. To. Cook. Everyone loves when someone cooks a meal for them. Especially when it's well done. Learn what she likes, invite her over, and take a stab at cooking something she really likes. Especially if you put a unique twist on it.

 

[Ham_authority95]

For me it is as simple as this: When my bf tells me that he loves me I feel like the most lucky girl on earth! No need for expensive presents ect. I mean of course that is nice too, but for me it doesn't make me feel nearly as good. OH! and remeber to hug her lots and lots :3

But hugging is a physical thing.

OT: Yeah, pretty much what she said. "I love you" is a powerful thing, though, and say it only if you really mean it.

Also, just be there for her, in both ups and downs, and have fun while you're with her. Good times tend to please people.

 

[thom_cat_]

Compliments, massages, talking, being honest... just be yourself? It's not hard. If you love someone you should be doing this anyway. If you don't, then why are you doing it? And if the answer is "to get in their pants" I don't think you deserve any advice.

 

[mysecondlife]

I would say, surprise her; don't be predictable, and always keep her guessing.

 

[blazeion212]

If in doubt of what to do, just tell her what your relationship means to you, and what she means to you. If it is love, it'll be fine.

 

[katsumoto03]

Very relevant:

 

[KarlMonster]

Some people think flowers "work". And... they do but it depends on the woman, and the flower. I've hit upon something much better.

Strawberries.

Now don't you dare tell anyone else, this is my move!

 

[BlazedWithPower]

Money, women love money. I'm sure there are plenty of women here who will deny their primal desire to be spoiled but I assure you their lust for expensive shit is greater then a mans lust for boobs.

Complement them. Not creepy, but poetically. Unless their not into the poetic shit, then use song lyric. Unless their favorite kind of music doesn't have lyrics. Basically appeal to their personality. How ever convoluted it may be.

Be an asshole. I've seen incredibly beautiful and intelligent women who are well off fall for the shittiest, most vial scumbags imaginable. There is not logical explanation for this. So after you compliment them follow it up with an off handed insult.


Example scenario:
Hey [NAME], I just bought you some hand painted gold flecked crystal stuff that was way expensive and now my mom will die from cancer because I used all that money. But my beautiful darling deserves only the best. Even though you're fat.

^ That person is getting laid right now ^

Most importantly:
Women are to Logic and Reason
as
Cats are to Water and Fire


[Thank you for realizing this thread is for entertainment purposes only. Unless you didn't.]

 

[Radelaide]

How the fuck am I supposed to know? How do you expect me to understand how to please them in any sense of the word? Oh, wait, I remember: How I please women is leaving them the fuck alone. And you know something? It works a lot better than the alternative.

Keep it in check, RAK. If you can't contribute to the conversation in a nice way, why say anything at all?

OT: Seriously, just pay attention. If she has an interest, try to take an interest in it. I've been pretty sick over the past few weeks and my boyfriend has been taking lots of care of me. Girls don't love the huge romantic gesture every day.

 

[Titan Buttons]

Just have some chivalry, such as opening the door for her and let her through first. Things like that

 

[Griffolion]

Set up an elaborate surprise for her. For example: My boyfriend and I play Team Fortress 2. On my birthday this past year (before we were even dating), he set me a hat in the game, with a custom name and description to match another weapon I had. I found it very thoughtful, but couldn't thank him in person since I was out of town.

And then a few days later when I came back, he put a package at my door that he made look exactly like when you receive a gift in a game a purple box with red ribbon. The tag on it said "To: <3 From: Ikebukuro" (a reference to an anime we both enjoy). Inside the box was a hat that looked EXACTLY like the one he got me in the game. On it, of course, was a tag with the same custom name as the other hat.

I fell to my knees when I unwrapped it. It's the most thoughtful thing anyone has ever done for me. Hope that helps!

OMG my boyfriend got me a TF2 hat for my birthday too! But he didn't get me a REAL version of it...that's AWESOME!!!!!!! Very romantic!

Show that love in the every day small things, be thoughtful, think of her, centre your actions and intentions around her. Most of all, treat her like a human, not some love object you can lavish soppy affection on. Love is practical as well as the romance, show it in how you live your life with her.

Agreed, but a little drama/fanciness/sappiness is nice every once in awhile too ^^

Yeah I was over zealous in emphasizing the practical aspect, the affection is obviously a key factor, but I just wanted to highlight to the op that it isn't everything as their post suggested it was.

 

[Pharsalus]

I'm sure someone said it already, but you misspelled physical. I point this out not to be a spelling nazi but because the physical does matter. Intimacy,foreplay, and such matter, but the real issue is to make the woman feel like she matters, is prized. No woman is an object, but every woman is special, make it clear that you feel that way and things will go well.

 

[Vandy]

Three simple words... PAY FRIKIN ATTENTION!

 

[Erana]

Make her feel loved.

Making affectionate gestures are meaningless, and often very uncomfortable for the other person, if it doesn't make you as happy to be giving as it makes them to receive.

Its hard to pinpoint what I'm trying to say, but your motive should be, "Because I knew it would make her feel happy and special," not "Because I want her to like me."

For example:
Bringing two gourmet cupcakes for you to share together is something that would make her happy.

Blindly siding with her every opinion is something you're doing to make her like you, doesn't do her any favors in the long run, and proves that at least one person in the relationship is incredibly shallow.

And too much praise is uncomfortable and creepy, too. It should be a spur-of-the-moment thing on your part. She does something that you love so much about her, and you aren't afraid to tell her about it.
If you're trying to use compliments as a way to make her feel special, make a list in your head of your favorite traits of hers. Make yourself very aware of it.
She cracks a joke with her signature sense of humor. Point out how much you enjoy this.
Her hair gets caught in the sunlight and shines beautifully. Compliment her on this, too.

Randomly saying things like, "You're beautiful" for her attention shows and makes the relationship feel a bit clingy and fixated on labels and what couples are "supposed" to do.

 

[kypsilon]

Be charming, be kind and be considerate. Easy. If you throw in a little sass now and then to keep her guessing, you'll do wonders.

 

[Acting like a FOOL]

agree with her.

 

[Febel]

Give her presents, unexpected things that she wanted anyway. Tell her she's special and beautiful and that you know in your heart you'll never meet someone quite like her no matter how long you live. Go with her to things she wanted to do but you didn't, ballet's and the like or whatever she may be interested in. And finally...

Spoiler

Send that ***** a smiley face. Bitches love smiley faces

 

[barbzilla]

In my experience if you really want to make your girl feel special you should really take notice of the little things. I actually keep a cheat sheet of special occasions and early dates. I have notes on small things that may not seem to matter, but when used properly can put such a smile on her face. Most gals seem to love it when you can remember small details about them such as the earrings they wore the last time you went to a particular restaurant.

Another great thing to do is when you buy a gift give it in a special way. My current girlfriend had her birthday recently (prior to us dating). Her whole family lives on the other side of the country from me so I was unable to attend. I had made an effort a few weeks prior to the event on her favorite colors and favorite numbers. I found out from her brother where the event was to be held and called the catering service they hired to set up a surprise. I ordered some flowers from a vendor close to the event and made sure they were arranged by her favorite colors and in numbers that matched her favorite numbers. After she had spent all day at a theme park and having fun they went to the restaurant to eat. Sitting at her reserved seat was a the bouquet of flowers I had ordered with a card that hinted at the number correlations via a conversation we had when I was asking these seemingly random questions. All said and done it was the cheapest gift she received that night, however it was the only gift she talked about for longer than a week.