I don't like babies
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I love when people pull that excuse on me. No sarcasm either. I was mute till the age of 6, didn't even cry. Though that wasn't healthy, I can freely complain about whining babies and have their 'defense' of turning it around fail. I was also a very well behaved child who read for fun and hated peers that acted all crazy and hyper. When I was 8, I felt too grown up for the whole kid thing.solemnwar said:
Yeah, I pretty much hate babies too. Horrible little parasites.cerealnmuffin said:
Other than my kid, I mean.
I actually find them more tolerable when they get to be toddlers. At least those begin to react like actual human beings rather than angry monkeys.
Actually, what I find fascinating is that other people seem to get excited about my kid. Random strangers will come up to me and chat about my infant. It's kinda creepy, actually....
Edit: Oh, and just FYI - I absolutely refuse to take my infant to restaurants. I HATE when parents bring infants to restaurants - the kid can't enjoy it, and they make dinner unpleasant for everyone else there, so why are those parents being assholes?
Me - no. If I want to eat out, I either A) get Takeout so that I can eat the same food at home without subjecting a group of strangers to my potentially crying child, or B) I get a fucking Baby Sitter to watch my kid while I'm out.
Bucking the trend, I'm going to say that I actually don't mind babies. They're kinda cute, not as cute as puppies though, and it's interesting to think that, in the grand scheme of things, I was just like that little pile of loud noise and bodily functions not too long ago. That being said, I'm not really that interested in anything that's actually going on with the baby like words, or walking, etc. I also don't talk to them like a retard, which is surprising given that I'm notorious amongst my friends for having a ridiculous voice when I talk to my dog. Or any dog.
That being said, I'm 19, and I wouldn't want one of my own for ages.
My major problem isn't with babies, because they can;t help anything they do, and come on, we were all there at some point in our lives, but rather with people who preface irrelevant points with "as a mother/father [opinion completely unrelated to childbirth]". Words can not describe how much I hate that. Same goes for people who have baby then decide they are geniuses, without actually using that phrase.
That being said, I'm 19, and I wouldn't want one of my own for ages.
My major problem isn't with babies, because they can;t help anything they do, and come on, we were all there at some point in our lives, but rather with people who preface irrelevant points with "as a mother/father [opinion completely unrelated to childbirth]". Words can not describe how much I hate that. Same goes for people who have baby then decide they are geniuses, without actually using that phrase.
I totally understand. I too have a dislike of babies and children. Something about them just irritates me, I don't know what.
I love babies,... and children and most definitely would have children myself. (20 year old male talking) Quite frankly, I am surprised by how many people on here appear to hate them.
I agree that people who can't stop talking about them might get annoying. After all, people that can't stop talking about the same thing over and over again are generally annoying, no matter what it is that they go on about.
I also understand that you wouldn't like to be burdened with all the responsibilities that come with being a parent and for women, the fear of the pain that comes with giving birth is a valid argument.
However, I can't comprehend where all this seemingly blind hate or intense disgust comes from.
Live and let live people...
I agree that people who can't stop talking about them might get annoying. After all, people that can't stop talking about the same thing over and over again are generally annoying, no matter what it is that they go on about.
I also understand that you wouldn't like to be burdened with all the responsibilities that come with being a parent and for women, the fear of the pain that comes with giving birth is a valid argument.
However, I can't comprehend where all this seemingly blind hate or intense disgust comes from.
Live and let live people...
By all means, you should be in no way forced to do something you don't want to. Not everyone has the same urges...cerealnmuffin said:
But don't make light of pregnancy. Despite all that can be achieved with modern medicine, it's still a high risk event for both Mother and Child. You may not want to have kids, but don't disrespect those that endure nine months of discomfort and anxiety with an excruciatingly painful crescendo, simply because you are disinterested in it yourself.
Dopo was likely kidding about that. No one who is mentally sound would possibly consider having multiple children simply to uphold some superficial social standard. They do it out of a very strong maternal instinct (again, not everyone will feel this way). In fact, men can very often feel a similar urge (distinct from the urge to screw around), where they indeed want to have kids of their own. I personally have been having this urge for some time now.
Though I don't have a huge fascination with children myself, the idea of having a small part of me carrying over to a new generation is kinda comforting. And when I think of the relationship I have with my Dad right now, It heartens me to think of having a similar relationship with another some day. To carry a child from birth to adulthood seems like an extremely tough journey, but having another person to talk to, the same way I talk to my dad now, is very encouraging. I hope my Dad is around for that time, since 3 generations of a family having such stirring conversations is an incredibly heart-warming thought.
Also, Toddlers are well fun to be around... I love the really curious ones since I myself am a highly curious adult. When a child phrases a question that seems so mundane and basic, it's weird how I have to take a step back and figure out how to explain certain higher concepts to a kid. I enjoy this regressive experience. It helps that they think I'm some sort of genius too... so easy to get admiration from a child.
That said, I'm in no position to have a family at the moment. I'm currently single, have a pathetic income and am currently dealing with issues with my current family. I'm hoping that before I'm 30 I will have a kid, though I'm not setting it as a goal. Forcing these things to happen only causes problems.
Going back a few paragraphs: Speaking of Mentally sound, there is an opposite side of the spectrum to you... women who have an uncontrollable urge to reproduce. These women can be described as having an "addiction" to pregnancy. It can be so bad for some that it's detrimental to their health (and a major burden on loved ones).
Finally, I can't blame someone for not having a desire to have kids. The thought of childbirth is terrifying even to me and I don't have to worry about the act myself. But I think someone not having a desire to have kids would be a dealbreaker for me. It doesn't have to be by natural birth... being adopted myself means I'm up for other avenues. But kids are on the cards for my life and a relationship where that won't/can't happen is not something I want to be in.
Sorry for the life story, this is a topic I think about often, but have no one to discuss it with.
From my experience, it depends on the restaurant. I remember as a child we (me and my sis) would be taking to the same pizza place on special nights out. It was run by 1 man with an assistant chef and 1 waitress. Small and quaint. My Mum would later tell me it was the only place they would take us, because of how settled we would be there.Bara_no_Hime said:
What's really charming about this is that, 15-20 years on and we still go there on occassions. The manager is still there though he is due retirement soon. There was an 8 year gap where the place closed, but when it re-opened he remembered who we were and gave me and my sister free pizzas (even though we were paying for ourselves).
Some places are just unpleasant for kids, others can be a joy and a good memory to boot. It might require some experimenting, but you shouldn't give up on taking your kids out to eat. I wouldn't bring a 1-3 year old out though, they are more prone to tantrums regardless of the environment. Toddlers and up will love been taken out.
Just don't give in to taken them to McDonalds or Burger King. Keep them off that shit.
EDIT: Emphasis on "from my experience", this isn't advice, just an attempt at some encouragement.
i am with you babies are kinda gross and don't do shit except look cute when they sleep, don't have a full diaper and didn't throw up over themselves recently.
BUT babies do turn into toddlers and toddler are fucking adorable, with them trying to move and not quite managing and always stumbling around.
and as long as they are not mine i can always given them back to somebody and if they are mine they will at least not turn into fucking brats.
BUT babies do turn into toddlers and toddler are fucking adorable, with them trying to move and not quite managing and always stumbling around.
and as long as they are not mine i can always given them back to somebody and if they are mine they will at least not turn into fucking brats.
From my experience, it's pretty common to find other people's babies annoying and disgusting, but find your own adorable. Babies are pretty annoying and disgusting - the maternal instincts only kick in for a lot of people when the baby is their own flesh and blood.
I'm not awkward around quiet not-eating-or-throwing-up babies. But I don't want to hold them. I fully anticipate feeling completely differently about my own child if I have one.
Of course, there are other people (and my mother is one of them) who have such an overload of maternal instinct that they find any baby adorable. Which is - of course - absolutely fine, but it can get a little creepy if you find yourself in a room full of them (and there's a baby present).
I'm not awkward around quiet not-eating-or-throwing-up babies. But I don't want to hold them. I fully anticipate feeling completely differently about my own child if I have one.
Of course, there are other people (and my mother is one of them) who have such an overload of maternal instinct that they find any baby adorable. Which is - of course - absolutely fine, but it can get a little creepy if you find yourself in a room full of them (and there's a baby present).
I quite like babies. Well, some babies. Some are fugly, but some are really cute. And if they have a lot of decent interaction, then they can be quite responsive and fun to play with. If you meet one thats badly socialised and just cries all the time, thats not cool.
Some friends of mine had a baby a few years back, and she was the most adorable thing on the planet. She was born with a little mohawk. It was brilliant.
Some friends of mine had a baby a few years back, and she was the most adorable thing on the planet. She was born with a little mohawk. It was brilliant.
While I occasionally find their antics amusing, it is tempered by the fact that when I was six I received a baby sister and was expected to assist my parents wherever possible.
I see them as semi-mobile problems/messes that have malfunctioning alarm systems.
I see them as semi-mobile problems/messes that have malfunctioning alarm systems.
dont worry i feel the same way, human babies are awful. they're not even cute in my eyes, with the alien like head with the big eyes and the constant drooling * gags at the thought * and then you have their ear shattering crying. its the worst sound in the world and i wish i could just hit it untill it shuts up, or beat the shit outta the mom cuz she's jus standing around not caring that her baby is an annoyance to society. yah, i hate babies. i LOVE baby animals though. a crying kitten, puppy, anything non human and im all motherly over that. strange i know.
my family says i was born the wrong species. i bet its true hehhee * punts a baby *
my family says i was born the wrong species. i bet its true hehhee * punts a baby *
Well, there's nothing wrong about not feeling uplifted or joyous over a baby's presence. There are plenty of people who have no interest in babies without being cynical about them. I'm sure that why you have a child, your perspective may or may not change, but at the very least you will be happy, loving, and caring with your own child.
I agree they have this weird alien look. Who could honestly say a human baby is cuter than a puppy or a baby penguin? As far as I know baby penguins don't poop, but human babies.... they make happy faces when they do >.< nastyAshadowpie said:
Yeah I don't like babies either. If other people find them cute, and go melt-mode, fine, good for them, just keep those drooling, whining, obnoxious brats out of my way.
Incidentally, I don't intend to ever have a kid, either.
Yes yes, I know I've been one of those drooling, whining, obnoxious brats as well, but that doesn't make them any better >.<
Incidentally, I don't intend to ever have a kid, either.
Yes yes, I know I've been one of those drooling, whining, obnoxious brats as well, but that doesn't make them any better >.<
...Ok yeah if you actually imagine every infant you see growing up to be a horrible person then your problem is really that you're overly pessimistic.cerealnmuffin said:
If you just don't like babies that's fine, not everyone has to like them. There isn't a law. I mean if you ever have a child and you're incapable of loving it then yeah that would be a problem but I doubt that's going to happen.
Perhaps you should consider the wisdom of scrubs: "Having a baby is like having a dog that slowly learns how to talk".
And a thing most people tend to ignore is that YOU were a baby at some point. You were exactly what you hate right now. You had to grow out of that to be the awesome person you are, just like everyone else. If we want moar awesome people we have to tolerate children first.
Don't really like babies myself either. They're loud, messy, and pretty annoying.
I much prefer puppies myself.
The whole gushing parent thing actually reminds me of Maes Hughes from Fullmetal Alchemist.
Although he's actually pretty cool.
I much prefer puppies myself.
The whole gushing parent thing actually reminds me of Maes Hughes from Fullmetal Alchemist.
Although he's actually pretty cool.
I think it is usually more geared towards people who have had children of their own. I am not positive of this, and it is purely speculation, but I think that once you have had a baby, you may have an emotional connection to babies as a whole. Similar to how if you are in love you see other couples and think they are cute, but when you are single you tend to feel a slight twinge of jealousy (not everyone, I know, but many people feel these things). So once you have that emotional connection to the situation you might get the babies are cute thing. The rest of the world just pretends to so they aren't cast out of society for being heartless cruel baby haters.DoPo said:
I can't stand babies. They do nothing but eat and poop and cry. They have no personalities, and they're boring. Once they are able to move around themselves, and react to the environment, however, they become awesome. I'd say I like kids that are between 9 months and 5 years old. They have personalities, but haven't become jerks like older kids and adults have. (yeah, I'm lumping myself in this too)
So no, I don't think it's odd at all that people don't like babies. I'm a girl, btw, and I'm 30 years old. My boyfriend actually wants a kid more than me, and I think that's just because he wants someone to be able to play with in games that I don't particularly like.
So no, I don't think it's odd at all that people don't like babies. I'm a girl, btw, and I'm 30 years old. My boyfriend actually wants a kid more than me, and I think that's just because he wants someone to be able to play with in games that I don't particularly like.
I feel like a freak here for liking babies.
I mean, I like being able to give them back but they're very sweet and innocent. They've never done anything so I don't get why you'd hate them, unless you hate that people expect you to love them as much as they do.
I mean, I like being able to give them back but they're very sweet and innocent. They've never done anything so I don't get why you'd hate them, unless you hate that people expect you to love them as much as they do.