I Love You So Much I Might Even Call Sometime
You're not nice, you're a doormat.
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You're not nice, you're a doormat.
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I actually think the column often works better without a lot of the gaming shtick. But above all, I think what has made this week's offering a triumph is that the advice focuses much more on the person asking the question, understanding (rather than inadvertently ridiculing) why they feel the way they do, and offering direct suggestions as to what to do next.Lara Crigger said:Love FAQ: I Love You So Much I Might Even Call Sometime
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That made me laugh. Yes, becuase someone with low amounts of experience in the sack is always going to be bad at it. I think some people are too impatient to do a bit of mentoring and prefer that others do that for them. I would have thought that potentially having a 'blank slate' that you could mould to your desires would have been a good thing, especially if the relationship is long term.Deviate said:-snip-
I couldn't even imagine entering a relationship with a virgin at this point, especially a long-term/life relationship, quite simply because life is far too short for mediocre sex.
Great adviceLara Crigger said:Love FAQ: I Love You So Much I Might Even Call Sometime
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Very very true. One of the most important things in a relationship is sexual compatibility, if you don't have it the relationship is almost always doomed to fail.Dastardly said:The other side, though, is that it can be hard to know what we want until we've tried something. While "discovering together" is awesome, it always carries the risk that two people will "discover" they like very different things -- and sometimes, those differences can be hard to reconcile. I think that maybe people who are not willing to take that risk have a hard time understanding someone who is. They may seem to think less of you, but really they are just reacting to how they would handle the situation.
I would caution you, above all, to remain true to that belief against your own potential storms. It can be extremely easy, as our "natural urges" steer us around, to begin rushing things toward marriage in a hormone-blinded rage. And those aren't as obvious and easy-to-spot as they sound! If you jump in too fast, get married, find out it's wrong, and then need a divorce... well, that would mean the "wait until marriage" ship has sailed.
Putting off sex chronologically is not a worthwhile decision unless you can also put it off psychologically. Not saying you can't, but I'm saying it can sneak up on you, so be wary!
Speak for yourself, I was good my first timeDeviate said:I do have to say I think you're missing out, though. The longer you go without sex and the fewer partners you have in life, you'll find yourself less good in bed. I couldn't even imagine entering a relationship with a virgin at this point, especially a long-term/life relationship, quite simply because life is far too short for mediocre sex.
While it's not inherently a bad advice she gives here, i would have added that the chance of finding someone who wants to be with you is decreasingly slim if that is your approach to sex.Lara Crigger said:Dear Love FAQ,
I'm an adult, and I've never had sex. To be honest, I'm fine with that. For many reasons, I want to wait until I'm married to do so.
However, I'm constantly told that sex is part of a normal boyfriend/girlfriend dynamic, and that I'm "doomed to fail" if I do this. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Full Health Bar
Dear Full Health Bar,
Find someone who believes as you do, and then not have sex together.
Then tell everyone else to shut the hell up and quit judging you. It's none of their business anyway.
Unless his problems with sex is because of religious reasons (in which case i won't recommend otherwise, although i doubt it since he is actually enough in doubt to write the LoveFAQ), I'd simply advice him to get over his reasons and just get on with it. He'll be happier for it, and a lot faster than the celibate approach.I have read some interesting research that shows that women have a few main categories in their minds in which they slot men.
These are:
1) Not interested at all.
2) Interested as a friend.
3) Interested in a long-term relationship.
4) Interested in a sexual relationship.
Here?s the interesting part: If a woman sees a man as a good potential ?long-term? mate, she?ll usually hold back the sex.
On the other hand, if she gets sexually involved with a man, she?ll usually still be open to a long-term relationship.
Most men who want sex make the mistake of doing things like taking women to dinner, buying them gifts, and being romantic. This behavior triggers the ?Hey, this guy is good long-term material? category in the woman?s mind, and they hold back sex.
But if a man does things to turn a woman on earlier in the game and she gets sexually involved, he can choose where he wants the relationship to go. Are you with me on this one?
While you might have been good in bed on your first time (or you might think you were, who knows), it doesn't mean everyone else is. My first time was horrible, and I'm glad i got better.artanis_neravar said:Speak for yourself, I was good my first time