I submitted two FMLs today...

[AugustFall]

I'm sorry but you are young. I know it seems like it sucks but you will meet knew people throughout life, when you leave for college especially. High School seems like the world to you right now but I can't stress how quickly it becomes a memory when it's done.

Suck it up, people suck right now for you but there are a whole lot of other people in the world who don't. Study hard, leave your place of residence and make an effort to meet people.


Edit: Shit I was 16 when I had my first kiss and I still haven't had a proper relationship (20 now, oh christ lol) but it doesn't get me down because I know I just haven't met the right person yet. I have enough things to keep me occupied that it doesn't matter to me right now, playing guitar, being in a band, college, video games and my friends (who I share those previous activities with and you will find some who do too).


Edit2: Also if you are worried about attractiveness then get in shape, I don't mean lose weight (although that can be part of it) I mean fill yourself out. Feeling good about your body really does add to self confidence which can change your life. Getting in shape makes you more attractive both physically and personality-wise (confidence is attractive, seriously I know butt ugly people who get girls because they are confident).

 

[Palademon]

Thank you people for your kind words and anecdotes...
I won't complain til I've finished university then.

 

[Kasawd]

I've had a situation deserving of an FML quip.

Once, on my way to work, I had to itch my ass really bad. Not even the surface scratch that could be excused as pawing to make sure a wallet or other item is still there, it was rather far up the cheek. So, self-concious about picking my ass in public, I did a 360 check to see if anyone would witness that particular action. Satisfied that no-one could see, I went for the gold, as it were.

Well, I must have forgotten a side street that a car full of catcalling women came out of, wooping and whistling at my vigorous ass-scratch. I still managed to salvage a bit of dignity by waving at them but I still think it very worthy of the website.

 

[Lust]

-snip-

Love isn't something that should be rushed. Don't let impatience get the better of you.

Besides, you got a lot of time for that. Um......................yeah.

Well, you as "LustFullOne" must know that it's rather disheartening that other people my age have found a few people in their lives to have relationships with even without the thought of love >>

A few people have, and more than a few people haven't. I'm the same age as you and I know plenty of great people who simply haven't found someone they clicked with yet. I know you didn't want the whole 'you're still young!' lecture but that really is it. You're only 16, you have years ahead of you to find someone who will love you for you. Don't be disheartened because a few people have managed to get relationships already, as I can guarantee at this age relationships very rarely last, and when they do about 2 years is all they will last for.

Don't base your life on what other people are doing. You don't have to hold a standard to them.

Yeah, what FargoDog said.....................damn ninjas are fast and thorough.

OT: Here's a FML for you.............

Spoiler

I fell for a girl that already had a boyfriend. I respected that and didn't make a move. Now, I kinda regret it. We were good friends..........................thanks for reminding me........T_T

Evidently, a lot of girls I was interested in were already taken.

 

[Palademon]

-snip-

Love isn't something that should be rushed. Don't let impatience get the better of you.

Besides, you got a lot of time for that. Um......................yeah.

Well, you as "LustFullOne" must know that it's rather disheartening that other people my age have found a few people in their lives to have relationships with even without the thought of love >>

A few people have, and more than a few people haven't. I'm the same age as you and I know plenty of great people who simply haven't found someone they clicked with yet. I know you didn't want the whole 'you're still young!' lecture but that really is it. You're only 16, you have years ahead of you to find someone who will love you for you. Don't be disheartened because a few people have managed to get relationships already, as I can guarantee at this age relationships very rarely last, and when they do about 2 years is all they will last for.

Don't base your life on what other people are doing. You don't have to hold a standard to them.

I just don't like the idea that I feel my teenage years are being wasted. I cant do anything interesting. My friends who are actually outgoing never invite me to anything. I couldnt develop social skills for the first 11 years of my life for being at child minders during all my free time. Once I finish university, a fifth of my life with be over, supposedly the best fifth, and that's if I live to be 100 which I won't. I'm glad that people who have never met me in person are the only people to think I have a chance or ever to think I deserve somebody. I hate complaining because it furthers my reputation as a downer. Didn't you lose your virginity at 15? If so what you say means alot to me.

 

[Palademon]

I was 18 when I got my first girlfriend. Hang in there. Also, try to get some new friends...

Thanks for the advice, that's why I've decided to change schools as my college choice instead of staying at my school's sixth form.

 

[Palademon]

So finally I have come here feeling bad about myself, knowing there are some decent people here, to try and make myself feel better. If you have any kind words that would be nice.

Not gonna lie dude, provided you arent a paranoid manic depressive your friends do suck and your life aint too nice ATM. You can do one of 3 things: stick your head in the sand so to speak, kill yourself, or just try and hold out and hope things will get better, doing all you can to make them better yourself. Im not saying that things will most certainly get better, but its your only shot at life and its up to you to decide if its worth it to keep trying.

If your feeling really shitty and think most people around you are happier than you, watch the film "Happiness" (1998 I think). Its a very very black comedy. Look it up, one thing it makes very clear is that most people arent happy, and most people hate there life, we just dont realise what other people are going through because we are too occupied with our own problems.

TL;DR: Your life sucks, other peoples lifes suck, life sucks. Not gonna go macho and say deal with it and stop whining because that is indeed easier said than done. But, keep trying.

Why do people assume I'm not waiting out for good stuff? This thread is about todays situation, not my entire life. I just explained that I've always been single to make the point of my closest female friend constantly lying to me, more poignant. Usually when people hear about her they just say she's a ***** and don't bother with a lecture about my life.

 

[royohz]

I know how you feel, fellow 16 y.o. without ever having had a girlfriend or a relationship, I find comfort in music, be it classical or melancholy (melancholic music isn't emo, guys, it's a state of mind/feeling that actually involves happines in sadness). I have to agree with Outright Villainy, though.

Really though, you're not going to get anywhere feeling sorry for yourself.

I've found a way that really straightens up your sub-conciousness. Compliment yourself. Every day. It may sound like a clichè or whatever, but I feel it has really helped my self-esteem a lot. Whenever you pass by a mirror (in private, or you'll be weird pretty quick), look yourself in the eyes and say how handsome and sexy you are, even give yourself a little wink. One thing though, you have to really believe what you're saying, and standing in front of the mirror consentrating isn't very fun. It sounds REALLY silly, but yeah, slowly but surely you'll feel better.

Self-irony also helps, with it, you'll feel retarded, but without it, you "are" retarded!

 

[Outright Villainy]

I have to agree with Outright Villainy, though.

Hah, you were a lot nicer about it than I was! I'm just all "Psssh, whiny teenagers!"
[small]Probably because I was one, and if I could go back in time I'd give myself a slap for it.[/small]

 

[Burck]

Or else just feel free to explain similar situations that have ever happened to you...

Yeah OP, and the girl I love doesn't want to be in a relationship either. I was fucking heartbroken. I paced around a room for... an hour was it? when I first found out that she would say no. That Friday, I told her anyhow because I felt it to be true. She told me the truth, but before she did I saw this look on her face that was... I can't remember quite clearly, but it was beautiful, at least in the moment. I accepted the fact that we wouldn't be together in a relationship, and we hugged. I didn't know what to do, so I decided I would simply love her any other way.

That weekend, I was really sick, probably partially due to stress from the week, but as I coughed and blew my nose and generally felt sick, I felt... happy. Why? I still can't say for sure, and everytime I think of her, I feel calm and excited at the same time.

I can't be sure about this, but I think sometimes all we need is companionship. Someone to be with, although not necessarily intimately.

 

[Scobie]

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[dragonslayer32]

I was 18 when I got my first girlfriend. Hang in there. Also, try to get some new friends...

Thanks for the advice, that's why I've decided to change schools as my college choice instead of staying at my school's sixth form.

Good, this is the best time to make new friends. I finished college this year and have became close friends with loads of people (including my girlfriend).

Good luck

 

[Sinisterair]

Fuck my Life - Fml

 

[Palademon]

Or else just feel free to explain similar situations that have ever happened to you...

Yeah OP, and the girl I love doesn't want to be in a relationship either. I was fucking heartbroken. I paced around a room for... an hour was it? when I first found out that she would say no. That Friday, I told her anyhow because I felt it to be true. She told me the truth, but before she did I saw this look on her face that was... I can't remember quite clearly, but it was beautiful, at least in the moment. I accepted the fact that we wouldn't be together in a relationship, and we hugged. I didn't know what to do, so I decided I would simply love her any other way.

That weekend, I was really sick, probably partially due to stress from the week, but as I coughed and blew my nose and generally felt sick, I felt... happy. Why? I still can't say for sure, and everytime I think of her, I feel calm and excited at the same time.

I can't be sure about this, but I think sometimes all we need is companionship. Someone to be with, although not necessarily intimately.

That's very nice and I would probably feel the same way. But unfortunately the closure I got wasn't ever her telling me she wasn't interested, just constant excuses about how she doesn't want a boyfriend. But, before that she would say things like "we live too far apart", then the next day go out with a prick who flirts with her alot, who happens to live very close to me. Then 3 days later, break up with him and say she missed being single. To this day I still haven't been told a simple answer. And if it was something speciifc, I'd love to know so I could improve on that for the next time. Also I've never gotten more physical contact from her than a pat on the back. (And no, that wasnt a pat during a hug.)

 

[Sinisterair]

Well, all I can say is: I understand how you feel. I've been in a similar situation for most of my life. Unfortunately, I haven't managed to extricate myself from it yet so there's not much I can say to help you. The only advice I can offer is not to be . . . well . . . desperate. I've pined after a few girls in my life. It's only recently that I've realised that I was lucky none of them reciprocated. I liked them because they were there and it seemed like they might like me back, but all of them would have been absolutely awful to actually have a relationship with and would have just resulted in misery for me. I'd completely ignored what they were actually like and just plastered what I wanted over the top.

So yeah. Erm. Don't imagine that having a girlfriend is going to magically solve all your problems. It's not something you can just do and then forget about, it's something you have to live with. So don't just jump aboard the first train that has a free seat. I don't know if that's what you're doing, but it's certainly what I've spent the last five years doing and I didn't even realise it.

So it's bad that you're sad. Take care of yourself.

Actually Very True, i Got out of a 11mth relationship when my gf found someone else......we nvr fought and had alot in common, so it hit like a ton of bricks, my advice Your never safe from pain it will always find you, You just have to find a way to deal with it, Of course if ur ex is kind of a *****....and by kind of i mean Basicly she talks shit everyday it makes u think dating isnt as good as its cracked up to be, But hang in there you'll find someone!

 

[technoted]

The best advice in the world comes in 2 simple words, "Man" and "Up". Wallowing away in self pity won't ever help you, hell when Private Augustus Cole's family were all killed by the Locust horde, did he cry? Hell no, Cole manned up and massacred hundreds of the ugly beasts. When Marcus, Dom and Carmine were being overwhelemed by the Locust did Cole hide away in the corner knowing he was outnumbered? No, he manned up and ***** slapped the Locust to death. And what do we know about Cole? Everyone loves him!

 

[Stickwell]

The point of this is...
NO WHERE.

 

[Palademon]

Well, all I can say is: I understand how you feel. I've been in a similar situation for most of my life. Unfortunately, I haven't managed to extricate myself from it yet so there's not much I can say to help you. The only advice I can offer is not to be . . . well . . . desperate. I've pined after a few girls in my life. It's only recently that I've realised that I was lucky none of them reciprocated. I liked them because they were there and it seemed like they might like me back, but all of them would have been absolutely awful to actually have a relationship with and would have just resulted in misery for me. I'd completely ignored what they were actually like and just plastered what I wanted over the top.

So yeah. Erm. Don't imagine that having a girlfriend is going to magically solve all your problems. It's not something you can just do and then forget about, it's something you have to live with. So don't just jump aboard the first train that has a free seat. I don't know if that's what you're doing, but it's certainly what I've spent the last five years doing and I didn't even realise it.

So it's bad that you're sad. Take care of yourself.

I admit, I was desperate. After all my mocking in life my goal is to find someone who I'm actually their favourite person. I wasn't expecting to have a perfect relationship. I was hoping to get experience for future relationships, and it's a bit hard when no one in this day and age ever thinks of just having a first date to try it out then stopping. She was cute, had a good sense of humour. She was the only girl I knew who liked anime and playing video games. She could easily be playful with me. I guess the only thing I didn't like was that she was a Twilgiht fan and I then became jealous of her staring at pictures of the actors all day. The one time I actually hung out with her outside of school was going to her friends house and watching Twilight on DVD as they repeated every line for the 15th time. Don't think it's a bad thing that I only hung out with ehr once though. We often try to make plans to hang out as just friends, but fail because of other stuff going on. And btw, I have closer friends that I've never spent time with outside of school.

 

[2fish]

(old man voice)You younginns always trying to rush things *shakes walking stick* (/old man voice)

Don't worry about it, life is full of ups and downs. College is where the fun is at, I found that when you stop looking the solution will come. For if you look too hard you will miss the obvious things right in front of your nose.

 

[inFAMOUSCowZ]

Hey man look your only 16. ( even though i'm only 15) So just take some time/ And having a gil friend isnt all that big of a deal since i had one went out with her for about, i'd say 2 or 3 months, until i broke up with her. ( this was last year) The biggest thing you should do is open up more. What I mean is I'm guessing your a shy kid well i was too. Somewhat scared to talk to ANYONE that wasnt my friend. About 2 or 3 years I got A LOT more confident wasnt nerves talking to anyone. But I'm not a loud moth screaming kid of kid. ( i can be though) I'm more laid back and can make a conversation with anyone now. It really comes down to how do you feel about yourself. And me I love myself.