If your Kid was a Porn Star, or other Undesierable Job...

[GODoftheRIGOVERSE]

So what like when a guy buys Girls gone wild 2010 and see his daughter making out with 5 guys 4 girls and a goat all while naked yeah i'd stop paying for her college and disowner her

 

[NicolasMarinus]

Your child will always be your child. Never turn your back on family.

 

[Doktor Merkwurdigliebe]

"Son/Daughter, I AM DISSAPOINT"

But seriously? I would accept having a pornstar amongst my children as long as she/he would start her/his career as an adult person, and as long as it's a legal stuff.
By the way, at least some of the most famous porn-stars(I read it somewhere, but I forgot where, so sorry for no names, or sources) started their career after running away from home, so I agree with earlier post, that love and attention would help your kid avoid such undesirable work.

Now prostitute, or drug dealer, that's different matter... of course I would support them, but I'll be damned if I would accept this.

 

[EchetusXe]

If they were one of the successful ones then I would be delighted.
If they were not so successful then I would be against it. Purely on the grounds that the low-paying, underground scene carries much greater chance of disease and abuse.

The idea that all porn actors are depressed and depraved individuals is a misnomer.

 

[Bourne Endeavor]

While I respect the whole "It is your life and your decision" notion and generally would prefer to follow that frame of thought; my career choice in life may heavily involve public opinion. Additionally I admit to being excessively succeed seeking and with all the available opportunities I could provide for my child, doing porn would be a significant step down and while a selfish statement, reflect on my image poorly.

Ultimately it is not something I would be proud of nor would I in any way condone the career choice, especially considering I find porn a complete waste of time however I am not about to disown my child for that. Fortunately it is not a concern I likely will ever have to deal with.

 

[Fenchurch]

It's the child's personal choice, IMO.
You want to be a porn star? I think you should get an education first, but sure, go for it, be careful, I won't watch your movies, remember to eat your vegetables.

If my kid became a whore (or "pornstar," whatever, they're the exact same thing,)

Oi, what? How so?

 

[iJosh]

I think if you are a good father, your daughter won't become a pornstar. It's the industry cliche that they all have daddy issues, is it not? I don't really know what it feels like to care so much for another human being, definately not in a protective way...this question is too hard...

This. It always depends on the parenting. If the kid was raised well and well disciplined (Not disciplined like beating but more like he/she knows the consequences of his or her actions. Also more that he or she isn't scared to get a bad mark because of the parent who would beat there kids if they did. They should know what could happen if they slacked off in school and what could become of them.) the kid should be overall a smart person. Resulting they probably would just stay in school and become the stated mathematician or something good.

 

[Sebass]

If my son and/or daughter become a pornstar, I'd encourage them to find a real job so they're not unemployed when they reach their 50's ..

 

[Sexy Street]

If they are a porn star I think I would shoot myself... or something along those lines.

 

[KarumaK]

Outta house, outta mind.

Once they move out they could be come serial killers for all I care.

 

[Iron Mal]

Imagining for a moment that the unlikely occurance of me being in a long term relationship with a woman who would have children with me actually happens I personally wouldn't be too bothered if one day one (or more) of my kids turned out to be a porn star.

As long as they are happy with what they do then that is all that matters, who am I to put unrealistic expectations on them? (which will probably be what leads to them having a worse life)

 

[Inverse Skies]

I could never disown my child no matter what they choose in do in life. It mightn't be what I might deem to be the 'correct' choice by my standards, but then who am I to say it isn't the correct choice by theirs? People have to have some degree of autonomy over their lives, and if what they're doing makes them and their family happy then who am I to say that it is wrong? I think the most important thing in life is to enjoy what you're doing, and if that is an 'undesirable' job then I'm just going to have to deal with that. You can only parent a child for so long, eventually they have to make their own decisions and choices, mistakes etc. Otherwise, they never experience life to its fullest.

 

[Baby Tea]

Personally if my daughter became a porn star I would be deeply ashamed and cut all relations to her.

Well that shows how much of a loving father you'd be.

If the event my child did something similar, I'd be upset and disappointed, but they are still my child. I'd let them know how I didn't like what they were doing, but I'd still love 'em. I wouldn't be a good father if I didn't. If anything, I'd try to get closer to them! Find out why they chose that path, and hopefully help them to get to a career or place in the life where they won't be demeaning themselves, or selling themselves short.

 

[slowpoke999]

Me?I'm 17 and think that if i ever have kids,i wouldn't care what occupation they had but what their personalities were. To me you could be a garbage collector and be a better person then some ***** princess in some middle eastern country who treats everyone but herself like shit and would make more money doing nothing in a day then the garbage man would in 30 years.

Shit personality, shit person,thats my philosophy anyway.

Infact i have a question for you escapist, You had the choice for your daughter to be one of the following:A porn star, she acts nice to everyone she meets, does her job because it's what she wants to do, and is generally a pleasent person.

Or the president of the USA who is a horrible hybrid of George Bush's incompetence mixed with Hillary Clinton's ignorance, who is so obsessed with the bible,it makes hardcore twilight fans vomit, and generally thinks video games are a one way ticket to hell.

They both have jobs that are considered opposite ends of the spectrum,which would you want your daughter to be,or do you not care?

 

[The Hairminator]

I would be understanding and try my best, *even* if he/she was a pornstar or a hooker.
I would show that I was not happy with his/her job, but I would still look after him/her and love him/her just as much.

 

[Tron900]

A serious discussion thread, from me. Of all people.... anyways, question in title, if your kid grew up to be something you REALLY didn't want them to be. And not like if they want to be a baker but you wanted them to be a Mathematician but YOU DISHONORED THE FAMILY!

Personally if my daughter became a porn star I would be deeply ashamed and cut all relations to her. If she became something like a Macdonalds worker for her whole life I would be ashamed but of course support her when she needs it.The hard part might be when I'm on the inter webs and a porn clip MAGICALLY pops up out of my control seriously how the hell did it get there wasn't me i swear... and I recognize who the girl is. And after realizing it, take a 2 hour bath.

So if your kid put shame on your family, how would you treat this case of sever dishonor? BTW mods let me know if I need to change the title.

Well, if its a job they like doing, then good on them.

I believe in job satisfaction...if you don't like your work, then change your job (perfeably find one whilst you in employment).

I would however ask them now and then on what they been doing recently and who for, that way you know what to avoid on the web, so I wouldn't get mentally scarred.

I think my only concern if my son or daughter (hypothetically), is that if they were porn stars, that they observe proper percautions.

Provideded they grew up to be well rounded individuals, then I'd be pround of them. The only way I would think they could "dishonour" (sounds like a fuedal, Japanese family term) the hypothetical family, is if they grew up to be some dole scrounging scumbag.

 

[Gunner 51]

I'd love my kid no matter what and depending on circumstance, feel nothing but pride for them. Being a stripper or a porn star is nothing - so long as they aren't hurting anyone or the job itself is illegal, then I'm fine with it.

Besides, when my kids (hypothetically) turn 18 - I have no legal say in the running of their life.

If my kids did end up doing a job like stripper or porn star, I'd ask if they needed help finding a more white collar job. If they accept my help then I shall give it to them - if not, so be it.

However, I will draw the line at drug dealing and promptly grass them up to the police. Where they should be helped by the police and they can repay their debt to society - if they stop dealing drugs, then they are welcome back to the family.

 

[Silver]

If my child was happy with what they were doing, and comfortable with it, who am I to judge?

Okay, their parent, but seriously, it's about free will and individuality. I don't want my parents to control my life, and I wouldn't want to do that to my children either, I'd want them able to make their own choice. If a child of mine became a soldier though, I'd have a very hard time dealing with it, I think. Much more so than if they started doing porn, or whatever.