If your significant other cheated...

[Spartan X1]

My girlfriend of one year left me for another man on our one year anniversery because I was at college. She told me and wants to be freinds but I will never be the same. I'm a male.

 

[irani_che]

drop em fast

men will cheat just because they are men, checking out a girl is reflexive, and from an evolutionary POV we can have multiple wives/girlfriends to have more kids.

women, alternatively, are hardwired to be monogamous, to a degree much larger than in men,
when a girl cheats it means the end. it means she would break up but the likes the lifestyle you give her

Yeah, no. Cheating doesn't have jack sh*t to do with how monogamous one is evolutionarily inclined, looking isn't cheating, acting is cheating, and acting is a choice. To cheat merely because of the excuse of being evolutionarily inclined would only further prove lack of intellect to a degree so serious, you really shouldn't endanger the world by spreading your seed, or ignorance.

you mis-understand me, in part. I dont approve of cheating, I dont cheat.
I just said why guys are inclined to cheat not to justify it. but yeah, when a girl cheats it means srs trouble, just a heads up

 

[Outright Villainy]

1) Yes. I appreciate honesty, and it does seem like more of an admission they fucked up, so there's definitely remorse.

2) This depends a lot on the context of how it happened: was there drink involved, after a big fight etc. etc. Generally though, I don't know how I'd feel until I'm in that situation. In all honesty it's extremely likely that no matter what, the relationship is over. It's more to do with how much of a friendship I'd want to salvage after.

3) Male.

 

[Paksenarrion]

This is why we have a Basement, past the Escapist offices, just above Yahtzee's office, where you can hear him hitting his ceiling with a broom, yelling, "Oi! Can you stop screaming to be let out? It's the middle of the night!"

And etc.

 

[Faladorian]

1) NO. No forgiveness for that, ever.

2) Absolutely not.

3) Male

 

[Adam Galli]

I would dump my fiancee on the spot if she ever said she cheated.

 

[priestswearseatbelts]

1. No
2. No
3. Male
4. Double Homicide.

 

[Super Six One]

How on earth was my right hand able to cheat on me?

OT
1. Nope, i'm never that attached to people so moving on is easy, plus i don't like to share
2. Nothing
3.Male

 

[Cheesus333]

It would make a big difference, and I would give them another chance. But not anymore after that.

Male.

 

[Doctor Glocktor]

Edit 2: Wow, a lot of unforgiving guys on this site. Mental note - don't date and then cheat on anyone who's posted on this thread so far. Except the guy who mentioned open relationships.

I don't think you should be cheating anyway, but that works too. Besides, what kind of pussy doormats have you been dating if you think 'unforgiving' is such a bad thing?

OT:

1. Honestly, I might respect them a little more because they had the courage to tell me straight up, but the relationships still over.

2. Nope. Trust is gone.

3. Male.

 

[mjc0961]

1. Would it make a difference if they were honest enough to tell you themselves instead of hiding it from you? Would you be willing to work through it?
2. If not, is there anything that would convince you to work through it and continue the relationship? Or might there be any aspects about the relationship that would make you want to stay?
3. Are you male or female?

Thanks, guys!
Note: I know it really depends on the circumstances, but I mean in a general and hypothetical situation, if possible. Or, if anything, think about the relationship you're currently in now and apply it to this.

1. It'd still be over, but maybe I'd hate them less/be less pissed off about it if they came clean. Probably not by much though. I don't see any point in trying: I wouldn't trust them anymore, and I'd probably turn paranoid. At the very least I'd be driving myself nuts wondering if she's out cheating on me again somewhere, and I'd probably be driving her nuts too.
2. I doubt it. Maybe if there were extraordinary circumstances, but since you said general situation, nope.
3. Male.

 

[game-lover]

Would it make a difference? I doubt it. If he came clean, all that means if that he was honest. The betrayal is still there. So, I don't think it would.

2nd question? I'm gonna go with a no on both counts. I can't think of anything that would make me want to work it out. And any aspects that could make me wish to say would be overshadowed by the knowledge he was with some other woman. I'd just be so angry and wondering how often he was with her and probably torturing myself with thoughts of them together.

And... I am a female.

 

[whiteshark12]

1) no, if they cheated then they obviously are not happy with the relationship. Why would I stay with someone who isn;t interested enough anymore?

2) not off the top of my head, It better be a damn good reason. I suppose it would be open for consideration after a few years, maybe.

3) male

 

[Karlaxx]

1) I think it would make a difference, but not be the determining factor.

2) I tend to be very forgiving, and find it difficult to bear a grudge or be angry at anyone for very long. The only way I could really push away someone I would term my "significant other"(not the easiest person to connect with, so anyone that close to me I would value greatly)that cheated on me would be if they were utterly unrepentant and did it because they believed, in their minds, the relationship to be over (but didn't bother to send out a memo). In short, if it wasn't going to work anyway and I knew it.

On the other hand, I also have to admit I have none too small a paranoid streak and a hyperactive imagination; so maybe I would be able to patch it back together in the short term, but no mental extrapolation/simulation can tell me if it would stay together for days/weeks/months after.

3)Male.

 

[Split Moon]

Ignor this.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

ok where do find other people with your view on this cause i have never actually found another whose actually able to keep it open without bloody guilt and possessiveness coming into play
also lol at the taco's

We met in college. We were friends during college, but never dated. After college, we were hanging out, and we ended up having sex. The sex was good, so we spent some time trying to decide if we should be friends with benefits or actually date. Since we were close friends, we had some real sexual chemistry, and we trusted one another, we decided to go ahead and date. Best dating experience I've ever had.

We decided early on that we were both interested in sex with other people. Our relationship was more about best friend who wanted to spend as much time together as possible - and have lots of sex. We were both bisexual, and we both wanted to continue exploring our mutual sexuality - and who better to explore with than one's best friend?

So yeah, our relationship started with an open component (or at least a share-and-share-alike component). As for where we found each other - upstate New York liberal arts college. **shrug** As they say, YMMV.

And yes, my tacos are very tasty. The secret ingredient is Chipotle Tabasco sauce.

 

[Aetera]

1. It would make somewhat of a difference, depending on if it was just a one night fling or a long term affair.
2. I'd only be willing to stay with her and work things out if it was a one time fling AND she told me herself. If it was a long term affair, I wouldn't be able to stand staying in the relationship with her no matter what.
3. Female.

 

[glyphseeker]

depends if she had a bit of shame of doing it

if so:then ask what i can do to fix it

if not: it be over

 

[Plurralbles]

Male and there is literally nothing that would convince me to stay with her.

I have dealt with shit too much to get walked all over again.

 

[Duskwaith]

I caught my gf of 2 years cheating on me the other day.

No matter if she told me or not she had already been at it for a while. I looked after that girl after her rape and she didnt have the deceny to tell me to my face that she was with another guy. If you cheat your usually just a complete scrum bag who dosnt deserve the person your cheating on unless they are beating you up etc.

Bottom line is just break up with someone, dont cheat on them. Its far far worse when you eventually find out, trust me :/