i'm in a pickle

[GonzoGamer]

I kind of did this once.
I felt bad even though I first made sure my friend didn't stand a chance.
Did you even take a shot at her? Was she at all interested?

Just remember, Bros before Hos; although (depending on the circumstances) you may want to remind him of the same rule.

 

[Mekado]

Geez!! Whats with all the romantic advice threads lately.

the kids are going back to school

 

[UberMore]

Your mate seems a bit of an arse for going out with her, however, you should've made your move and gotten crushed/accepted.

 

[FranzTyphid]

I kind of did this once.
I felt bad even though I first made sure my friend didn't stand a chance.
Did you even take a shot at her? Was she at all interested?

Just remember, Bros before Hos; although (depending on the circumstances) you may want to remind him of the same rule.

Ha thats soooooooo true

 

[WrongSprite]

i've been in love with her since the day i met her

No you weren't. This the biggest crock of shit I've ever heard in my life. You can't fall in love with someone in a day.
Sorry, that might sound harsh but I hate when people jump to call something love. It's a very big word and so many people don't understand what it is to truely be in love. Call it a pet peeve.

Anyway, I know what you're going through. Anything that can happen to someone in a relationship thing has happened to me, pretty much.
Let me just ask you this question then I'll be helpful. How do you know you're in love with her?

ok mabye it is a "crock of shit" but i'm sure this is love

No, it's hormones. You probably have a crush.

Hate to be harsh, but it's your own fault if you've sat and done nothing about it. At least your friend made the move of asking her out...

Look of the bright side buddy, there's plenty more fish in the sea =]

 

[Kollega]

NUKED!

...
the fuck?
You make it sound like she's some kind of object.

Nuking the post right now,specially for you. Nuking in progress...

 

[Xorghul]

NUKED!

...
the fuck?
You make it sound like she's some kind of object.

Nuking the post right now,specially for you. Nuking in progress...

What? But I never said what you said was wro...but just for me? Oh my, h-how touching. *touched*

 

[similar.squirrel]

Nasty situation, that. Don't tell her. It'll just upset her and mess things up big time. From my experience, anyway.

 

[Woodsey]

Geez!! Whats with all the romantic advice threads lately.

Tell me about it.

Besides, why should your friend not go out with her because 'you saw her first'?

If your friend liked her as well, and she liked him then err... You don't really come into it. If you were him, you'd of done the same thing I'm willing to bet.

And I doubt you love her - stop being so serious and have a laugh, if you catch my not inconsiderable drift.

Tough love I'm afraid, there's nothing you can do about it.

 

[cgride555]

I've been in this spot before mate. I hate to say it, but I think the window of oppertunity has passed. You do something drastic, you could loose both her respect and your best friend. Chances are she has thought about you at some point in time, and no offense, hasn't had the same feelings you do about her. Wait this one out. If it's like the case I had, they will break up and you, as the best friend, will hear all sorts of things about her you never knew to be true. At this point, you will realize she really isn't worth all the hassle. If they don't break up, you will still get all the props in the world from you're buddy for being so cool about this, thus he owes you one.


Buy a tradmill and a weight set and take all those feelings out on yourself. I mean really kick your own ass. It's gonna suck, but the pay-off is worth it. You'll feel more confident and it'll take your mind off the problem. Before you know it, you'll be looking good and meeting women all the time. Then maybe one day they will break up, and you'll be there to comfort her when she notices "damn! This guy's made some drastic changes for the better of himself." I'm not calling you meak by any means, I don't even know you, but now is the time for self-improvement!
Nietze once said the most depressed mind is the most realistic, and thus, the most proactive. For the next month or so, it's the SmoothNRK show!!!!


If you can't tell, I just ended a long-term relationship recently. It always hurts no matter the circumstance, but tomorrow is another day.

 

[Terramax]

Seriously dude, don't tell her and don't confront your friend. As hard as it'll be try to carry on as normal. Act sweet and polite to the both of them and use this chance to get to know her better!. If you're around them both you can evaluate what makes her happy and what pisses her off (if you do get a chance with her in the future you'll know how to be the better boyfriend). Also, it shows to your friend that you're not pissed off at him and if he is going out with her to annoy you then he'll feel it's not working.

I don't know how old you guys are but if you're young i.e still in school, then it's more than likely she'll grow bored of him or the other way round. And if it ends with your friend being a tosser to her, there's always the chance you can get in on the rebound.

This has happened to me and other guys I know. Girlfriend splits with friend, then she comes to you for a shoulder to cry on. I'm my case I wasn't interested in going out with the girl, but it was amazing how much closer was got as friends.

If you confront them, you could lose a friend AND fuck up in front of her.

Hate to be harsh, but it's your own fault if you've sat and done nothing about it. At least your friend made the move of asking her out...

If he's young then it's not his own fault. It's inexperience. There are some lessons in life you can't learn until you've made mistakes. If he's done it countless times before THEN it's his own fault.

 

[Phoenix Arrow]

ok mabye it is a "crock of shit" but i'm sure this is love

Well good for you, but it just isn't. One day you'll have forgotten about her, you'll remember one day how wrong you were.
But I said I'd be helpful so here it goes. When I was younger, I told myself I was in love with someone. I wasn't, of course. It was a combination of transferance of feelings I had for my best friend and fear of losing all of the group of friends they was involved with.
Anyway, I asked her out. Moped around for a month. Found someone else, fell in love. We were together for two years and I'll be thoroughly disappointed and suprisied if we didn't get back together. As it stands, we've been... fuck buddies I suppose is the word, but less vulgar, since we broke up pretty much, apart from when he and I have been seeing other people.

My point is, get closure then either forget about her or find someone else who you truely love and who loves you back. Then you'll understand what me and the other people have been saying when we say it's no big deal.

 

[Takoto]

I guess it's your own fault for not asking her out first... sorry dude, but that's the harsh truth :c

 

[FranzTyphid]

I've been in this spot before mate. I hate to say it, but I think the window of oppertunity has passed. You do something drastic, you could loose both her respect and your best friend. Chances are she has thought about you at some point in time, and no offense, hasn't had the same feelings you do about her. Wait this one out. If it's like the case I had, they will break up and you, as the best friend, will hear all sorts of things about her you never knew to be true. At this point, you will realize she really isn't worth all the hassle. If they don't break up, you will still get all the props in the world from you're buddy for being so cool about this, thus he owes you one.


Buy a tradmill and a weight set and take all those feelings out on yourself. I mean really kick your own ass. It's gonna suck, but the pay-off is worth it. You'll feel more confident and it'll take your mind off the problem. Before you know it, you'll be looking good and meeting women all the time. Then maybe one day they will break up, and you'll be there to comfort her when she notices "damn! This guy's made some drastic changes for the better of himself." I'm not calling you meak by any means, I don't even know you, but now is the time for self-improvement!
Nietze once said the most depressed mind is the most realistic, and thus, the most proactive. For the next month or so, it's the SmoothNRK show!!!!


If you can't tell, I just ended a long-term relationship recently. It always hurts no matter the circumstance, but tomorrow is another day.

omg!
thats my life right there...

 

[Pegghead]

ok my best friend goes out with the girl im fucking in love with
i've been in love with her since the day i met her
he knew i was in love with her
i would have asked her out but i knew she fancied him
what should i do?

Challenge the fellow to a duel for the fair maiden, pistols at dawn!

 

[Gaderael]

ok my best friend goes out with the girl im fucking in love with
i've been in love with her since the day i met her
he knew i was in love with her
i would have asked her out but i knew she fancied him
what should i do?

NINJA'D! Sorry.

Seriously though. You could have asked her out, as your friend had no qualms about asking her out even though you have a thing for her. I had it happen to me once. same situation, but I didn't say a thing and stayed friends with them both. He did me a favour, and she turned out to be a real skanky *****.

 

[Diablini]

...or kick his ass...

Use a broom handle that is slightly weighted at one end. Nice and balanced.

I was thinking pillow case filled with bars of soap...but i like your idea fat man.

People aren't really in to the pillow case. The common sock provides you with a more compact lynching device.

 

[manedwolf86]

I kind of did this once.
I felt bad even though I first made sure my friend didn't stand a chance.
Did you even take a shot at her? Was she at all interested?

Just remember, Bros before Hos; although (depending on the circumstances) you may want to remind him of the same rule.

Main problem is when your bro pulls some bs and puts a ho before your friendship.
Even if he knew you liked her. (this hits really close to home so i really feel for you and hope everything works out the way its supposed to whether its with her or not)

 

[thepj]

ok my best friend goes out with the girl im fucking in love with
i've been in love with her since the day i met her
he knew i was in love with her
i would have asked her out but i knew she fancied him
what should i do?

OK, NOW IN CASE YOU DIDN'T GET IT I WANT YOU TO SIT DOWN. NOW THIS MAY BLOW YOU FUCKING MIND BUT I'VE BEEN NIJA'D SO MANY TIME I DOUBT IT.


MOVE THE FUCK ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[cgride555]

I've been in this spot before mate. I hate to say it, but I think the window of oppertunity has passed. You do something drastic, you could loose both her respect and your best friend. Chances are she has thought about you at some point in time, and no offense, hasn't had the same feelings you do about her. Wait this one out. If it's like the case I had, they will break up and you, as the best friend, will hear all sorts of things about her you never knew to be true. At this point, you will realize she really isn't worth all the hassle. If they don't break up, you will still get all the props in the world from you're buddy for being so cool about this, thus he owes you one.


Buy a tradmill and a weight set and take all those feelings out on yourself. I mean really kick your own ass. It's gonna suck, but the pay-off is worth it. You'll feel more confident and it'll take your mind off the problem. Before you know it, you'll be looking good and meeting women all the time. Then maybe one day they will break up, and you'll be there to comfort her when she notices "damn! This guy's made some drastic changes for the better of himself." I'm not calling you meak by any means, I don't even know you, but now is the time for self-improvement!
Nietze once said the most depressed mind is the most realistic, and thus, the most proactive. For the next month or so, it's the SmoothNRK show!!!!


If you can't tell, I just ended a long-term relationship recently. It always hurts no matter the circumstance, but tomorrow is another day.

omg!
thats my life right there...

glad to help...?