i'm PISSED.
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That's really prudish of you. Leave them be.gravitate said:
There is nothing inherently harmful about drinking a few beers when you are 13-14. It doesn't mean they are going to become alcoholics. It doesn't mean they are going to start abusing their girlfriends. Did they do anything? Did they mug someone? Did they beat up a stranger? Did they destroy the house?
Or did they just drink beer?
Hah. You need to lighten up!
If anything, you should be annoyed at yourself for judging your friends so harshly.
I hope you aren't actually 28 if all your friends are 13-14. And who gives a shit? Some 14-year-olds have started drinking a little. Big fucking deal.
The official response to this would be: grow a pair.
If you want to lose your friends then the quickest way to do it is to pretend you're above them on things that don't matter one tiny shit and act like their parents about it. So if that is your goal, keep on going with that, because you're doing well.
The official response to this would be: grow a pair.
If you want to lose your friends then the quickest way to do it is to pretend you're above them on things that don't matter one tiny shit and act like their parents about it. So if that is your goal, keep on going with that, because you're doing well.
I'm assuming you're American. A. Because you used the word pissed to mean angry and B. Because you think 13-14 year olds having a few beers is a big deal.(because your legal drinking age is really high). I didn't start drinking until I was 16, and in Scotland, that's really late. Everyone here has come to accept underage drinking. Hell, even the health talks we got would say "were not gonna tell you not to drink, just be careful." and that's really the best advice. Just have a good time and don't push yourself too hard.
I don't understand why you're angry really
your friends made their own decision
you made yours in disagreeing with their decision
why do you need to impose your views on them as if you're right and they're wrong?
violently no less?
your friends made their own decision
you made yours in disagreeing with their decision
why do you need to impose your views on them as if you're right and they're wrong?
violently no less?
Tell them you don't like it. That's seriously all you can do. If they don't want to stop and you don't want to hang out with them because of that, make new friends.
And either way, if you don't want to drink, don't. You can still hang out with them.
And either way, if you don't want to drink, don't. You can still hang out with them.
OP: I think you'll look back on this post and cringe. Honestly, nearly every single person gets drunk at least once in their life. And, as with anything, people do different things at different ages. Just because it isn't right for you, doesn't mean it's not right for them, and just because it may not be right for them, doesn't mean it's right for you to try to interfere. As long as they aren't doing dumb shit like trying to drive and stuff, they should be fine.
You, my friend, need to relax and stop trying to control your friends. They were drinking. So what? Do you think this is in any way abnormal? Fuck no! Just let them grow out of it.
dude, most people get pissed for the first time at that age, in fact i imagine more people get pissed at that age then many others due to the fact that they are old enough to enjoy it But there bodys arnt use to it so they dont need as much to get drunk and or just have no idea when to stop, so in short no big deal no one is in the wrong here you will learn this in time =)
I started drinking at about that age, and all that happened to me was after a few bad conversations with god on the big white telephone I learned my limits. By the time I was old enough to actually go out and be an adult I'd already learned my limits and knew what I was doing. It meant while the "high and mighty won't touch it til I'm 18" were getting thrown out of places were vomiting and getting thrown out and bundled into a taxi I was having a nice time socialising. There's no need to get mad at them, just make sure they remember alcohol is an optional extra not a necessity to life.
Listen it's good you care about your friends, but it's their choice, like me if you don't want to do drugs then don't but you can't get annoyed because like 70% of the people in your school smoke, even the guy you're in love with, and don't find out he smokes and then cry all week because you want him to be perfect, OH GOD I LOVE HIM SO MUCH *sobs* DON'T END UP LIKE ME!
Don't be angry.
Shit like this happens all the time. I used to complain until I found out drinking with the right company can actually be quite fun, the age matter is of extremely little concern. Being a teenager is all about experimenting with different types of behaviour, and discovering what works for you. I used to be like you, I moaned and got angry when this kind of stuff went on, and a lot of people really didn't like me for it.
My advice to you?
Suck it up, maybe even join in. You'll be socially accepted if you don't ostracize people for acting like kids. I'm not saying get totally uncontrollable, but a few beers never hurt anyone unless they were thrown at you. This isn't a lecture from a 30-something year old, these are kind words of advice from a 16 year old boy who has never smoked, had gratuitous sex, and only gets drunk on the rare occasion. Before I started acting my age, people found me boring, and frankly insufferable.
I don't know if that's what you want, but I certainly didn't enjoy being anally moral all the time, making myself feel better by saying "but I'm in the right". I'm much happier now, having tried it, and actually accepted by my entire year of peers.
Shit like this happens all the time. I used to complain until I found out drinking with the right company can actually be quite fun, the age matter is of extremely little concern. Being a teenager is all about experimenting with different types of behaviour, and discovering what works for you. I used to be like you, I moaned and got angry when this kind of stuff went on, and a lot of people really didn't like me for it.
My advice to you?
Suck it up, maybe even join in. You'll be socially accepted if you don't ostracize people for acting like kids. I'm not saying get totally uncontrollable, but a few beers never hurt anyone unless they were thrown at you. This isn't a lecture from a 30-something year old, these are kind words of advice from a 16 year old boy who has never smoked, had gratuitous sex, and only gets drunk on the rare occasion. Before I started acting my age, people found me boring, and frankly insufferable.
I don't know if that's what you want, but I certainly didn't enjoy being anally moral all the time, making myself feel better by saying "but I'm in the right". I'm much happier now, having tried it, and actually accepted by my entire year of peers.
Your over-reacting, They'll be fine and its not like anyone is forcing you to do anything you don't want to do... So I really don't see the problem