Is it moral to date my friends ex?

[Ares Tyr]

Butt Sex.
No Lube.
No Mercy.

















You god damn traitor.

 

[Gawspel]

It's fine as long as you tell your friend. It's just common courtesy.

 

[nokelso]

Make sure they're both chill about it.
In my experience, I have never really seen this work out well. Girls play guys, and guys play girls. Make sure you both really want this, and don't do it behind your friend's back if you still want his friendship.

 

[LilGherkin]

2 month rule for dating friend's ex.

Is that a rule or did you pull that out of your ass? Only because I've never heard of that.

Personally, I say go for it. If he gets mad, then that just means that he's not over her yet, or he's just jealous. Either way, his problem.

It's a rule me and my friends have drawn a conclusion to, no one was satisfied with the idea of 6 months of down time if you wanna make the move.

 

[inflamessoilwork]

Go for it, I'm engaged to my friends ex, score.

 

[thiosk]

Its highschool.

Every emotion is amplified by 1000, and within six months of being out of that place, you'll realize not a god damn bit of it mattered.

Therefore, I say go for it.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Depends, if he broke up with her, it might be okay

If it's the other way around, your a backstabbing, good for nothing sack of Crap.

So yeah, it depends

 

[akapellah21]

Out of personal experience:
My friend broke up with his girlfriend Nicole after a year-long relationship and she came to me for comfort. She told me that she thought of me as her friend rather than "friend of relationship". I started to have problems with my girlfriend at the time and nicole and I became closer, and then soon best friends. It came to the day where she broke my heart and Nicole caught me and we had a "night" together. We never dated and we both saw other people. Nicoles ex (my friend) are still great buddies and we are shooting a movie together for film school next weekend. Nicole and I are thinking about dating and my friend has no problem about it.
If you feel like you really like her, go for it

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Eventually my "ex-best friend" saw the error in his ways and has tried to reconcile, but...its just not the same anymore.

And now you have learned the wisdom of the Bro Code--things just won't be the same anymore, so you don't do it in the first place.

The wisdom of some stupid made-up code?

If it's stupid, how does it possess wisdom? And so what if it's made up? So is marriage, but would anyone call it stupid if someone got upset over adultery?

You have to be joking. The fact that people cling to this "Code" is ludicrous in and of itself.

Okay--we disagree. Now let's talk about why we disagree.

If everyone was this way, nobody would find someone that interested them. I am far better off with my girlfriend than I ever would have been with that "friend".

Sometimes you do run into Black Swan events. Most of the time though, the code works, much like the code women have where you don't sleep with your sister's ex-boyfriend.

The fact that this upset him to such a degree shows just how much of a "friend" he was.

Does it? I mean, if someone is upset, they're upset. That's an emotional reaction. People can't control those, so I don't see how it makes him less of a friend.

Maybe you meant to say he didn't handle his emotions well, but, maybe it's because you two are not experienced enough in the ways of the world yet to realize that it's not a person's emotions that determine how good a 'friend' they are, but how they handle them. And that everyone in this world is flawed and that if someone is a good enough friend that the only thing that causes them to act poorly is a romantic entanglement, well, they're still a pretty good friend.

Love is a powerful thing. It really doesn't say anything about a person that they're upset that their best friend is going out with their ex.

Go ahead, follow your "Bro Code". Pass up the love of your life if you want to. I'm not about to do that.

Hey--if you've got some way of knowing who the love of your life is as opposed to someone you love but will someday break up with, then mind sharing it with the rest of us?

No, Cheeze. I really can't stand you, and in the past I've promised myself to never "discuss" something with you ever again simply because you infuriate me to no end with all of your so called wisdom and logical ways of thinking.

You have the answer for everything, you really do. You take pride in thinking you do, and this pride shows. You break down people's posts, and attempt to make them sound like some blabbering fool, rather then sit back and think that maybe, that person has had something happen to them in the past that leads them to think this way.

I called it a stupid made-up code, and, get this, mocked the idea of it even having any sort of wisdom. I also figured that somehow, you were going to throw some clever little aside about marriage, and how you think you're just so damn smart making an analogy to it! Bravo, you compared the Bro Code to Marriage.

Most of the time this so called code "works" because everyone is too dumb to think for themselves.

And perhaps my friend didn't know how to handle his emotions. He overreacted, I know he did, but I wasn't about to kiss and make up with him. I had better things to do, newer things to enjoy, rather then sitting in his room watching him play WCIII. You don't even know half the story, so you really have no place to say much about what happened between us. I wasn't the only one that thought he was being ridiculous, even months after what happened.

To try and say that I am not experienced enough is not something you have any place to say either. This is the attitude that you've always had. You are just so damn stuck up in your elitist ways that it makes it impossible to talk to you.

As for my comment about following the Bro Code, since you didn't catch what I meant, because I didn't spell it out: Life is about taking chances, and if you cling to some ridiculous "Bro Code" forever, you might miss your chance to meet the love of your life.

 

[Zildjin81]

Oh god did I misread the thread title.

OT: Sure. Why not? They broke up. Now it's your turn.

 

[sizzle949]

Anyone who says 'Bros before Hoes' is an idiot and I will hunt those people down to the ends of the world and beyond and shove various types of grenade down their throats before stepping back and allowing my pet wolves tear them limb from limb, just as the grenades explode. Oh, and I'll make sure acid is dripping on them during he ordeal as well, for good measure.

This is probably the smartest thing I've seen yet to be written in this thread. But OT: As was mentioned before but I don't feel like finding and quoting all the people who already wrote this, just go ahead and do it. If your friend has a problem with it and gets pissed at you, then why the hell are you friends with someone so petty as to get angry at you for dating his ex? I dated my friend's ex once, and he said he was happy for both of us. We're still friends to this day and there was no real change in our friendship. Had he given me any shit about it, I'd have told him to get a life and go find a new girlfriend instead of bitching about who your ex is dating.

 

[Asciotes]

I say talk to him first. If he's a good friend, he should be fine with it.

 

[nicholaxxx]

depends on who bork up with who;
she break up with him - give it two years(I'm serious)
he break up with her - give it whenever she feels/seems ready

 

[jasoncyrus]

Well obviously you ont like her very much if yu are letting "morals" get in your way.

If you friend doesn't like it tough cookies for him.

 

[G-Dragon]

no. if i dated someone and after we broke up my friend dated them it would piss me off.

 

[Deadlydorito]

how about you ask your friend directly ffs. thats all you have to do.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Finally, I can sleep at night now knowing you've ignored me. Now whether or not that was sarcasm about how these boards are getting better every day, was not needed.

Back to the topic at hand, I'd like a response from the Topic Creator at some point to see what advice he'll take! =P