Death God said:
So I have this thing about dating where I won't date anyone who has had sex with another man or who smokes and/or does drugs.
That's...quite a thing to have.
Death God said:
Call me old school or call me weird, but it is just part of my moral system. And today, during my sociology class, we got on the topic of sex and dating. I told the class my stand on such and they all chuckled. When I ask what was funny, someone told me that the chance of finding a girl like that now-a-days is almost impossible and that I should just give up on it.
...wow. I'm not sure how it's possible that you were so out of touch with high school in general that none of this occurred to you.
Death God said:
And it hit me, every person in my class, which ranged from 9th grade to 12th grade, that everyone had drank beer illegally,
Or been to a country with a lower drinking age. Or had a drink at home, under parental supervision. Or accepted church wine. Or any number of other things that would involve imbibing alcohol that aren't "[drinking] beer illegally."
Oh, or booze that isn't beer. That, too.
Death God said:
What, no cigarettes on the list? How did chewing tobacco get on the list and they didn't?
Death God said:
or has had sex multiple times.
Or, you know, possibly just once. Because as you might not know,
you stop being a virgin after your first time.
Death God said:
I could not believe it and even my teacher was not shocked in the least to hear that. He was actually agreeing with it.
Yeah. Because he's more in-tune with today's youth than you are. Which is kind of sad, considering that you're supposed to be a member of today's youth.
Death God said:
So basically, what I am as is, are there people who didn't illegally drink, smoke or who hadn't had sex during their high school years?
Look, man, to be entirely honest, this situation is entirely your own fault. It'd be one thing if you wanted someone who didn't smoke. That's not hard to find. It'd be another if you wanted someone who didn't drink. That's not terribly difficult to find, either. It's still not even too big a reach to want someone who had never had sex before.
But here's the two things that screw you: the first is simple demographics. Each time you add another condition, you narrow your dating pool further and further. All three of those combined covers
a lot of any given high school population, and some of the people who don't fall into those categories are people you wouldn't want to date anyway.
The second thing: your attitude. You've somehow come to the conclusion that if someone has ever had a drink, ever smoked a cigarette, or been in a relationship before meeting you, it retroactively destroys any desirable traits they might have.
The funniest part? It's only going to get worse. A lot worse.
Hilariously worse. You're in highschool, right? I don't think it's a stretch to assume that you won't find your purity-paragon bride until after college, and guess what happens towards the end of college? That's right: alcohol and cigarettes are actually
legal. Anyone who didn't partake based on a legal obligation (already a minuscule number) won't even consider a relationship the holier-than-thou weirdo who claims they can never be together because he once saw her drink a glass of wine.
chadachada123 said:
You know, in hindsight, I had similar feelings myself in high school. I didn't drink until after graduation, didn't smoke pot for the first time for another year, and another year later, just this summer, had my first foray into a hallucinogen (shrooms). In high school, I refused to date girls that drank or did anything else, and tried to date virgins where possible.
...look, man, I think I understand your intention, but for most people, you would end up coming across as "The guy who only goes after virgins." And being that guy isn't a good thing.
chadachada123 said:
I'm 20 now, and boy have I changed a lot in just two years, let alone throughout high school. I used to think that dating a girl two grades different was not just strange but abhorrent, but now I realize that age is mostly irrelevant so long as love (or at least, understanding that it's not love but just sex, whichever the case may be) is there.
Yep. That's how getting older works. When you've got more years under your belt, two years is literally a less statistically relevant stretch of time than it was when you were younger. If I remember correctly, the average American male ends up marrying a woman roughly four years his junior.